i am 14 and i no thats to young to be having sex BUT my bf keeps asking me 4 it and i dont want 2 i am afraid of getting pregnant and i am scared cause it will be my first time please could you help me ?? what do u think i should do please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-16 11:13:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think you should wait til YOU WANT to!!! Do not let your bf force you into wanting to. Be strong and wait til you think the time is right!!
2007-07-16 11:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you asked for girls to help you and sorry Im a guy, but I was 14 before so I think I can help. Anyway, if he's pressuring you into something you dont want to do, then let him know that, he will either:
A) be mature and respect your wishes
B) dump you, in which case you are better off without that kind of peer pressure
C) pretend to be mature and respect your wishes and then cheat on you...
Sorry, 14 year old guys are this way. There are other things to satisfy his urges that dont involve the dangers of getting pregnant also.
2007-07-16 18:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by malachi_1616 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP him a.s.a.p. if he is pressuring you for sex then what does he really want? You or your body?
If you dump him then maybe he will learn to respect women and that he cannot be selfish and only think of himself.
You are way too young for sex!!!!!!!
Not just because your body is not ready yet, but you and your bf are not ready for the consequences!
2007-07-16 18:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T!!!! Never give in to someone else's pressure. If he doesn't respect your decision, then that's your red flag to move on. All he wants is sex. And when you give it up to him, he'll move on to the next girl. And, YOU will be the one left hurting and dealing with the regret for the rest of your life. Focus on teenage things right now, not sex. When you're older, you will find and fall in love with someone who actually gives a hoot about you and then you can think about giving your virginity to that person. I don't think anyone who lost their virginity at 14 didn't regret it later on in life. I was 27 when I lost mine and I don't regret waiting for one minute!!!
2007-07-16 18:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex if you are not ready for it. If your boyfriend truly does care about you he should not be pressuring you to do something you dont want. Have you told him you do not want to? You can get pregnant and that something at your age I wouldnt want to risk. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. If he doesnt understand he really isnt a guy you should be with. Great relationships have communication.
2007-07-16 18:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sakuni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to wait till u grow up and get old enough.don't make the wrong decision.your virginity is a special thing keep it until u r truly ready.and break up wit him if he keeps asking.think about it.my mom said a curse runs in the family.so what u do.when u r older u're kids will do it and so will there's.plus if u have a kid now.u won't be able to do homework,go to sleep,hang out wit friends,get child clothes,shoes,hats.because the baby will be crying or because u don't have any money.and your parents won't deal wit it either.
2007-07-16 18:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by betty boop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be scared. there are some majorrrr consequences that come with sex!!! he won't be your only b/f. don't let anyone pressure you!!!!!!!!! do it when your ready. p.s. my sister got pregnant at 14. it can happen to you.
also 14 is too young, as you yourself just said your not ready... hellllo! and there are sooo many more std's going around. kids today aren't very responsible...and please know a lot of std's don't show symptoms......
2007-07-16 18:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by stop it 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are kind of young to be getting into that. dont let your boyfriend pressure you. if your going to do it, you shud want to, too . if you do want to, dont be scared .just be careful and use protection
but if yur not ready, dont rush it. dont give in. wait till your ready . if you really love this boy it will be a good for you relationship if you wait.
if youve been dating for a long time this is why he may be askingg.
2007-07-16 18:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no, no matter how much you feel for him, you want to wait. If he leaves you because of your answer, he wasn't serious about you in the first place. If he stays and continues to pressure you, he doesn't respect your decisions, so look for someone who will.
2007-07-16 18:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until YOU'RE ready. tell him you're not ready to deal with the risks. if you do it for his benefit you'll definately regret it. trust me, i was pressured my first time. and i completely regret ever doing it with him. because if they don't wait until you're ready, then they don't respect you. and why would you want to waste something so precious on someone who doesn't respect you?! be strong girl! you have your whole life to do stuff like that.
2007-07-16 18:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋