Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and he has never had a threesome and neither have I, we are in love. I have been trying to talk him into it for a long time and he just now agreed to it. But the problem is that since he's never had it before I dont know if he will change afterwards, like what if he wants it all the time? what if he wants her more than me? I really want to have a threesome with him but I'm scared he will change... What should I do? all answers are appreciated!
2007-07-16 20:02:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's good to add a little spice to your relationship but, I don't think that should involve another person. It just creates a problem and there's no turning back. You can only blame yourself. I think you should spice it up in anoyher way.
2007-07-16 20:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by XX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that he will change. No one, not even he, can predict how much or in what way. There are some things you can do to keep it from getting out of hand:
1. Set the rules with both of them before the events start, and make sure the rules are strict enough that you can stop things if the rules start to slip but before anything happens that could hurt you.
2. *You* pick the girl. (Or he picks the guy.) Pick someone you trust and that you can depend on to keep up her part of the rules.
3. Go slow and make it fun for everyone.
2007-07-20 19:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it is the guy trying to convince the girl to a threesome. If you are having to beg him to do this then you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Plus you know him best, just talk to him and tell him your concerns. I wish my lady was insistent as you are.
2007-07-17 03:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so possessive then have the threesome with another man. You, your BF and another man. So is three. No problem. Now you BF will worry that you may prefer the other man.
2007-07-17 03:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by rajan l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts dont do it. Threesomes can really hurt relationship's, you will be allowing another woman to have the man you love ... is it really that important?
2007-07-17 03:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can say to him: My dear, actually I mean I want some threesome with you and another guy...
2007-07-17 03:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you initiate him into it, and he has in fact refused before, then you are responsible for its consequences.
If he happens to enjoy it, you don't blame him. He did not even ask for it.
If you are worried, don't do it.
2007-07-17 03:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give it a shot if you would like to explore this.
Before anything you should speak with him, ask him what you guys should do if he gets obsessed with it.
2007-07-17 03:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Lizzay Shizzay*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one beard in my hand better than 100 on a tree
2007-07-17 03:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by jammal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts, chances are you will regret it later.
2007-07-17 03:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋