i believe one of my best friends may have stolen a shirt that i had in my room that she liked and asked if she could have i told her no and when she left i asked where the shirt was (i think i had a feeling she took it) & she told me in my closet well i went through it and the shirt is not there i've givin her opportunities to say oh i must have put it in my bag by mistake but she wont say it & she was here again and i asked her to go look for it & she said not right now which gives me reasons to assume that she knows its not there and it would be a waste of time to look i havnt really accused her of stealing it yet and i dont know if i should or even what to say if i do any ideas? has a friend ever stolen something from you? how did you deal with it? i've known her since 3rd grade which makes it harder to picture her stealing something from me & we have a lot of classes together this year & i would hate to have a rocky friendship with her over something stupid.
2007-07-16 12:01:26 · 15 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yess she liked it,& it was a 30$ shirt brand new no less, & your right its not even really about the shirt its the lying factor that i hate,no i dont have any siblings im and only child,& i have to do my own laundry anymore, yes my friend was in the room the last time i saw it she slept over that nite and tried it on that was the last time i saw it, & i did tell her before she came over the 2nd time that if i couldnt find it that she was going to help me look for it and then asked her if it was a deal i never got any reply back from that. i also have a text message saying that i kinda think she took it and then it says that if she didnt and it truly is in my closet that i had no problem calling her mom and telling her the situation and then have my friend come over to look for it.
2007-07-16 12:32:17 · update #1
Say "Gosh, I sure am glad someone needed that shirt more then I did, I really hope they feel good about being a thief). It will magically reappear.
2007-07-22 20:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like she stole the shirt, but I'm not completely sure. First, do you have any siblings? Perhaps one of them borrowed it. Or did one of your parents put it in the washing machine? Ask your family if they've seen your shirt. Check every inch of your room before verbally accusing your friend because a serious accusation could easily destroy a friendship.
Also, think about the last time you saw the shirt. Was your friend in your room at this time? If so, was your shirt still there when your friend left or was it gone? If your friend and the shirt "left" at roughly the same time, then chances are your friend took it.
Tell her that you really love that shirt and would really appreciate it if you could both agree on one day that you could both spend looking for the shirt. If she's a true friend, then she'll help you look. Having a scheduled day will give her a chance to put the shirt in her bag or whatever and suddenly "find it" in your presence. If she does this, then she at least has remorse over what she did. If she flat out refuses to ever look for the shirt or if something keeps coming up on these scheduled days, then end the friendship. If she can't even spend one afternoon helping you find a shirt or won't own up to her mistakes, then do you really want her as a friend?
2007-07-16 12:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have three real choices:
1. Forget it...you "could" be wrong, so if she's a friend, give her the benefit of the doubt.
2. Go over to her house, tell her mom that you think she may have borrowed one of your shirts and ask if her mom could accompany you up to look in her closet. If it's not there, forget about it and thank her mom for letting you look. If she asks you why you were looking in your closet, just tell her that you thought she may have taken your shirt and just wanted to clear the air by making certain it wasn't there. If it's there, you have your answer and then you can decide how to go from there.
3. Tell your friend, "listen, I know you took the shirt. If you like it that much, just wear the stupid thing. At least that way I'll enjoy seeing it on you instead of never seeing it again." If she thanks you, you know she took it. Then you can figure out where to go from there. If she still denies it, just say, "forget it, wear it if you like, it just doesn't matter anymore." If you later see her with it...don't get mad... you told her it was okay. Just put the lesson down in your memory and keep an eye on her in the future.
2007-07-21 17:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know she stole it and she is lying about it.
She made the friendship rocky not you.
Stupid people like her forget and after awhile just wait she will screw up and wear that shirt to school and that's when you can let her have it, by saying I knew you stole my shirt, you lier you were willing to throw away our friendship for a stupid $30 shirt.
Don't let her in your house she is not a true friend and GOD knows what she will pick up next, if you do let her in never leave her alone.
Call her on the phone tell her that you have looked every where for the shirt and the last time you saw it she had it and she needs to find it, if she has every excuse under the sun then just tell her a true friend doesn't steal from a friend and a true friend doesn't lie about it.
Tell her to give back the shirt and never ever steal from you again or lie to you and your friendship may be savable or keep the damn shirt and keep lying about it but that you will always know the truth and our friendship is over.
Oh she will get mad but let her, she isn't really mad at you she is mad at herself and she has to live with the guilt.
2007-07-23 09:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bingo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are three ways you can deal with this:
1) Let bygones be bygones and forget the shirt and that your friend could have stolen it.
2) Dump that lying biaatch as your friend and move on.
3) Dump that lying biaatch as your friend, report the theft to the police (but make sure that the shirt really isn't in your room or anywhere in your house) and move on.
My experience:
I've made choices #2 and #3. Thankfully, I've made more of #2 than #3, but there were instances where I've had no other choice than to take the path of #3.
It's your call, but if I were in your shoes, I would definitely not advise you to make the "lacking a backbone" choice by choosing #1. Take the bull by the horns and do right by your situation. You'll thank yourself for it later.
Good luck.
2007-07-24 10:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a friend steal from me. She claimed to have left a note saying that she had it. Only thing is I never get anything back. She, like you friend, claims to know where it is. So I look to find it. Only to find it is not there.
If you really feel strongly about the fact she has taken it, when you are round hers and have a moment alone, check her room for it. If you find it then you have ground to base it on. Otherwise, check your room and the washing etc. just in case. It may turn up.
I know it can be hard to acept, even though you have known her for a long time, does not mean that she might not have done it. But it makes you question yourself and your friendship when this happens.
2007-07-16 12:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She liked it? Was the shirt costing THAT much? No need to confront her over a silly thing like that. You know the best thing to do? Send those subtle messages instead that you know that she has it. For instance, say that you really really really need it for something important coming up. If she really has a conscience, she will return it - either by poofing it into your room without you noticing or she'll hand it to you.
2007-07-16 12:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes not exactly your friend if she's stealing and lying, is she? Tell her the truth: NO MORE CHANCES. Or maybe you could try and fix the problem by talking to her parents, or hiding your stuff.
2016-05-19 21:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion to u is that if she is considered to be your friend then i don't believe she will do that, if she did then she cannot be considered as your friend at all. A friend should be there for u not bring u down and cause u to be hurt but to bring comfort to u. so i will encourage u to makesure tha u kno exactly who stole ur t.shirt, instead of predictin. ask her more and see how she respond back an the way she reacts, and that is how u will kno.
to be honest no one really stole anything from me, so i can't give u words from my experience , but continue to find out who stole ur shirt okay all the best!!!
2007-07-16 12:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Carla M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shirt now, a boyfriend later! She is not a best friend to deceive you like this. I would "wean" her out of your life and she'll get the hint that what she did was unacceptable. It's not just a shirt, ITS THAT SHE LIED ABOUT IT. That tells you what type of person she is...you don't need friends like that!
2007-07-16 12:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋