Personally it wouldn't bother me that much I don't think, Your kids are your kids, a daughters friend was so upset the other night because they told their parents they were gay & within 30 minutes they were dissowned & homeless. It must be so hard when you lose the support of your family, hopefully they will accept the fact that their child is gay & 'wont grow out of it' the only rule I insist on is no necking in my company but then I apply that rule to everybody, gays or straights it makes me feel uncomfortable, hold hands, cuddle not a problem but if you want to play tonsil tennis or 'lipsin' then take it out of my company please.My sons girl sat on his lap & started gyrating & all sorts, he jumped up so quick she was on the floor rubbing her butt before she knew it. He told her it was so disrespectfull in front of parents & that if she did it again they were finished!! he is really old fashioned like that, bless lol. Thanks
2007-07-16 19:42:27 · 21 answers · asked by Lita M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
"All queers are going to burn in hell"....well that was the "OLD ME". The "me" that was condition to think like that due to popular beliefs. I have observed the reaction of society. I heard my parents and saw their expressions during my younger and adult life. --All not exactly favorable to an individual that is gay. However, as an adult, and without compromising my values, I am straight. I do have some gay cousins that have been nothing but loving to me. But when I look at the sin of the world, no one sin is any greater than the next sin. Be it racism, child abuse, lying, destroying nature, dishonoring your parents, cheating on your spouse, or a government that lies to its' people,etc....SIN IS SIN!! If one of my sons came home and said he was gay, I would hurt deeply. I want them to be and remain straight. However, as my child. MY child--my flesh, by blood...I would still love him. Most people worry about what the neighbors, other family members or co-workers are going to say instead of embracing the gay one with love and acceptance. That causes further rebellion and family division. I would rather have a devoted gay son to take care of me in my old age than a straight unloving alienated son that throws me in a back room or in a remote nursing home and never look back. We must mind how we treat others. Statistic shows we all have a border line gender crossing that is very thin. Great question.
2007-07-16 20:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't care I would love my child no matter what, I created then, I gave birth to them and that kid is my baby no matter what. If they had a partner (women or man) I would love them too and treat them as my son or daughter..just as long as they were in a healthy relationship. I have a lot of gay friends-my best friends and they are the most loving and caring people I know. I have seen what they have to go through and it's not fair sometimes but today's society is so much more accepting. My best friend finally told his mom he was gay when he came out. He was so afraid but he did it. She started crying her eyes out and he was afraid she was mad or upset. He said what's wrong!!! She said Thank God I thought something was seriously wrong with you. Now I know why you have been this way for so many years (hiding everything, displaying negative behaviors) he was hiding a huge secret and she was afraid of what it could be. When she found out he was gay she was happy that her baby was OK!!! He was healthy and safe and that is all that mattered to her. We all need to be accepting of our differences!!!! Also I would like everybody to know that being gay is NOT a choice!!! I justify that by this thought!! When did you sit down and weigh out the pros and cons of being gay?? When your 15 with a notepad and a pen? If gay people choose to be gay--then wouldn't straight people choose to be straight!!??!! It's crazy people!!! Why would you choose to be persecuted your entire life?? Love your kids no matter who they are!!! Love your friends no matter who they are!!! Love your siblings no matter who they are?? Wouldn't you want that for yourself!!! PS. I'm straight-have a boyfriend and we welcome everybody into our home!!!! Just as long as your not a murder!
2016-05-19 23:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. I consider myself a reasonably compassionate man, but it is hard to tell how you would react until it actually happened to you. If it was my daughter, it would be dissappointing but I would get over it. Now if it is my son, that is a different story. I could not be around him if I knew he was having sex with men. Not because I hate gays or because I think being gay is wrong, but because I just could not handle it. I would blame myself. I would give him 2 options. Join the clergy and practice abstinence or live his own life away from me. It would be tough and I am not saying I would disown him. I would still give him money and let him come over once a year but I am not sure if I could look at him the same knowing that he, you know, has sex with other men, kind of disgusting. Sorry to offend any gay pride peoples, I love you all. Some of the nicest people I have ever met are gay and I'm totally OK with your lifestyle, life is tough you know. Sometimes I am not the man I wish I was. I am guilty.
2007-07-16 20:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't care--you can't change who someone is.
Anyone that gets angry or disowns a kid based on them being gay never really loved their child anyway.
And to those that say it's not healthy--many, many years of psychyatrists have proved that love is healthy in one form or the next--not just straight love.
Gay people deserve to have the right to live as they choose, without persecution from others. We straight people aren't harassed by gays, so why should we harass them about their lifestyle if they don't bother us about ours?
The way I see it, if any parent turned away a kid because he was gay, they are heartless and they are what is wrong with humanity. Have a heart--and have real love for your families--not the fake love all of the homophobes are spreading.
2007-07-16 19:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by mathaowny 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course I wouldn't have a problem. Alot of parents pay lip service to the expression "...doing what's right for my son/daughter." Well acceptance and understanding, putting aside your own selfish wants and desires concerning your son/daughter has to be more important than causing more hurt and grief by turning them away!
**Add** I would also like to thank Ree for the honest and straightforward answer.
2007-07-16 20:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 24 and told me he was gay. I responded by saying, let's go out and have a good dinner to celebrate. Makes no difference to me as my son is a part of me. I don't debate whether it is genetic or environmental. The fact is as it is and I'm not going to try to change him.
I don't think anyone should show physical affection in public. I think that is for the home. I am no more disgusted by strait people who do this as those who are gay. However, it if is accepted for strait people to do this, then my gay son has the same right to kiss his boyfriend in public as the strait couple has.
2007-07-16 19:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Boomer 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would be happy that they had found a way to be loved there is not enought love in the world
I have some gay friends and ive even taken them in when they got throw out
i told them i dont care who you sleep with as long as they want it and they are of an age to conaent leagaly what do i have to say a bout it ? good luck
you sons ex dose sound disrespectfull to me good job you have raised your son well
2007-07-16 19:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by warmup001 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't bother me at all, they'd still be the same person that I had brought up, and I would love them just the same.I would insist on no open 'over the top' displays of affection, but then I'd insist on it whether they were straight or gay.
2007-07-17 00:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I am a parent of a child who came out as a bi-sexual.
I can tell you, that I pretty much already figured that out before she told me, because I'm not blind.
I love my child the same as I always have.
All I really want for her is to be happy and successful in whatever she chooses to do.
2007-07-16 19:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Obviously devastated.
I would expect my children to be normal and have a healthy lifestyle.
Societys acceptance of this depravity has encouraged itto the point where the loony left actually celebrate this.
I dont go out queer bashing at night,I dont really care one way or the other about what a few others get up to,so long as they dont shove it in my face(excuse the pun).Homosexuality should go back into the closet.Perhaps then,the church would be allowed to continue its noble efforts to find families for orphaned and unwanted children.Perhaps then ,homosexual couples wouldnt outrageously,have the law's blessing to foster children,denying the children the opportunity for a genuine healthy upbringing.
2007-07-16 21:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋