What can I do?

Question

ok, well i love this guy very very much, he is my cousin, yes in my religion we are allowed to love and marry our cousins, he also loves me 2, but the only problem is he is 8 yrs older than me, and my mom doesn't want me to get married with anybody in the family, but our love for each other is so much, we can't live without being together, if anyone who has been through this situation, well than how did u overcome it, anyone who has loved plz answer

Answer 1

i know exactly what you are going through... well not exactly but i know what you mean because if i loved my cousin that strongly i would be in that same situation with all the restictions and shananigans. there really isn't anything you can do unless you prove to your parents that you guys would be a wonderful couple. tell them that you can't live without him and if they don't realize that then they should realize you aren't gonna be happy with anyone else.

BEST OF LUCK!!

Answer 2

I dont understand, how you say that in your religion you are allowed to love and marry your cousins, yet your mum doesnt want you to. If its ok, then why is she against it?
Also even though your religion says its ok, what about the law?
Besides that ill answer your question.... 8 yrs aint that much of a gap but you havent mentioned how old you are so im presumming you are young. If its true love he'll wait until you are at a respectable age, and by then maybe you would of found love somewhere else.
I honestly dont know what else to say, weird scenario!

Answer 3

There is no easy answer, but I would consider both love and logic. Love is important, but will he make a good husband and provider? Family matters because they are your support group, but it is your life. The problem with marrying a cousin is that it increases the probability of birth defects. It's not a huge probability but it is significant... more so than marrying a stranger. The age difference can be an issue also. It just depends on the two people.

Answer 4

I just don't believe in family marrying into family. It is wrong morally and I am sure most religions do not permit those kind of marriages. The possibility of having a child that is deformed, or not normal is of greater risk marrying into the same blood line. I think it's a risk that should not be taken for the child or children's sake. I know of a couple that did exactly what you are proposing to do, and did, and they had four children. One set of twins, a daughter, and another son. All of these children were sadly brain damaged, and illiterate. You do what you think is right, and really think this over carefully. I would hate to see you make the same mistake, you can always love these children, but you won't be around forever to care for them, then what?

Answer 5

Religion, yes. What about the local laws? Bigger problems could occur with the family, then what? Also consider the blood line for your children. Which outways, the good or bad. Will this really last forever?

Answer 6

well i haven't really gone through this but i think that if you really love someone age shouldnt matter .so who cares if hes 8 years older, the important thing is that you love each other.And i think your mom should understand that she has been in love too right.

Answer 7

i used to like this boy. he was 12 and i was 11, i liked him for five years and after i began to think that i was in love with him and that everything was going to be fine, but it turned out to be that we were separated for a very long distance, and that's how i lost my first love, so i say you go girl and dont let anything or anyone to split you up, cause there's only one true love that will be in your life, and i already lost mine.

Answer 8

No you are not suppose to marry your cousin. What religion is this?

Answer 9

don't marry him. Find someone else.