Do you believe that a wife should follow her man wherever he decided to move?

Question

For example, if the husband got a job in another state or country and he accepted, should she follow?

Answer 1

Yes she should, if her bread and butter lies with him. Now there is an exception I say unless she makes more than him and it would be more beneficial for her and the family to stay where she is/ they are. Sounds like he shouldn't take the job unless they discussed this completly.

Answer 2

The husband and wife are, for better or worse, two different people. They will want different things, and that doesn't make either of them "right" or "wrong". It merely means that they are two different people sharing a relationship.

In any relationship, it's essential to compromise. She should not blindly accept whatever he wants, nor should he blindly accept whatever she wants. If one of the partners always gives in to the other's desires, then the one who is always "losing" will become frustrated and walk out - or if they stay together, the relationship will still be unhappy.

In the situation you bring up, the decision to move is not one that should be made by the man alone. The husband and wife need to reach a decision together. If he wants to move and she doesn't, it's up to the two of them to find a compromise that both can live with. For example, she may be more willing to move if certain concerns are addressed, or he may be willing to turn down a great job offer, if something changes on the homefront.

If the couple can't find a compromise that both can live with, then there is some question as to whether the marriage can endure. Anyway, any relationship will have disagreements, and the only way to resolve those is via compromise and sacrifice - by both persons involved.

Answer 3

"Should follow", no. WANT to follow, yes. Moving is a big thing, and they should discus it as the loving couple they are. If the job gave good pay, and the husband was getting it because he liked the work he would do, I don't think anyone would object to a move. I know a friend who moved any from the only home she ever knew, because her farther got a new job clear across the country. She understood even at that age, that it was for the better, (keep in mind she still didn't like the idea of leaving home), but she knew it was for the better and she knew there wasn't much she could do.

All 'N' all, I say if it's for the better, even if it's for the better, they should discus it. And in the end, I think the wife would be fine with it, or at least should be

Answer 4

Unless the man got a job for minimum wage at a Burger King while his wife has a six-figure job as a CEO. I mean, it makes sense for whoever has the best job to be the one they move for. Unless one of you is miserable where you're at and wants to make a change of vocation. Then you need to discuss it and decide on changes together. However, to me my family is more important than my job or my house, so if my husband was dead set on moving I would go with him rather than split up the family. You can get a new job or a new house. It's much more difficult to find a new soulmate. I've moved several times due to my husband's work. It's disrupted my career, but I'd rather disrupt my career than my marriage. And I don't think he would move somewhere I was dead set against, say Saudi Arabia or somewhere I would have to wear a veil and not be able to drive. A husband and wife are a team and should make decisions as such. However, as part of a Christian household I believe the husband has the final say in a disagreement. Someone has to have the final say, unless you want to flip a coin. But in a loving relationship I trust that he's not going to do anything he knows will make me unhappy. Look on moving as an adventure you can have together. Exploring a new place can be a lot of fun if you let it be.

Answer 5

It wouldn't be fair to come home and say "honey we're moving" this is a huge decision that needs time and planning. Once discussed Pros and Cons then both should weigh them up and decide together what is best for your family... specially if children are involved.
If done in an mature diplomatic way then there wouldn't be any reason for the wife to NOT move...
Moving can be exciting but also scary so you need to take into consideration how your wife will cope in a new/different environment...
good luck

Answer 6

Of course the wife would naturally follow her husband to where he would need to move too, but I am sure the wife would be very angry if he had accepted the job without first discussing it with her and reaching a mutual decision.

Answer 7

If he makes the decision without consulting her and thinking about the implications to his wife and family, then he can go on his merry way by himself. The way it should be, as marriage is a partnership, is they should discuss what the best option is for the family as a whole, and the repercussions of the decision, before agreeing to such a move. If it makes more sense for them to stay, then he should turn down the job and look for something local.

Answer 8

It would be kind of strange if the woman didn't follow her husband. But she should still have some say in whether or not they move, and she and her husband should talk about it before he does accept the job.

Answer 9

I think that's something that should be worked out between the two of them, considering all aspects of what's best for both of them as a couple. A major move for a great job might not always be the best thing for some people. Happiness for both is very important. And life is short, my friend.

Answer 10

First of all, did the husband discuss the opportunity with the wife before accepting??? If so, then she should have seen it coming and should have agreed to the move. If not, then shame on the husband for not considering the opinion of his wife.

Answer 11

i would hope that my husband would consult with me before accepting a job in a different country... however.... to answer you question, a wife has the right to be part of the decision-making process even if you are the primary bread-winner. You should always be in agreement when it comes to live-changing situations. you should be a team!