my husband went out w co-workers, and 1 female coworker came?

Question

to my house to hang out, this girl was here for 4 hours and she spoke to me about things but she talks alot about how she thinks my husband is so nice and cool and how she thinks hes the best looking of all the other male co workers I dont like it very much and it seems that they get along too good cant help to feel jealous please help.

Answer 1

Let me tell you what happened to me, my husband and i had a Christmas party and my husband invited everyone he worked with including all the girls he works with. I notice how he never left where the girls were sitting all night but still didn't think to much of it because the way they look if you know what i mean. About two months later my husband started going out after work with his co-workers or should i say the girls from works. He started doing this once a week then twice a week then every night. He'd come home 2;00 AM and get up 6:00 am to go to work. Needless to say i got feed up and said what is up with you going out with the girls from your office.He told me that their husbands was always with them( lie) they were married but none of the husband were ever with them come to find out. Another thing everyone left the bar around 9:00 pm but the one who wasn't married which by the way was the ugliest of them all and older 10 years older then my husband and for that reason i didn't think anything of it. In my mind i'm thinking no way would my husband do anything to hurt me specially with her. Well 3 months later my husband dropped a bomb on me he said he had been thinking of moving out for some time because as he put it he did not want our marriage to get any worse then it was ( by my standards our marriage was fine except for him going out ) I was devastated but did he care no he moved out 5 months later got his own apartment two block from our home.To make a very long story short he lived there for 2 1/2 years .We started dating about 3 months after he moved out it was exciting and fun we were having a good time to get like we use to before marriage. Well like i said he lived there for 2 1/2 years then he came back home to me. I was putting his clothes away and guess what i saw in between his shirts a card from yep the co-worker it said how she couldn't understand why he came back to me when she knew he didn't love me so why come back home. I'm telling you all this because i never thought that my husband would do that to me not in a million years. We don't no our men or what they think and what they do when they leave for work or just go out for a walk or drive. Watch her and him don't let him with her or anyone from work unless you are with him. You better believe i watch now what he does and with whom.

Answer 2

I think that you have been pretty nice about this hole thing, He has alot of nerve telling you to get over it. I think that you need to let him know how you feel and what he had done to you was wrong, let him know that the last thing you needed to hear before giving birth to your seventh child was that he was getting board in your marriage. I also think that you should tell him that he should of thought about what he really wanted before he married you and had SEVEN kids, your husband needs to know that he can't lay something like this on you during that most important time of both of you lives and then expect you to forget about as if it never happened. Its time for you to get back your identity and friends, its time for you to start living again and not just being there for him when he wants you. I know your kids have beenyour main focus for many years now and with a new baby it will be hard, but you need some time to go out and have your time as a person and not a mom or a wife. Let your husband know that you will not be his stepping stone nor will you be a matt for him to walk all over when he wants, let him know that he hurt you in a bad way and you just can't get over it. As to the quesion that you had ask, tell him that you do not want him to go to the party with this co worker that he has feelings for. Let him know that the way to get your marriage back on track is to think about seeing a marriage councilor, and then you will see if your marriage will work. good luck and stay stronge.

Answer 3

Lets think possitive. It is very natural that a coworker admire your hubby. That could be true statements with out any hidden meanings or attachments.

Just think this. You are with your husband during morning and evenings. Night you sleep. Effectively you stay with him for 5 to 6 hours. But a coworker stays with him for more than 8 hours a day. At home men (also women) show their possitive as well as negative sides. but at works, one shows the possitive sides more. This can also attract a coworker to admire, with out an attachment of any other kind.

Or she might have thought that if she admires him, you might like her. (Sounds crazy ah....). Think and watch before you jump for any conclusions. At times coworkers are (REAL) friends than spouses and they move much freely because they are together for a longer time with out much of distractions like children and planning for future.

Answer 4

Well this is from my experience and I learned it the hard way....no matter how much you love your husband, you cook for him, you clean for him, you make him lunch with cute little notes telling how much you love him.........if he wants to cheat, he will cheat so there is no point in being jealous. Its a natural feeling cause lord knows I was jealous but then he left me for a co-worker at 4yrs of marriage while pregnant with our first child.........so now I can careless..... no point in stressing myself out :)

Answer 5

If you can, hire a private investigator to have him followed. Don't feel guilty about this. A relationship is an investment and you have the right to protect that investment. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

It's possible she is already having an affair and is sort of leaking it out in the hopes you'll find out.

Sounds crazy, but a lot of women in affairs make sure the wives find out.

Answer 7

well i dont blame you for getting a lil jealous sounds like she might have a lil crush but i dont think its serious or why would she be talking like that to his wife.. that being said just keep an eye on her anyway women is crazy nowadays

Answer 8

insecure are we, you need to start occupying your husbands time with chords and family stuff and sex so he does not have time to be socializing with this female coworker it will only lead to trouble so stop it now. You need to get busy on ways to keep him busy lots of sex plenty of sex and anything else you can think of.

Answer 9

Hmm....... well, do you trust your husband? Does he run around with them a lot? Is he out real late at night? If you have no problems with him, don't worry about her. She's stupid for telling you that stuff and immature.

Answer 10

its okay for u to feel jealous I would too! But remember hes married to YOU and you're the one he comes home to everynite. Keep an eye on the b itch tho....I wouldnt trust her!