my little sis jordan is 14. and last night i came home from my roomates house and we were having a sleepover.we stayed up till like 3 having a chat.then we wdecided to go through her stuff.so we did.but when we pulled out her bed i found like 5 condoms 2 types of jellies, 4 pills,, and like 8 diaprhams.i was speechless.everything was silent as she looked at the floor and i starred at disbelief.then i asked her a couple questions and she said she had had a couple of pregnancy thermometers under her bed too she pulled them outt o show me.she said she had been having sex like 10 times in one week with 2 diffrent guys. i didnt know what 2 say. im 20 and i just started having sex. what shoul di say to my sister?? how should i deal with it??
2007-07-16 12:56:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm not so sure about scare tactics. Even when they do work it's usually only for a little while. When they don't work they trigger even more rebelious behavior. Yes, she needs to be informed, but not just to "scare her straight." I'd be seriously concerned about her emotional and mental health here. It seems to be the sexual behavior may well just be a symptom of anxiety or low self esteem or depression or any number of problems that need to be addressed. She knew all that stuff was there and she let you go through her stuff so it seems to me she wants you to guide her. Maybe she knows there's something the matter but doens't know how to start fixing it. It may be a positive sign that she opened up to you. Ask her when it started and why. Tell her she's an intelligent, capable young woman but that her behavior isn't reflecting it. Ask her what she really wants out of life and if her actions are really making her happy. Ask her, even if she can't be honest with you, to be honest with herself. And maybe suggest taking her to counseling. She might be more inclined to go if you go with her.
2007-07-16 13:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by eyes_the_color_of_insanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 stone is 14 pounds so 11 stone is 154 pounds I am a 5'7" woman who is 6 months pregnant and I weigh 158 lbs (just ran and checked) so I would say yes. Try walking with her every evening and encourage her to exercise. Therapy is also an option. Does she have thyroid issues?
2016-05-19 21:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by sherryl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is too young to be sexually active. Since u say Ur 20 I think it would be wise to have a serious talk with her and explain the do's and don't's about sex. If u feel u can't talk with her about it then maybe u can have someone the family trust who can talk with her.
I guess the only upside is she's using condoms. So my advice is to have a serious talk with her ASAP
Good Luck
2007-07-16 13:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you her guardian? It sounds like a parent needs to be notified. Unless someone locks her up, there's probably not much you can do to keep her from having sex if that's what she chooses to do. Of course, maybe she shouldn't be left alone after school as that's usually when teen sex happens. She needs to be taught how to be safe, though and be put on birth control.
2007-07-16 13:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her the risks of having sex. Tell her there is no rush to have sex at her age yet. Ask her if she ever loves these guys. If she doesn't love them she shouldn't be having sex with them.
2007-07-16 13:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG THAT SUCKS!!!!! WOW u need to have a talk with her! tell her about the STD's and everything! scare her from it! watch her and make sure she isn't sneaking around trying to have sex! Good Luck!
2007-07-16 13:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by jessica l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, lol. You must have a good relationship with your sister. I don't tell my older sister about anything related to me and sex. lmboo, lol. You should scare her, like PREGNENCY!
2007-07-16 13:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes 14 wow! well tell her what can happen and tell her that she is way to young for that!
2007-07-16 15:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....14!!
tell her that shes being stupid and tell her the risks of having sex
2007-07-16 13:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just tell her wat u think is right dont tell her about ur friend
2007-07-16 13:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by sierracrlsn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋