She was so proud of the affair. She told me my husband was only with me because I was sick. This woman is 60 years old and have 6 grown child, she also have a husband. Should I tell her husband?
2007-07-16 13:59:25 · 35 answers · asked by rubyhurting 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you really want to be as sad and pathetic as she is? By telling HER husband, you are just sinking down to her level...
And even worse - he might ALREADY know (and just not care anymore).
I would try to gather as much information as you can - and take that worthless piece of #@%& that you call a husband straight to divorce court ;););)
2007-07-16 14:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through this!
Let me ask you a question. Would telling her husband change the outcome of the situation, such as mend what your hubby has done to your marriage? Would it make you feel better in the short term or for long term? Do you really want to lower yourself to her level?
You do not deserve to be treated this way and I would sincerely hope that you would put more energy into leaving your husband and taking him to the cleaners, then you would seeing that this woman suffers in her own marriage.
Revenge may be sweet, but it lasts only a short time and honestly, you don't feel any better once you've sought your revenge. It ends up being a never ending cycle of madness.
You are better than she is. All you have to do is prove it. Walk around with your head held high. After all, she is the one who ended up with your 'sloppy seconds' ;)
2007-07-16 14:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get proof >> ie: pictures, cell phone records, search his office & computer and definetly his vehicle and credit card receipts bills... follow him. talk to people,and then run as fast as you can to a lawyer and tell him about your probs and you should also consider trying to f ind out how much money he has squirrel away in separate bank accounts. Hiring a private detective first is always your best option but they are expensive and if you don't have the resources to hide what you are paying him it may not be an option. But attorney's do take divorce cases on a contingency and if they think they can win they will make the husband pay his fee and the judge will agree. I would only call her hub after I had the "good hard facts about both of them" , so that neither one of them would be able to lie or worm their way out of it! Good Luck!
2007-07-16 14:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by victoria c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you want to lower yourself to her level?? I would be more concerned with the health of your own marriage. It seems to me that the person you should be talking to about this, is your husband. Does this woman's account of her affair make sense to you, is her story with-in the scope of you husband's known behaviour since you've known him. This is a test of your marriage, will you let the word of an unknown and admitted adulteress ruin your relationship with your husband. You need to keep the faith until you here the awful truth from the only reliable source, your husband. If he denies such an affair, you have to decide, based on what you know of him which story is true. Men are definitely not infallible, but go with what you KNOW and not on the emotional buttons that some stranger has succeeded in pushing.
2007-07-16 14:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you must be devastated, but put yourself together. They are not worth it. She is trash. Especially, if she would cheat with your husband and then tell you about. Honey, I am not sure about your health since you mentioned she said you were sick. Regardless, you need to take care of yourself. Start to cultivate a strength circle of good friends you can lean on-- including me. Get a hobby-- maybe read some good books, get a dog which is loyal etc... You may want to talk to your husband, but I am sure at this point you believe as I do she was telling the truth. Us women can sense that sort of thing. You need to cut it loose, he is not worth it nor is she. They deserve each other. You are a classy lady and he fell for pure trash. He gave up on what was real and genuine for some trash in nice packaging. I have been in your shoes before and I know. Maybe she won't leave her hubby but you leave yours and he will be out in the cold alone to think of what he lost. Maybe they will leave for each other (that is what happened to me). The justice about that is eventually the nice packaging wears off and you are left with trash. He will then realize and have to live with everyday what bad decision he made. He won't always think she is so great- trust me. Also, since they are both cheats they will never trust each other. Good luck to you honey and be strong. You are a classy woman and there is a classy man just waiting to meet you. You need to get out of this mess first. So get going--
2007-07-16 14:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The lady my husband was having an affair with call me and told me about the afair.?
2014-12-18 14:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes by all means. if she felt the need to tell you and you are really sick then you do the same thing. These hussies I can't beleive them at 60?????????????? what can she give a man at 60? I guess it does not stop wow. No more words put that woman in her place do not allow anyone to make you feel bad about you or anything. This is not your fault this a problem your husband started and what ever you do, do not continue her game she is doing this to make you back off and leave your husband. You need to be the one who dicides what to do or how your going to handle this situation. Your marrige belongs to you and your husband. ewwwwwww this makes me so sick and angry. Good luck sweetie stay stong. don't let anyone push you to do anything.
2007-07-16 15:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does her husband look like? If you really wanted to be sick about it, see if her husband would do you and then do it when you are sure both of them could or would catch you!!!! What is good for the goose is good for the gander! Of course, you could just turn into a cougar and get a real young guy and let your husband catch you!!! Remember 20 goes into 60 more times than 60 goes into 20 (or in this case 60 goes into 60)
2007-07-16 14:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I say no because it will only hurt him and you really won't feel any better about the affair. Besides I really believe in karma so just you wait and see what happens next. As for you I say find something you like to do but don't tell your husband and just sit back and watch as it drives him crazy not knowing what you are doing.
2007-07-16 14:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by pink panther 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No... let the ignorant be ignorant. A REAL woman does not find it victorious to sleep w/ another woman's husband! Don't stoop to that level! That is her burdon to deal with. It will bite her in the rear soon enough. I would just move on and focus on what you are going to do about your husband!
2007-07-16 14:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by hereigoagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many an other woman will either tell the wife, or make sure to leave clues around to get him caught. She hopes to get you to leave him. Sometimes, it's an ego game for her. Be careful about believing her, she is NOT looking out for you.
Sure, tell her husband. He may not believe you. She'll be to busy trying to clean up her own mess. Your husband might not be to happy about this, as he might fear her husband's reaction.
Document her harassment. Inform her that you will be filing charges if she continues, a possible restraining order. Maybe threaten a lawsuit for alienation of affection. Actually hard to do, but worth just saying for fun!
Is your husband willing to stop his affair and contact with this woman? She is not your main problem. Your husband is the one betraying your trust.
2007-07-16 14:32:40 · answer #11 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋