me and this married man are friends. We have been friends for 3 or 4 weeks. And he recently told me he loved me. Should i believe him.
2007-07-16 18:05:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no no man he is just going to use you.how can he be in love in that short of time. and what about his wife.if you hook up with him don't you think hes going to do that to you. how about his kids .just blow him off. don't mess with that crap
2007-07-16 18:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I know I am a little young to be answering a question of this level of severity and contingance, but This married guy told his wife that he loved her too - Love is such an amazing thing - it is a verb, most people think it is a noun, in the idea catagory. Like this wonderful feeling just sprang on them and is there to stay between two people like glue. But it is more than that. Love is hard work. Like running is - I hate the hard work of jogging up hills but after a while my butt WILL get smaller. when you are in love the awesome emotions are the product - of some serious butt-reducing hard work. I like the bible passage "Love is patient, Love is kind, It is not envious, it does not boast, it is never selfish or haughty or rude, it does not demand its own way, it is not irratable or touchy, . . . . (the list goes on). . . . ."If you love someone you will be loyal to them no matter what the cost" - THAT is some CRAZY jogging - that is tough work and seemingly impossible. If I tried to run a one hundred mile marathon after three weeks of practice jogging I would probably keel over and die.
So here is what I think - this guy who said he loved you (lets not forget he also said he loved his wife) must have given up with the whole love thing somewhere in his married existence and I would not expect much more from him for you who he just recently met. Love like that - the kind that can forgive the whole toilet seat thing, and the shaving razor thing, it doesn't happen in a week - it takes hard jogging everyday, and this guy gave up once already - you are worth more than someone who is going to give up when the going gets tough and his legs are tired from running if you can track my messed up metaphor.
2007-07-17 01:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ledreru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have spent enough time together or have known each other long enough for either of you to make such a serious statement. If he's married you better believe he's not serious! He may love the fun he has with you, how you make him come out of his married man routine, but in essence he married his wife...not you.
Remember that men tend to say anything to get physically close with women. Sex is always on their minds.
If he was separated from his wife or if he was going through a divorce, I still wouldn't believe him because he's not emotionally stable. He doesn't know what he wants. Don't fall victim to his decietful tactics...many women have shed endless tears for the same reasons.
2007-07-17 01:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Calixica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a making of a cheater!!!!! 3-4 WEEKS, are you kidding me? Have you ever heard of lust? and why are you now becoming friends with a married man. If he can cheat on his wife, the one he promised to love till death, then I really don't see how saying I love you after 4 weeks could really be meant.
2007-07-17 01:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does'n matter if you believe him or not. Walk away ! You can not be friends with a married man who "loves". He crossed a line when he told you that and you must avoid him.
2007-07-17 01:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEY WORDS "HE'S A MARRIED MAN" ANYONE CAN SAY ANYTHING DOESN'T MEAN IT'S TRUE TALK IS CHEAP I TAKE IT HE STILL LIVES W/ HIS "WIFE" ANOTHER KEY WORD HE'S TELLING YOU HE LOVES YOU AND HE'S GOING TO GIVE YOU THE STORY SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND ME OR WE DON'T TALK OR SOMETHING SO HE CAN ROLL IN THE HAY WITH YOU IF HE'S FOR REAL AND HE LOVES YOU THEN HE CAN GET A "DIVORCE" ANOTHER KEY WORD HE WANTS HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!! BE CAREFUL YOU DON'T WANT HIS WIFE COMING AFTER YOU W/ A GUN OR SOMETHING DO YOU????????????????? DON'T FALL FOR HIS SOB STORY'S DON'T GIVE IN YOUR THE ONLY ONE THAT WILL GET HURT "THE OLD SAYING STAY AWAY FROM A MARRIED MAN"!!!!!!! ANOTHER KEY WORD YOU DON'T WHAT TO BE A MISTRESS SO WAIT TIL HE GETS DIVORCE PAPERS AND PROVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "REMEMBER HE GOES HOME TO HIS WIFE" I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT THE WAY TO WANT IT TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-17 01:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might think he loves you, but he barely knows you. Or he may be lying. Either way there's the whole "married" thing. Sounds like a recipe for all kinds of unpleasant drama to me.
2007-07-17 01:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On a percentage scale, most (not all) married men, will never leave their wives, and in a very few small percentage, some might, but not often,,good luck,,,
2007-07-17 01:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely freaking not. Think about it, in four weeks he knows you well enough to be willing to throw away his marriage?! More likely he thinks your vulnerable enough to believe his lies until he can get you to have sex with him. Sad but true. Also think about what you would be doing to his wife if you went along with him. Tell him to go screw himself.
2007-07-17 01:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by MadMax 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Forget him.... do not mess with a married man! n
2007-07-17 01:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋