I was having an affair with a married woman that I was working with. She was having troubles in her marriage and so was I so we pursued a relationship. Her husband found out about it and proceeded to inform not only my wife but my entire neighbor hood. What form of revenge am I entitled too?
2007-07-16 13:18:04 · 43 answers · asked by clive_beaumont_1957 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
None, you got what you deserved, be thankful that's all he did. Put yourself in his shoes, and just be thankful it wasn't you getting what you know as your life ripped into pieces by your wife and another man
2007-07-16 13:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not judge u or anything. god only knows the things ive done in the past lol. but i think you should just let it go. the old saying what goes around comes around 10 times over. u had a affair (which is bad) and your wife plus the whole neighbor founded out (10 times over) if you seek revenge against him he could retaliate with something even worse and then it will become a never ending battle.
2007-07-16 13:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by onetruqt313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got what you deserved. You went outside of your marriage with another married woman and got found out. You don't have the luxury of revenge and that is beside the point that revenge brings nothing but more destruction. Cut your losses and move on and maybe next time you will know better.
2007-07-16 13:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None, you wronged the man by sleeping with his wife. You wronged your wife by sleeping with this other woman. You're not entitled to anything but a good butt kicking, imho.
Now, if you want to save your marriage, you can go to counseling, ask for forgiveness and plan to prove to her over the long haul that you can be trusted...by being trustworthy over the long haul.
Forget revenge.
2007-07-16 13:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling of wanting revenge as well. But in my opinion, the best revenge is to show everyone what a great person you are by not making things worse, but to improve yourself the best ways you know how.
I know it sounds silly, but I think things would only get worse with revenge. Try to move on, and ignore the bad people around you.
2007-07-16 13:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by trish_m76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING. You were the one who made the mistake & GOT CAUGHT! so why do you even want to seek revenge just because you got humiliated? In my personal opinion, YOU NEED TO GROW UP & deal with the fact that you got caught & just accept it like a man. Any form of revenge you try to pursue will make you immature & probably land you in more trouble. You need to learn to deal with your problems & accept the consequences. Try focusing on the problem with your marriage.
2007-07-16 13:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONE, no matter what kind of problem you all were having, an affair does not make it better only worse. Why do you want revenge, don't you think the affair was revenge enough.
2007-07-16 15:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by answersmaybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best way when it comes on getting even because someone told on you. First of all, you already know that what you did is not right even though that she was having a problem with her husband and vice versa. There's no such things that both of you were innocent because you both having a problem,it still not right committing adultery.
You want to know how it feels to get even?? let me tell you what I did when I found out when my husband had an affair with this married woman, friends?? maybe but both of them were already emotionally involve without sex in the picture. But because I didn't do anything wrong for him to cross that path, I was very angry,not for myself but for my 3 teenagers, so I told my husband to tell his ***** to come to my home and apologize in front of my kids. It felt wonderful because those 2 were in front of my house outside the door and apologize to my kids. When it comes to my kids I will do everything in my power to undo the pain that their father gave them.
So I don't think that you have the rights to think of getting revenge towards this man, first of all you did slept with his wife, secondly its the wife that you need to talk to because she lied to you and you lied to your wife, so just get over it for your sake...
2007-07-16 14:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should tell what you did that was wrong you and her are married you both are nasty pigs and don't deserve your wife or her husband. You need to keep ur mouth shut! Why in the world do married men think marriage is a joke and cheat on their wives after a few years?! That makes me so angry marriage is a very serious thing you don't cheat on your spouse cause your tired of them you stay with them till you die. If things in the bedroom are boreing buy toys,lingerie,etc!!!!!!!
2007-07-16 16:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by little lou lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur own fault for having the affair
Matthew 5:43-48
"You have heard that it is said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love you enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of you Father in heaven. He causes his son to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the rightious and the unrightious. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as you heavenly Father is perfect."
2007-07-16 13:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy has every right to be pissed off at you, what do you expect from him? A Congressional Medal of Honor? See, you are in the wrong to begin with and you have the nerve to get mad at him? Couldn't wait till she got out of her troubled relationship ehh? That had problems written all over to begin with.
But to answer your question, if you want revenge why don't you fight fire with fire. Inquire their neighborhood how a huge sl*t his wife is, that she is as boring as hell in the sack and she is as "loose as a goose" catch my drift?
Hope that helps.
2007-07-16 13:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋