I'm an ugly guy. Because Im ugly, I've become shy. It would be torture to subject others to my looks. So I have no social life. I go to work, do my job, barely talk... and go home. My self confidence is lower than Michael Jackson's pants near adolescent boys.
What do I do?
2007-07-16 12:19:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all, get off the "poor me". That shows when you talk to people and even just when you're around them.Attend a workshop or talk to a councilor about improving your self esteem. There is NO SUCH THING AS UGLY. Once you feel good about yourself it'll be easy to get out into the social world. Take care of yourself first, then worry about getting more social. Best of luck.
2007-07-16 12:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sure you're not ugly you just are lacking confidence. If it helps you could post you picture and get feedback. People saying that you are cute or improvements. That's what a lot of people on here do. Maybe when you're at work start by talking to them and, when you feel comfortable around them ask them to hang out or something( depends who you work with). Chances are after that you will feel better about yourself. If all else fails just talk to that other person at school who is in the same situation. Good luck
2007-07-16 19:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is having the same problem, even though she isn't very ugly.
The more you get down on yourself, the more you will feel ugly. I doubt you are that ugly, but if you are - not everyone in the world is pretty. There are some pretty ugly famous people, just look at Sandra whatever her name is from Roseanne?
The best thing to do is keep yourself clean, and polished. Some people that were popular in my high school were very ugly, but it's all about hygiene and appearance. Then you will feel better about yourself.
Get a hobby that you are good at - and believe me, if you are a teen, you will grow out of your awkward phase.
2007-07-16 19:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if actually are serious about this and NOT joking, then I must ask you who defines "ugly"? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Tell your self that you are handsome, tell yourself everyday, write it down or do whatever you have to do...but STOP telling yourself and especially others that your ugly. I really sympathize with you, and I hope that you can boost your confidence on YOUR own..not by others. Because I want you to do it for yourself. In the end it's all about you. So, after work..why not stop at the library or some sort of hangout spot..whatever appeals to you.
-LOVE LIVE LIFE!
-Candy
2007-07-16 19:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesetly having no life has nothing to do with you being ugly, it all depents on how you see yourself as a person. It also depents what kind of people you are interested in interacting with. You need to stop thinking that looking good will find you friends, The people who are welthy are full of friends will more likely be alone once the money is gone. I can assure you that alot of the people that are popular because they look good they so called friends are not real friends. So think about it twice and work on your selfesteem!!!
Good Luck"
2007-07-20 17:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by jessiegirl_pr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised at how being confident and friendly to others will make you more attractive. Each day take a moment to say hi to someone and ask how they are. Don't think about how you look. You'll find that people will respond to you and that they don't think you're ugly (and they never did).
2007-07-16 19:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Opal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my - that is low! But I bet you are not nearly as bad looking as you think. I just bet if you start to become more outgoing, you will gain more self-confidence. I know it's hard cause I'm shy too! Good luck. PS: Why do you think you are so ugly?
2007-07-16 19:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Amy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the advantages of being male is that you don't have to be aware of your physical appearance. Use that advantage. Start thinking of yourself as God's gift to women. If you look around, you'll see tons of hotties walking around with troglodytes. That's because a guy gets women based on his own self-image. Women are attracted to men who have a high opinion of themselves (although they profess to hate it).
Working example:
http://bi.gazeta.pl/im/9/2943/z2943189G.jpg
To the left is Rick OCasek, known as one of the ugliest men in Rock. To the right is his wife, supermodel Paulina Porizkova
Enough said.
2007-07-16 19:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Diminati 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really like the metaphor, it made me laugh...
what you do is you get past your looks, not everyone chooses souly on looks, and not everyone is a jerk and will judge you on looks. you need to bring out what is most pleasant about you, and keep looks to the side, be yourself, and just bring out the nice/ own personality of yours and use that instead of thinking about how ugly you are, don't have a bad outlook on how pretty you are rather then bringing out that of what is attractive.... by this question i can see you are funny, so use that!
2007-07-16 19:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Skizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first noone is ugly.. and you defenetly have a sense of humor.. so just believe in yourself... and let go of being shy... I was like that but now since I got married I'm just like anybody else..
2007-07-16 19:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋