I was reading on the news about that senator, and his wife said she forgave him. I was wondering what would you do? honestly would you stay and try and work things out? Are you unsure? Or would you leave? Also please tell me if you are a man or woman and the duration of your relationship. Thanks! by the way I will post what I would do after the other answers are posted. I do not want to bias anyone.
2007-07-16 18:45:28 · 13 answers · asked by Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No children.. run far run fast.. with children involved It depends first you have to take a long look at your relationship to see if there are problems there that you could work on to prevent it happening again. There may never be an excuse for cheating but there are reasons, (sorry women I know you hate that one but it's the truth). You have to decide if this was a one time screw up or a pattern/character flaw. When you break it down like that it makes the decision a little clearer. One time deal in a bad relationship where you have some responsibility.. you stay and work it out. A character flaw where there is a pattern of bad behavior with no reason.. run fast ... run far...
2007-07-16 18:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married 23 years, female and have been cheated on. Never cheated, never wanted to. Still together 4 years post affair. Before this I would have sworn that any cheating and he would be out the door so fast his head would spin. But then I could have also sworn that he loved me enough never to hurt me that way. I believed we had it all, a good marriage, 4 kids, a home of our own. We were doing well. But there came a point in his life, where he was turning 40 and he went through his Mid-life Crisis.
He did the lot. He dumped his job of 17 years, he took holidays for himself (no kids, no me) and he had his affair. He wanted to move far away, with no job in sight - he just wanted DIFFERENT.
Fortunately he came to his senses, and realised he already had what he wanted, right here at home. But not before a lot of hurt, a lot of bad feelings and a lot of damage to undo.
But if he ever did it again, there would be no coming home.
2007-07-17 02:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best things about a good marriage is that you truly want the other person to be happy. If my wife felt she needed to sleep with another man or woman to get that happiness, I would be okay with that. We made an agreement when we first got married that if that ever came up and we felt we needed to have an affair we would ask each other first. We have been married 10 years and everyone thinks we still act like newly weds and neither one of us has been tempted to have an affair. I guess that my point is that we trust each other completely because we set up the proper bounderies in the beginning. If she ever broke my trust I would leave her immediately. Without trust there is never going to be a decent relationship. I am a male married for 10 years, dated for 3 years prior to marriage... Hope this helps.
2007-07-17 01:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by juan_a_climax 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Im a 23-yr old female, More than 4 years in a relationship, but not married. Will leave my bf if i found out he's cheating on me - no hesistation here.
2007-07-17 01:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Nicey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wife for 18 yrs.
I told him that I don't think I can handle if he ever cheated on me - porn is the same.
I would hope that I could forgive, but I did warn him in the beginning, that if he does.... to just send me the checks 'cause I'm outta here! So far, so good...married and going strong.
2007-07-17 01:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
male, and so many people have lived this i mean millions live this so i would say just take the answers from those that have actually done it everyone says oh i would never take them back after cheating but what really happens is a lot different when you actually have the situation to deal with.
2007-07-17 02:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship for 8 years. he cheated on me 3 times that i know of. yes i forgave him.
now that i know better....hell no, if i get cheated on again hes out the door.
2007-07-17 01:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by April 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im female and i have been married for 8 years and if my husband were to ever cheat on me i would probably want to take a break to clear my head because naturally i would be so hurt but after sometime i would probably forgive him and want to work things out :)
2007-07-17 01:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually people tend to be jugmental on this issue. Anyway, i will find out what had made it to happen and if part of the issue was contributed from my end, i will work it out.
2007-07-17 01:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm male,i don't get mad, i get even, so, i'll gather enough evidence, file a case against them, collect all the payment for damages they inflicted, ban them from having a share in conjugal property and custody of the kids.
or i can use the evidences, blackmail them, and keep the money for myself or even connive with my spouse, a nice scam.
2007-07-17 02:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by 36 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋