Talking about someone's home is such a touchy subject. But before we get deep together, I want to let him know I am not comfortable at his home. I had my first visit to his house this week and it was not good. His house of dusty, and I spotted a roach but I don't think he know. he quickly went to kill it. He stays with his parents which I met and don't see a reason physically why she cant' clean. He himself seems pretty tidy and he said he cleaned before I got there, but I couldn't tell in the least bit. I know roaches and bugs can happen to the cleaniness of us but to be dirty and have bugs thats a different story. How can I tell him I am not comfortable without hurting his feelings. Its his parents house and I don't want to hurt him.
2007-07-16 15:50:48 · 5 answers · asked by situated 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am sure he is already uncomfortable about his home, especially if he has seen how clean you are. You are right to be carefull in what you say. I would just let it go a little longer, until the both of you are more comfortable in the conversation department. Sounds like you haven't been seeing him too long. Offer to have him over to your place or go out for awhile and hopefully at some point he will mention to you something about the cleanliness or lack there of of his house. Then you may talk to him about how you feel, but I would still be carefull. Once he sees that you aren't wanting to come over, he'll get the point anyhow. Just remember, if this is a guy that you are considering for a long term relationship, he may not ever be as clean as you want him to be. Is this something that you are prepared for?
2007-07-16 16:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him your allergic to dust (most people are). As far as the roach, tell him that they give you the creeps...you start to itch and can't stop.
This is a touchy subject so just go with your gut instinct. It's better to be truthful than to make something up, like I just did.
Good Luck.
Abby
2007-07-16 22:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are uncomfortable, you don't have to go into a long description of why. You could say his house has an odd feeling or something.
2007-07-16 22:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a long term relationship you are working on, its best just to be kind but honest. meet at a restarant, or shopping center, etc.
2007-07-16 22:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by JEN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't love cockroaches anymore.
2007-07-16 22:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by tedfeliciano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋