sometimes i want to remove my IUD and switch to a less effective form of birth control in hopes of 'accidently' getting pregnant.... i'm supposed to be waiting until i graduate college... and i know that's the right thing to do... i just wish i wasn't so responsible with my birth control by choosing an IUD.... anyone else ever felt this way before concieving? i'm going to do the 'right thing' and keep it in and wait until i graduate college, it is mine and hubby's plan to do this, but i can't deny the fact that i wish for this... and i sometimes wish i was that 1/1000 person on the IUD that does manage to get pregnant.
2007-07-16 14:47:19 · 6 answers · asked by User Name 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
oh, lol, don't worry, i'm not lame like that ;o) i would never trick him that way, it's too malicious. we both decided to wait b/c it is whats best for our future children... just sometimes..... well, you know..... i can't control that 'clock' all the time!
2007-07-16 14:51:40 · update #1
oh don't get me wrong... i don't think 'surprises' are 'mistakes'... that's just the most popular term i'm aware of. :o) believe me... if i were to have a 'surprise' today it would DEFINATLY not be a mistake! lol! it would be a blessing! :o)
2007-07-16 14:54:35 · update #2
oh don't get me wrong... i don't think 'surprises' are 'mistakes'... that's just the most popular term i'm aware of. :o) believe me... if i were to have a 'surprise' today it would DEFINATLY not be a mistake! lol! it would be a blessing! :o)
2007-07-16 14:54:36 · update #3
I say go with your gut instincts. If you truely feel that it's time for you and your husband to have a Baby then go for it girl. If you don't feel it's time then hold off until you think it is right. Don't rush into it. It's the biggest step in anyones life to become a parent.
My son is 1 and I didnt PLAN on having him even though I love him to death. I just wish I had of gotten the chance to do for myself and help my husband out with things. I also wish I would of got a good education and a good Job when I had the chance.
Now that Im pregnant again (didnt plan) I kinda feel bad for my Son just because I wanted to spoil him for 4-5yrs until I had another baby. Spoil meaning - I wanted to give him all my attention. But now he has to share me and its all my fault. So yea I do wish I would of done something to keep myself from getting pregnant again. I should of thought of my son and how it was going to effect him and his life and I should of not just thought oh well Im useing some kind of protection so I can't get pregnant. Oh was I wrong!!
Listen your very lucky you have a chance to make it far in life and you should stick to that. Also if your husband wants you to finish doing for yourself you should. When you have a baby it's hard to do ANYTHING for yourself and for your husband. It's always about your Kid(s). I never have time to do anything for myself or with my Husband and it sucks. Don't get me wrong I am happy i have my little boy. He is my Best Friend but like I said....I wish I had of done more for me when I had the chance. Good luck, Im sure you'll make the right choice!
2007-07-16 15:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of women have felt/do feel the way you do. They have what are often referred to as "Accidentally on Purpose" pregnancies. Nothing wrong with how you feel, feelings are what they are.
I think it's always better to make decisions in a straight up way, being honest with yourself. If you really want a baby now, talk with your husband, and see if he's open to moving up the time table you both agreed to. If not, it's good for him to know that you are struggling with this yearning. If you have to continue to wait, maybe you can find a substitute, like rocking sick babies in a hospital?
I believe it would be a huge mistake to trick your husband. I think it is very hard for marriages to survive this kind of dishonesty. You made this plan together, if it's going to change, you need to do that together, too.
If you go the "accidentally on purpose" route, he may never forgive you. Even if he never finds out you did it on purpose, you will always be alone with your secret. Having secrets can be very lonely.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-07-16 22:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Flora 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get pregnant now, talk to your husband about it. Maybe he feels the same way and you can have the IUD removed.
Don't get pregnant without telling him. That's lame.
2007-07-16 21:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes oh yes!!! My first baby was a "surprise" ( I don't like to say mistake or accident, since he is not one!!!) and I was thrilled!!!! My hubby freaked, but came around quick. He's 5 now and the light of our lives. I did not do it on purpose either, ti was purely by chance!!
2007-07-16 21:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. but you'll get there eventually, youd regret it like hell if you had to pull out of college because you changed to a less effective birth control.
The answer to your questionn is yes, I have too.
2007-07-16 22:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Gen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was like that i was breastfeeding for a hole year i wanted to get pregnant but then i changed my mind and didn't want a third child but guess what i stoped breastfeeding and i feel pregnant i'm happy but i wish i did something about it before i feel preganat i recon you are doing the right thing
2007-07-16 21:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋