I WAS THINKING ABOUT AN ABORTION BUT I'M NOT SHURE
2007-07-16 12:58:24 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How can you justify taking this child's life just because you don't like the guy anymore. You should have thought about that before you had sex with the guy. I'm not trying to be rude, but it seems like you're being kinda selfish about this. I suggest the adoption as previously recommended. Good Luck!
2007-07-16 13:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Gleebicus 3 · 6⤊ 3⤋
What does not loving your boyfriend and getting an abortion have to do with each other? Are you afraid to be a single mother? I am 23 and have a 16 month old little girl. I am a single mother and also a full time college student. I work full time and I struggle still to pay the bills, but I wouldn't change my life for anything. I love my little girl more than life itself and can't imagine what I would do without her sometimes. I have said some mean things about abortion to other people on here... it's not that I'm against it, I just wouldn't ever get an abortion because there are other options. Why not give the child up for adoption? Do you know how many people can't get pregnant and would love a baby? If you don't want it just please consider the other options.....
2007-07-16 13:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by emtmissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should have an abortion just because you don't love your boyfriend anymore... if that were true, I'm sure half of the babies that are out there due to premarital sex and conception wouldn't have been allowed to be born.
I'm not saying don't get the abortion... I'm just saying really think about it before you do it. Are you going to feel guilty after having the abortion? Are you going to wish you had had your baby when the due date comes and goes? Are you going to wonder about your first child when you do get married and decide to have kids?
If nothing else, seriously consider adoption. It allows the baby to have a chance at life, as opposed to just being thrown away because you don't love it's father.
I hope you make the right decision for you and I hope you can live with whatever decision you make. Remember, you and you alone are accountable for your actions. God bless you and your baby.
2007-07-16 13:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by mums_the_word 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is a nice thing
A lot of people might say that if you can change your mind about whether you love somebody or not in the space of a few weeks- then you probably shouldnt have contemplated having a child in the first place.
However that doesn't help you now.
I think you really have to separate him from the baby, just because you don't love him doesn't mean that the right choice for you is to have a termination.
Think about it first or you may well end up feeling terrible, its a big desicion and to make matters worse you don't have long to make it. Try to do it rationally- I know this is hard when your hormones are all over the place.
Only you can decide, forget what other people say and don't let them make you feel guilty. It is you who chooses and you who lives with the consequences of any choice you make so other people's opinions are largely unimportant.
I think a good idea would be for you to talk to the father of the child, and your family about your feelings. You need support from those around you whatever you decide.
Also please learn from this experience, babies are not toys and need to be put first. If you can;t do that then you are not ready to have one. You need to be certain and secure before you think about the prospect next time.
2007-07-16 21:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a big decision to make and one you could end up regreting for the rest of your life. I had a friend in a similar situation she ad the abortion and regretted it! I myself do not agree witgh it at 7 weeks i ad my 1st scan and could hear its littlke hearbeat if it has a heartbeat it is alive so it is murder! well thats my opinion anyway. Even if you dont love your boyfriend anymore whats stopping you havin his child u may be scared at the thought of being a single mum but you will have something you will love and cherish more than anything in the world! Really think hard and discuss how you feel with your bf, family and friends they will all support you and help you make the right decision,
2007-07-16 20:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 23:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun
One way or another you are going to make a choice that is going to change your whole life no matter what that choice is, Think about your choices
1) Keep the baby, raise it as a single parent, how will you cope financially & emotionally? I became pregnant at 17 & despite every one saying oh get rid of it its going to screw your life up I kept it, had a beautifull daughter that was born with closed hole spina-bifida that needed surgery, almost lost her twice & am now a very proud grandparent thanks to my choice.
2) Have the baby & give it up for adoption, how will that affect you emotionally? once you have made that choice will you be able to hand it over freely?
3) Have the abortion, medical risks aside (these days there arent that many medical risks if you go to the right place) how do you think you will cope with always knowing that you could have been a mom to a healthy, normal child,
I don't envy your choice hun I have seen the effects of the choices, each one has its problems, morally & emotionally.
Good luck with whatever choice you make hun, For your sake I hope its the right one x
2007-07-16 13:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Lita M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already made the baby.. which may or may not of been out of love. I got pregnant by my husband(which we were split up) so it was crazy. You guys can still both love a baby even though you dont love eachother. You may live in seperate houses but that dont mean anything. The only thing I can say is go to the doctor and ask for an ultrasound. This way you can see your baby and know what you want to do. If you do carry the baby, Never say he/she was a mistake. I say my son was not expected but was never a mistake. He is my pride and joy. I would not think about an abortion unless you or the baby have health issues. You can file for child support and get assistance with what you need if that is what you are worried about. Another thing is you can go to state school for barely anything if you have a child. I would really think about that. I wish you luck and go with your heart. I know it is a hard decision but just think about how much love a baby can bring you...
Another thing is there is families out there trying that can not get pregnant. I would look into those...
**EDIT**
For the person above me I would just like to tell you I have lived a HARD LIFE!! My Husband and I split up on April 5, 06, He left me for another women. Then, April 6, I got fired from my job. Then April 7th was my 21st. Then April 11th which happened to be our 4 year annv. I found out I was pregnant. In the mean time I was homeless, I had been in a car accident where my brakes went out on my car and I almost hit people, and I hit signs. Talk about scary. I was only eatting maybe 1 time a day if I was lucky. I told my husband that and he told me my daughter could go there and eat but I would have to worry about myself. In the meantime I had SEVERAL health issues and was unable to work. You wont to talk about hard and still keeping my baby. My hair was falling out and everything... But you know what?? I am happy NOW!! I have been through a lot and that is what makes my kids and I strong. We have been through everything. There is a lot more to this story, I just gave you bits and pieces....
2007-07-16 13:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Megan Michelle 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If your not sure your best option at this point is to get some help in the form of counseling they can help you decide whats best for you. I am pro choice but I think that if you have any doubts in your mind that abortion may not be right for you. Even if you don't love your boyfriend anymore you can still love this baby it is half of you. Find someone to talk to beside people on the net and hopefully they will help you to make the right decision.
2007-07-16 13:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Indiana Raven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! you fell out of love that fast.......but when you "loved" him the pregnancy was okay?!!
this is why you shouldn't be having sex unless you are prepared to be a parent.....
i'll tell you what i told someone yesterday...at 17 (32 now) i thought i was pregnant..... i wasn't......after that ONE scare i made the choice to not have sex again until i was married....
it might sound too unrealistic to you but at least you wouldn't have to make these decisions
we need to THINK about the consequences of our actions BEFORE we do things. at any rate i hope you seek some counseling and get the help you need and remember there are adoption agencies out there where YOU can pick the baby's parents if that would be something of interest to you
think about this...is it fair to end a life because the relationship didn't work out? i don't know about you but i would have been dead a looooooong time ago if that was the case.
best of luck in whatever you decide
2007-07-16 13:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex and got pregnant. Just because you don't "love" your boyfriend anymore doesn't mean you shouldn't love your baby. Plus i don't understand how you can just stop loving someone overnight you probably never loved him in the first place. Also having an abortion does some serious damage to your body and you need to think about this. In the future when you are in love and want to have children you don't want the abortion you had when you were 22 to make it harder for you to conceive then. There are plenty of people out there who are not blessed with the ability to have their own children. You should consider having the baby and giving it to a loving home. But thats just my opinion. And in the future use a condom!
2007-07-16 13:10:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋