I am so lonley my husband never shows me any affection and when I ask him hwat the hell is up and tell him how it makes me feel real bad he acts like I am crazy he is really anice guy and sweet as can be just mean to me and on top of all this I mena I lilterally just got married last week and I thought newlyweds like have sex all the time so what is up I mena other people hit on me all the time and like would do anything to hae sex with me but still this si my husband the only one Iwant to be with so it ruins my self esteem what shoul dI do?
2007-07-16 16:34:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to look at your entire history with this man. I mean, there must be some reason that you decided to marry him!! You make him sound awful.. why did you marry him? Was he affectionate before you married? If not, then that is what YOU chose! A marriage is not "happily ever after".. you fulfill your own life and then you bring happiness to the marriage... Not the other way around.
I do think that communication is VERY important in any relationship, especially marriage. This doesn't mean nagging, or forcing the issue.. it means sitting down, relaxed, when you both have time and talking it over.
If you are lonely... get out of the house among people and DO SOMETHING...
2007-07-16 16:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it!!! The honeymoon is over and now you get down to a routine of daily living. But I am confused. How can he be "sweet as can be" and in the next few words be "just mean to me"? Your self esteem has nothing to do with whether your husband has sex with you. You seem to just be hornier than him. You should have realized this before you were married. If you weren't having sex before marriage then you should have gotten marriage councilling before you said "I do." If it gets too bad just pull his pants down and go for it. If he won't, you still have time to find someone that will. But tell him what is bothering you. Maybe he just needs some encouragement.
2007-07-16 16:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not solve problems, it creates new ones. Sound like to me, you were in fantasy land thinking that marriage was all that..........it's more work that you could ever imagine.........and it's more forgiving and putting up with than you could ever imagine. Nothing can ruin your self-esteem if you don't want it to. You husband sound like a jerk. Stop focusing on this person so much and do things to make yourself happy. Perhaps you need to be a little unavaliable. Like leave home and don't call, stop paying so much attention to this fool and making him think he is all that. You might not want to hear this, maybe you made a mistake in who you married. Time will tell.
2007-07-16 17:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is awful. I would have a serious talk with him and open up about your feelings and self esteem issues. If he is unresponsive to that then maybe you have to think twice about being married to him. You two should be very happy in your first moments of marriage and here you are asking us for advice. Do not let him do this to you...you have options my dear. If you are truly not happy then move on. You are in control of your happiness, and if he isn't being there for you, then you really do know what to do. Have a talk and give it a little time and see what happens. Good luck!âº
2007-07-16 16:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it like this before the marriage? If so, you should have waited. All I can say is either find a way to make him give you attention or else go ahead and divorce now, cause if it ain't right the first month, it never will be. Good luck. E mail me if you want more.
2007-07-16 16:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slowly. Don´t get upset.
He is probably under post-marriage stress. EVERYBODY espects him to perform like some kind of stud (he believes) and he is just trying to get back on his feet.
Give him time, and then, gently and lovingly go getting closer and warmer. He will appreciate the discretion and the approach.
Good luck.
2007-07-16 16:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by tango bailado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad...I feel your pain and loniness. You gotta do something about it now and put a stop to it now..cuz if you let him continue this , it's gonna last foreverrr, cuz he'll get use to it....Don't let him continue this..it's only 1 week and it's sad and lonly already..you dont want this to last a life time...put stop to it now!! Trust me on this!!
2007-07-16 16:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all responsible for our own happiness, we can't depend on others to complete us, he can't damage your self esteem unless u allow it. its all in your perception of things. what u feel u need is a constant someone paying attention to u, and its just not reality. u don't get your self worth from others it comes from within.
2007-07-16 16:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mena you should takl tooo hime and tel ham that yuo know what i mena? If you dont know what i mena, tan you wont ever no what i mena, know what i mena?
2007-07-16 16:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-16 21:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋