Molested kids....?

Question

I can understand the fact that one feels cheated and abused, and if it's my sibling, I'd kook the duce in the head. Certainly, most of us who have never been victimized that way don't really understand.

But does it badly traumatizes the person as displayed by some who have? How does it stack up to other traumas in life, such as loss of a loved one, or accidents, divorces, misfortunes, etc?

Answer 1

As a surviver of molestation the trauma you experience, especially at an early age, is shameful, confusing, sadness, guilt, and other negative emotions. It made me feel as though I should have done something more but I was 6 when it started and my search for love was givin up my body cause when you suffer that kind of abuse at that age it made me feel like it was ok for me to use myself hence the confused part of it. Phycologically I had to go into therapy for along time which helped a lil' but I needed something more I needed the Lord to heal my heart, soul, and renew my spirit. I have forgiven the person who did it to me and have moved on with my life in my quest for peace, love, and mercy through my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Hope my story helps and God Bless You!!

Answer 2

Being molested traumatizes you in more ways than you can count! Its like prism, the facets never end, so are the side effects!
1. Low self-esteem
2. Victimization! You never get over being a victim! Counseling helps, but nothing ever heals that primary violation of trust, especially from someone who should never have been betrayed by!
there should be group therapy available for adult survivors of sexual abuse, and t here is not! Either through mental health or t he community! and believe me it helps!
Death of a loved one! divorce, accidents misfortune don't even come close to the trauma suffered fron abuse of any kind!

Answer 3

child hood traumas last a life time.. for the time they happen.. and it not only robs them or there innocence.. but the self worth.. most of those children never have a good relationship and end up abusing their children.. for those that don't.. they always overprotect their children and that can cause damage as well..true divorce.. loss of a love one or accidents are traumas.. but they are happening to adults.. who can deal a little better then lets say some one under the age of 10..how is a small child the age of 5 or 6 or younger to understand what daddy or uncle so and so is doing to them.. or even a close friend of the family..some are so badly ruin they will never have children.. and it is just not happening to girls .. boy are molested to and they can turn into such monster because of it.. serial killers.. womanizers..woman beaters.. in jail.. most of them dont turn gay.. because of what happen left such a impact on them.. instead just the opposite

Answer 4

A matter of individual cases. I was victimized by my older sisters as a child. It had an impact on what I might find otherwise pleasurable as an adult. It also sticks in the mind and replays quite often even if it was decades ago.

Not as bad as the loss of a loved one, worse than an accident. Never been divorced so can't compare to that one. Other misfortunes? Maybe like loosing your income when you have a family to support.

Answer 5

Those who have been abused suffer from PTSD and with the help of a councellor can try to come to some sort of resolution . It is not easy and never really leavesthe person and does have a knock on effect into all their relationships with others throughout life. As to worse than other forms of trauma.....I am not sure you can measure one against the other it always depends on so many factors. Each can have lasting effects.

Answer 6

i am a 35 year old male and i was sexually abused as a chil by a man and i can tell you there is no other feeling in the world that could even come close death of a loved one is very traumatic but being abused you scars you for life whereas bereavement can be harsh at the time but most people die for a good reason accidents are what it says accidents. divorces are for good reasons or bad but through choice being abused you have no choice and that really sucks yes time is a healer but you are left scarred for life

Answer 7

i think that when you are abused by a loved one that it brings in play a loss of trust in and a sense of helplessness. You are stuck in a house with someone that hurts you, you can't do anything about it and at the same time this is someone saying' i love you so much' . It's especically bad if it's a parent cause then you have a whole thing of hatred and love and shame mixed up together inside you.

It's like those videos they show about sexual harrassment at work ' what's considered a hostile work environement?'. Essentially you are living in a hostile environment with no escape.

Answer 8

I work with young people with Autism, and because of their vunerability, many of them have been abused by people that they have trusted at one stage in their life or another.
The results are unimaginable...if you read it in a book you wouldn't believe it. The worst I have ever seen is those tht revert into a world of their own to find a safe place and can no longer relate the the outside world at all.
Does trauma and molestation lead to other trauma's..? I believe so. It leaves you with issues of trust and a lack of optimism and positivity. If you can't trust and don't believe things can get better/work...then things go wrong. marriages especially.

Answer 9

i hate this subject i know its real but I can't help myself trying to block such events out of my mind. When you are young you realize not the traumatic incedent you are going through. you realize that when you get older. Being molested has a way of sitting in your brain waiting waitng to erupt, you have trust issues and find it immpossible to trust anyone especially loved ones. I was not but my ex girlfriend was, i believe by what her and her sister went through growing up, imagine living with the monster under you bed, waiting for him to grab you any waking moment of the day. imagine moving out and living with that monster in your head for the rest off your life. I can't even think about how hard it must be to just get through even a day.

Answer 10

Sadly, I was forced and raped by my two best friends (who were guys I might add, so I don't need exlax anymore...) and I have to say, it nearly killed me, I also lost a loved one, saw my parents got a divorce, and got in an accident once, had normal everyday misfortunes, and stuff...but the rape and molesting was the worst, and I say that because it kills self-esteem and the trust in anyone for that matter...so thats just the tip of the ice berg...so yeah...