My sister used to say that all the time. I just read an answer to a post that reminded me of that. I've also heard alot of women say that. I personally think it depends on how much he cares about you. What do you think???
2007-07-16 16:56:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well married, for 6 yrs, been w/ my husband for 9 yrs, I'm too tired for games, when my husband starts slacking, starts to treat him like the dining room chair, I make him snap out of it real quick, I let him know its time for
a "date night", or flowers, or a card.....but it would be nice if I didn't have to remind him all the time.
2007-07-16 17:26:31 · update #1
To a certain extent. It is likely that he'll think you have no life or interests of your own and get bored. It's great if you have the time to spend on him, but if you sacrifice your own life to be available then it's not appealing and doesn't benefit anyone.
2007-07-16 17:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...like you said on how much that man cares about you, i mean on one hand, if you are always available and he really doesn't have strong feelings he may not care that he's takeing you for granted and will just keep it up because your a sucker on the other hand if a man truely cares about you he'll love the fact that your always there for you but will not take you for granted and take advantage of you, so you pretty much answered your own question, it's not always true, it just depends on how much the man loves you.
2007-07-17 00:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i've seen it before. Even the sweetest man who loves you will eventually take you for granted and the the time you spend with him.
Slowly he will stop appreciating you, respecting your time, saying thank you, wanting to talk to you.
Find the balance between always being available and not being available at all, and you'll be fine
2007-07-17 00:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men are like that. I gave up on making him feel like he has to do special things for me (flowers, ect..). If my husband does something thoughtful I want it to come from his heart. Yes my husband takes me for granted every now & then. When he does take me for granted I look at it this way if your dependable you'll be taken for granted, if you are irresponsible he'd praise you for everything you did right.
2007-07-17 04:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by redneckcowgirlmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say yes,
do you want someone who has nothing else to do but you or do you want someone thats out there doing what they have to do to secure a future for them and regardless if they have you they will be alright
a man can love you and you can spend alot of time together but at the end of the day you should always have your own life and your own goals and be able to stand on your own outside any relationship with a man or woman
plus absence makes the heart grow fonder i love to miss someone it makes it all the more better when i see them
2007-07-17 00:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sunnie Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's nonsense. What does being receptive to a spouse have to do with being taken for granted? If anything, it should have the opposite effect.
An immature selfish person will take another person for granted. It doesn't matter what the other person does. It is not a reflection of them. Being taken for granted is a reflection of the person who is taking another for granted. Like I said, selfishly immature.
2007-07-17 00:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately I think so but mind games are part of the way humans relate . It is like playing a game the one with the best strategy wins. It shouldn't be that way but it is. The truth is the more you pretend you don't care the more they want you. You always want what you can't have
2007-07-17 00:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by jusayg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Personally, I think mind games (and "playing hard to get so he'll stay interested" is a mind game) have no place in a mature relationship.
2007-07-17 00:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy true loved you and resected your fellings then no he would not take you for granted, but if he was just after one thing well then yes he would take you for granted and not even think twice about doing it.
Just remember your body is like a sacret temple, so be careful who you give yourself to, them my just vialate your temple and belive me thats something you never get guite over.
It is hard to forgive yourself and you can feel very dirty after a man uses you.
2007-07-17 00:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by kutchiekat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly. it depends how much the guy likes you. if he loves you and is really into you, he's not going to take you for granted. now that's not saying quit your job, school, whatever so that you can be with him 24/7, but you know. if you like spending your time with him and him with you, maybe it's gonna work.
2007-07-17 00:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by juliemarie6151982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋