How do you get a husband to pick up after himself and stop coming home after work and getting naked in the livingroom and just leaving his clothes there!! ugh!!!
2007-07-16 11:17:12 · 36 answers · asked by IslandOfApples 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is ingrained in him because his mother did everythin for him. He is the baby of her boys, and i'm sick of being treated like a maid.
2007-07-16 11:32:09 · update #1
I told my hubby to pick up OR NO clean clothing !
Let him go to work or out NAKED!
Say, "Oh, I am so sorry...since your stuff did not get put into the wash ...you have NOTHING to wear!"
It worked ! He NOW takes them off and places them in the hamper in the morning!
LOL
Blessings
2007-07-16 11:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he needs his Mother to thump him up along side his head! LOL jk This will be hard, but you need to show him what a pig he's being! Men have a hard time visualizing things, so you telling him just won't do. First STOP picking up after him! He'll run out of clothes and see the mess. By the time the weekend comes he'll see the mess, ask him to pick it up! As for stripping in the livingroom after work, break the habit by having a friend there visiting so he has to go change in the bedroom. You could also try having his favorite shorts stashed nearby and ask him to wear them while he's in the living area. Tell him if there's an emergency you want him dressed! This one can be difficult! Good Luck! =)
2007-07-16 11:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy thing. Mine is very good about that, his mom taught him well. As yours is acting like a child, you do have to explain to him that you aren't his mother nor his maid. He does have to take responsibility for his things. If he doesn't, and keeps acting like a child, then treat him like one. My 17 year old son used to leave his socks everywhere, even the kitchen table. At that I flipped my lid and gave him a consequence to his actions. They go in the garbage if I see them anywhere but the hamper. One day my son said he didn't have any socks in his draw. I told him to go buy some. That ended him leaving clothes around.
2007-07-17 03:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I think you are fighting a losing battle and should just either ignore it, or learn to deal with it.
You could however, pick up the trash from the floor and when he goes looking for his clothes tell him just that. I would, however, just get a basket and leave it by the door and ask him just to at least aim. And keep the curtains closed. Children will cure him of that, you know.
2007-07-16 11:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother had a very dear Friend who dealt with this for years until finally she couldn't stand it anymore and went on "strike" no cooking, no cleaning, no sex no NOTHING until he cleaned up his act and acted like a partner in the wedding rather than the almighty "Man of the house". It actually went so far that she moved out to get her point across, it took a while, because men are incredibly dense, but her husband finally clued in, they got back together and stayed together until she died a few years ago. If you won't stand up for what you want in your marriage, then you get what you deserve, think about it.
2007-07-16 14:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife told me many years ago that if Ieft clothes lying around she would start collecting them in a garbage bag and give them to charity.
I lost a few clothes I liked, and started using the laundry hamper! Now it's just habit to use it - really not a big deal anymore and I get to keep all my clothes!
2007-07-16 11:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... you could be naked in the laundry room when he gets home. 2 birds, 1 stone. I was told that leaving my shoes by the front door (up to four pair) bothered her and tried to make an effort to keep them picked up but still forgot once in a while. If he loves and respects you he should try. Still, rewards don't hurt once in a while.
2007-07-16 11:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by willplayrequests 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure since you are here asking about it, you've already tried talking too him and I imagine nagging as well.
Wait until it's his favorite outfit and just chuck 'em in the garbage. I'm a husband who used to do something similar and once a couple of my favorite items of clothing disappeared, I started making sure I knew where they went all the time.
2007-07-16 11:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Trapped 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Dr. Laura. If you are humble enough, that book will help you out a ton, he will be wrapped around your finger.
2007-07-17 05:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by dhch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If explaining your concerns and asking for some consideration doesn't work, then I don't have much of an answer for you.
One important thing is to not be accusatory when you ask, that will only make him defensive. Just be calm and rational.
2007-07-16 11:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by metrent74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋