Today society has different values from the ol' days, of course. What is your personal choice for this? At what age is it consider allright to have sex (NO paedophilic answer, please!)?
Personally, how long you must get to know each other until you decide to marry him/her? With or without having sex?
2007-07-16 19:11:12 · 15 answers · asked by Professor Franklin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My personal opinion, and its different for everyone, but I waited until I was out of school, and able to support myself. I really didn't want to have to drop out of college because of an accidental pregnancy, so I just avoided sex until I graduated. People tell me I was paranoid about it, but better safe then sorry!
But yes, you absolutely can love someone without having sex with them! Same with marriage. I know people who are very in love, but have decided not to get married.
As for a timeline before marriage, my husband and I dated for 11 months before he proposed. And then it was another 7 months before we got married! I don't think whether or not you're having sex matters at all.
2007-07-16 19:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, there are still plenty of young people who
have the pride and belief in themselves as well as the courage to wait until they marry. There are still a few that
consider that what they offer to the person they marry is a gift
that they probably couldn't get from too many of the opposite
sex these days. Waiting til you're thru with highschool is im-
portant. Having sex and often getting the girl pregnant, is
something no girl or couple should have to go thru. Being
forced to marry as parents will often do with a pregnant
daughter still today, is a jail sentence for the couple. I have
known some couples in the past that married too young for
that reason. And they felt forced to stay together for the
child. And then another one came along. I have a neighbor
right now, pregnant with her second child, and she's still of
highschool age, and working part time in a grocery store.
And she's living with a black kid who works part time or not
at all. So she's basically supporting the three of them. What
kind of a life is that?
There is no set age. Just maturity that counts. You can be
of age, and still not have a clue as to what you need to do
with your life or having the responsibility of having children
brought into this unsafe world of ours. So always wear
protection, and make your significant other do the same.
When the time is right for sex, you and the other person
should have the knowlege of protection for unwanted children
and unwanted disease. Until then, you aren't ready for sex.
2007-07-17 02:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a question that many people would have different views on. I know it's TOTALLY possible to love someone before you marry them. I mean WHY do you think you get married to begin with? My personal opinion on how long it should be before you decide to marry someone is 2 years. I think at that point, you know all their bad habits, or most of them anyway and you know their personality and who they really are. As for the right age for sex, I think there isn't any designated right age, although I would hope that they are at LEAST like 16 or 17. Especially with kids these days, you got 12 year olds getting pregnant etc...It's actually pretty disgusting. I truly feel that if someone is mature enough both physically and emotionally and TOTALLY educated on sex, it should be okay. And by the time someone is all of the above they're usually well into high school. My thing is, if you're gonna have sex be educated and smart about it. Kids are going to do it regardless.
2007-07-17 02:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love somebody without having sex. Sex is just one way to express your love for a person. However, sex is not love itself. In fact, you can have sex and not experience loving feelings at all. I think love without sex is probably the purest form. Love comes at different times in every relationship - it is something that only the people involved can determine. After that, sex is up to you. You can wait until marriage or not. You also asked what is the appropriate age to have sex. I think as long as you are an adult (18). However, this is not always true. People mature at different ages so in reality this also depends on the individuals. Sexual compatibility is extremely important in a relationship, but so is communication, respect, and common goals.
2007-07-17 02:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is complete possible, that is true rare pure love. This type of love is base on the person's mind and soul. I am not going to tell you that when sex is added the love is no stronger because this is not true it makes the love stronger on a different level (because you incorporated lovemaking). The idea of marriage will come at the right moment ( I know you don't understand that now but it will when you have that moment when it is you and your special person, you will truly know that this is thr person that you want to spend the rest of your life with) If you can share that special moment together then go for it.
2007-07-23 05:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by soldierlady226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman of 27 and have to be honest. I am a little ashamed to say it but sex is a big component of any relationship, I would not be able to marry proir to finding out if there is chemistry there. I Do wish that I lived in the old days. And I used to believe in waiting, maybe it was my ex that mest me up. But at 19 I lost it to him, and thought that we would marry and he would be my one and only. One of his friends convinced him that it was wrong to marry a woman that had never been with another. We eventually broke up and I moved on to bigger and better things. I realized what I would not have otherwise. And he 8 years later would still die to have me back.
2007-07-17 02:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sex or physical attraction is about 12-15 month chemical and usually the cause of the attraction in the first place, after that its the compromise that takes over, so yes, love can conquer all, but naturally, there is the attraction that brought you there in the first place.
2007-07-22 23:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband were best friends beore we started dating and actually fell in love with each other before we started dating. i think sex is not everything and is not important. we got married one year to the date of starting to date i know it seems quick but thats what we wanted. we couldnt imagine anybody else. and as far as the right age to have sex will religiously not until your married but i know now adays that doesnt really happen but i think 18 is a great age your out of high school and just starting your adult journey i waited and am glad i did
2007-07-23 03:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by JOELEANE W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important in married life but before marriage it is not necessary that you have sex with your fiancee. if you can wait till marriage thats the better.
Well, for the right age to have sex... there is no law as such you can have sex when you are in this or that age...but the thing to remember is that you should not force your partner and you must be ready for it. Both of you must be comfortable and feel free to do it.
2007-07-17 02:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by aqua_da_7th 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
human heart has near limitless capacity for love, you can love a country, an idea, a person long dead, children and grandchildren, etc. It's not the same as marriage at all!
If you think that sex and love are the same, you have much to learn about life.
2007-07-23 16:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋