2007-07-16 18:47:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I spanked my Son
But now that I am a grandma....
I watch my grandson everyday and talking to him in a stern voice and telling him I am upset with him and I will not tolerate his behavior, works for me.
My grandson is being raised by my son whom is a single daddy.
Anyway if talking doesn't work sitting him on the couch for a few minutes usually works too.
You really need to start when they are young. I talk to my grandson like I would anyone else and don't use baby talk.
~faith
2007-07-16 18:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The first step is a, "Life Lesson Talk" (the kids look forward to those like a root canal procedure) where they are told what they did wrong, asked why they did it, and then forced to listen to the ramifications of bad decisions.
If that has little impact, then they lose whatever it is at that age they cherish the most (bedtime stories, computer time, freedom, etc.). In most cases, the message is sent with the loss of privileges.
The most important thing is that they are forewarned about the consequences of bad choices so it's not like they're being punished for something they didn't know was wrong.
2007-07-17 02:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not mind knowing the answer to this myself!! I have 9 yr who is starting to talk back and not want to clean her room!! I have never spanked her only time outs!! Great news I bought a book at Chapters book store called 1- 2-3 steps to parenting! It is real book that is easy to read and has great was of instilling discipline without hitting them!! I just started and I am chapter 3 and she was not impressed whenI asked her to clean her for the third time that I went in with the garbage bag and started packing LOL
2007-07-17 01:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by saralen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..there are many things that you can do...however you must remain firm on enforcing these practices.
1. place him /her on time out..(alone on his/her room by themselves,where there is no tv..or radio)..this will give them
a chance to think about the outcome of each time they mess up,
also you could deny them purchasing such and such items as (toys,gadgets,etc) that they want,..and should instill in them
the initiative for them to be productive/helpful as they are
growing...for if you do not say anything to them when they young about them getting to do something.....do not expect that they are gonna listen to you when they 12 or 13 and you tell them to take out trash or mow lawn..or wash the car, make their bed, help mom..etc..
when all this time it has been you or mom doing it....got it ?
basically if you want a spoiled child ..do not tell him to do a thing...got it ?...hope so !!
2007-07-17 02:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i believe in hitting your kids sure you could send them to the corner or talk to them or whatever but as a kid everything goes in one ear and out the other and if all you do is give them a time out then as they get older into there teen age years it will only get worse so my advise hit your kids let them know why there getting hit so that way they don't do it again some might agree some might not this is just my opinion
2007-07-17 01:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bootylicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I spank mine and I dont feel any bad for it.. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine..
besides my 1st child is extremely hyper and sometimes when we are in public and he zooms off and out into danger, a simple "Darling, Mommy doesnt think you should run off" isnt enough.. A good old spank on the bottom gets his attention.. .. Id rather he be an alive child with a spanked bottom than a dead child with a saved bottom..
2007-07-17 01:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mintee 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i dont have kids yet.. but my parents used to put me & my borther & sister in the corner (corner of the room) and we had to sit there with our legs crossed sitting up straight until we were allowed to come out again. when we were very naughty dad used to also make us put our hands on our head while in the corner.. .god is was annoying.. lol... but worked.. except for the day he forgot about us ando ur 2 cousins.. we sat in the corner for about 5 hours until my mum and aunty came home!!!
2007-07-17 01:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is my answer, I ground them, and I take away their TV time, computer moment as well as their ice cream. I tell my kids why I do what I do? Then I punish them as a group not an individual. It works well with my children and now they are in high school and colleges.
2007-07-17 01:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You talk with them.. you demonstrate HOW to do the things you need or want them to do.
You listen to them and you love them.
If they respect you.. they will learn to respect themselves and their life will be very directed.
2007-07-17 17:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the olde "stand in the corner" always works
2007-07-17 01:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by thenewmadmax 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋