I'm in my 20's, married, and my wife found out I masturbate. Our sex life is less than steller, so on occassion I'll do it. She is upset and I don't know what to say/do to calm her down? Is masturbation really that wrong?
2007-07-16 14:49:42 · 37 answers · asked by Tommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to pureromance.com and buy her the B.O.B. lol. She won't care when you masturbate as long as she can too.
She sounds insecure and is probably thinking she doesn't turn you on anymore. Try to let her know how much you love her and how attracted you are to her.
2007-07-16 15:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men (and sometimes women) masturbate to feel good and to satisfy their sexual needs especially in your case where the sexual relationship is "less then steller". I suggest that you sit down with your wife and tell her how you feel about your love life and see if there are ways to make it better. Let her know that is why you occasionally do it by yourself. However make sure you don't make her feel like she is not adequate. Just mention that you feel that you would like to add to it and make it better for both you and her. Try to throw some romance into your love life and maybe that will spice it up. There are tons of books, games and other things that you can use to improve on your sex life. Listed below are a couple places you could start to look for things that you both might like.
2007-07-16 15:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with it. I'm married almost 16 years, a woman, and I do it almost daily and have a more than normal sex life. Women in their 20's are usually insecure and think that masturbation has something to do with them. Calm her down by telling her to give you more sex and don't worry when you masturbate. It's normal. Encourage her to do the same and you'll argue less. Good luck :)
2007-07-16 15:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow - masturbation is NOT wrong and if your sex life is "less than steller" than masturbating is almost a necessity!
If she is that upset over you materbating, you both need to have a serious conversation! Maybe even some counseling.
In the mean-time, keep on keeping on! You have to do SOMETHING to get some pleasure!
2007-07-16 14:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by K.C. 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first of all there is nothing wrong with self pleasure. I'm sure you love your wife but there are times when our significant other may not be around or in the mood and you are. I think it's fine personally and do it often myself. Tell her that you love her and that you masterbating is not a reflection of any negativity in your sexual relationship with her. Tell her that you think of her when you are masterbating and how bueatiful she is. This way she will feel more relaxed about it knowing your not having a fantasy about other women. Also tell her that maybe you both can do it together sometime and watch each other, maybe it will enhance things in your sex life and make her feel more confident. Hope this advice helped. Good luck!
2007-07-16 14:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by kristie0976 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Masturbation is not really that bad. It's very common among both males and females. It's just a way to release the sexual energy that you cannot release with your wife so it's perfectly normal.
2007-07-17 06:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation isn't wrong but she feels that when you guys have sex she isn't good enough. Actually, studies say that its healthy for everyone to masturbate. There is nothing wrong with it. It does seem kind of disgusting but everyone does it.
2007-07-16 21:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to view from you're wife's side. If you're doing something your wife doesnt' approve of,,,,, then it's wrong. Now how do you convince her it's an ok thing? How to get her more into sex. Sneaking around masturbating might not be the best approach. You know your wife better then any of us. I'd try explaining why you did it and how he helps you. Then let her know what you'd like for her to do to help. More sex, wilder sex, ect Good luck
2007-07-16 14:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like she's jealous and possessive of your pleasure. Why not ask her if she would like to do it together with you - together but not touching? It might spice up your sex life a bit. It's not wrong, and it might help if you explained why it can be physiologically necessary. Probably she doesn't know about that. Tell her you love her and are not cheating.
2007-07-18 14:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just discovered you are masturbating?....doesn't she know boys start masturbating very young, even before they can have sexual sensation. About 99.9% of men masturbate, it is a normal behavior and is not at all connected to the desire or love you have for her. She needs to start reading. Even if your sex life was top A1, it would still be normal for you to masturbate. How come so many people are so ignorant about sexuality.
2007-07-16 15:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋