Tonite I flew into my old hometown for a family reunion this weekend. I had dinner with my ex whom I am still very good friends with, even though we both now live on different coasts. I haven't seen him in 2.5 years so we had alot of catching up to do.
About an hour into dinner he starts talking about how his new wife won't have sex with him(she just gave birth 2 months ago). I told him he should talk to her about it but he feels he can't (I do remember her being a bit crazy and violent at times). He then started re-hashing how our sex life was amazing and if I would consider sleeping with him tonite. For the record I did not. I kindly asked that he bring me back home and to work things out with his wife.
My question for women is: Do you lose temporary interest after having a baby?
My question to men is: Would you cheat on your wife/girlfriend if you were in my ex's situation at home?
2007-07-16 17:32:09 · 6 answers · asked by caribbeansoulhoney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bravo for you not being the home-wrecker. I am sure that took alot of strength to do. WTG. I have had four children myself and have lost interest not only during and after pregnancy but at odd times when I feel really poor about myself. It is Very common and does go away eventually. The new wife will eventually get over it but it could take a while especially if she is coping with depression of any kind.
2007-07-16 17:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Shea C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat? No. The wedding vows were taken seriously.
He may not know it, but it may take up to a year without sex, especially if it was a c-section. According to practically every baby book I read, a mother's priorities change, rightly so, when there's a helpless baby needing TLC. There are books for new fathers too, which mention this issue.
It helps to keep busy with raising the newborn; and, pay extra to go to the gym to vent those physical frustrations, which are quite real.
Because he had asked, already, he's apparently in need of counseling. It may cost money, but it's worth having before it's too late.
2007-07-17 01:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by David the Gentleman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I did lose interest in sex the first few months! Cuz, you are so tried and worried about been a good parent but in due time things change back to normal! I'm glad to hear that you refused and told him to talk to his wife!
2007-07-17 01:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women do loose interest in EVERYTHING after a baby, it has everything to do with hormones, but USUALLY it goes away in due time.... I am proud of you for not falling in to the "pitty pot" of the poor guy who isn't getting any - you are much more mature and intelligent than he will ever be - isn't it amazing how guys instantly think it's all good to fool around because they have to wait....
2007-07-17 00:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, thanks for not being a sucker. This man is simply playing on your emotions. Who or what his wife is or is not is his problem not yours. Don't go wondering about anything when it comes to this man. Obviously he does not respect his wife. If you just had a baby would you want your man trying to make a play on his ex? Put yourself in the other woman's shoes. Let him work out his pitiful problems by himself.
2007-07-17 01:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I thought you were going to say you did the nasty with him. Thank you for showing your geniune class and leaving him to his wife. You are a classy lady.
Men are such dogs and they think women are stupid enough to fall for their crap and many times women do because they are needy and pathetic.
Yes, I lost my sex drive after my children were born and for about 3 yrs after my ex husband cheated on me.
2007-07-17 01:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋