Do you lack self esteem, confidence etc?

Answer 1

yes. i feel like a screw up and like no one likes me, even if thats not true. i feel like no one cares. I feel like its not possible for someone to enjoy my company. Im shy to come up to people or confront someone of an issue. I never make first moves and i dont ask questions. i only speak when spoken to.

Answer 2

Therapy works, it is a fact and it has been proven time and time again. Sometimes it takes patience. I would suggest you find a therapist who you either have a better connection with, or uses a different or more appropriate approach towards your situation. CBT can be effective, but it doesn't work for everyone as you obviously found out. Saying that the thoughts are too deeply rooted to budge is untrue. This is something that you have convinced yourself to be true based on your experience. Statements like that are self-fulfilling prophesies as far as, if you don't think it's possible to get help for your situation, then nothing is going to work. The truth is, that millions of people struggle just like you do, and it is very treatable once you find the right combination of care. However, just because therapy hasn't worked, or you haven't found certain lifestyle changes to be productive, doesn't mean you give up on them all together, it means that you have to reevaluate and adjust your approach. I hope that wasn't too preachy for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

what are those? lol-lol-lol. i may be at times over confidence, which i now have learned not to be. to little to much not so good!!! self-esteem im fine there. im a good outspoken person. sometimes it may not be so good. i could talk to anyone however, not everyone feels that way. i remember years ago i always had confidence. i did have low self esteem after a bad relationship marriage long while back. therefore i know what your talking about. do you have any of the above? hang with me you will soon be on your road to recovery my friend. im kinda tired i worked a long shift and have to be back in the morning. so im gonna leave you with a smile. joann s/shiznick2u2. hows the lady friend? e-mail me or sign up and invite me me so we can talk on im messenger? joann/shiznick2u2

Answer 4

I never thought I lacked confidence until my husband passed away and I had to learn to do all the things he used to do.
I find myself having to ask people for help(which isn't always a bad thing) and second guessing my choices.
I am sure I will build up my confidence again with time and experience.
We all go through times of lacking self esteem,confidence etc.but I believe over time we can overcome those feelings.

Answer 5

If my self esteem is attacked, then I feel bad that I don't always know how to help the person with the low self esteem; if their self esteem wasn't low they wouldn't attack. But how much should I be attacked when I don't have this problem myself? There aren't laws about verbal/energetic attack-it must be my personal responsibility to perfect others

Answer 6

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it is motivated always by
the desire to feel as good as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our desires (not someone
else’s) that it is possible to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a
desire is a rush of life force energy, a connection to the divine inner
self, which can never result in actions that are harmful. It is only
when true desires are blocked that they become twisted and ugly. This
statement goes against the common wisdom that human nature is greedy,
violent and primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite: we are
born knowing ourselves as powerful, eternal, spiritual beings. Petty,
competitive, churlish and violent behavior must be
overcome with suitable practice. Observe your family, friends
and coworkers. Almost all of them are good people, trying to do the best
they can. It would simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All successful societies are based
upon cooperation, not competition. Competition works not because it is
adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork. Ask two angry guys to get
something constructive done, it is not going to happen. All
success is based upon cooperation. That is because we live in an
attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be dangerous because they stem
from a primitive survival instinct. But human being has a bette mind
than animals. Just look around at the mess the world is in! But that is
a delusional assertion, a denial of the basic nature of consciousness
itself. The natural impulses of human nature stem from a connection to
life force, and it is resistance to this divine impulse which causes the
selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that those persons who are
most alive are full of desire, and those who look lifeless have little
or no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire = selfish behavior.
It's ironic that selfish behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological instinct based on survival
of the fittest, it’s a pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that selfish behavior is
demonstrated. Every one of your desires is, in its non-resisted state,
joyful and balanced, because that is an inherent property of
consciousness itself. True selfishness is allowance of desire, without
resistance, and results in the impulse to give freely to others. But it
is first necessary to allow that impulse within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html

Practice meditation and Yoga to
develop self esteem and self
confidence.

Answer 7

At times when i'm down, yes...but most of the time i have high self-esteem.

Answer 8

Quite a lot, actually.
Im not depressed though.
Most of the time i blame good things that happen on luck instead of praising myself. yet when bad things happen its always my fault. and when i have good things, like a girlfriend that loves me i usually seem to screw that up because i never feel i deserve the love she gives me and i feel I'm not worthy to give her what she wants, needs and deserves.
i have no idea if thats normal or not.

Answer 9

heres my take on that... everyone does. some days people look at them selves and think.. "i have ugly hair, face, body, exc..." and its sad but its life. i mean im sure you do too.. everyone does. even movie stars.. even people you look at and think. they are perfect. because maybe they are physically perfect.. but not so much mentally. to your question i would say no.. i might lack a little but i wake up and think "i have a good life" soo.. i dunno.

Answer 10

yes