breaking up at first was our age gap(him 27,me 37 but i look very young).Now he came back but i was shocked to find out that he still has these ideas and plus he doesn't want to spent the nights in my house like before,i mean he's a little distant.I really like him but for the first time in my life i feel insecure and sad.There's also another guy that he's very gentle and sweet and he cares about me.Even if i have real passion for my bf i think i have to stop it now bf i get hurt but it's very difficult to do it.I don't know how to move on.
2007-07-16 10:59:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me it's not just sex,i'm getting closer to him every day more and more
2007-07-16 11:02:25 · update #1
Hi dear! Well knowing how we guys are, I would be careful, you say yourself you get more and more in love with him, so I agree with you, end it now while it still some resistance left in you. He is to young to understand how lucky he is you know. I did not understand anything at all when I was 27, all I could think of was sex, and not to much else. Of course I am putting a little extra on here, but I don`t think he is cap-table of settling down yet, you tell yourself he don`t sleep over, bad sign I am afraid. Of course if you kick him out, you will have the upper hand again, so it is up to you. If you wanna be safe, kick him out, if not, have fun! Have a nice summer, peace and love from Norway
2007-07-16 11:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by thefallen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to break up with someone you were intimate with....but honestly you already know the answer: if you keep this relationship you will get more and more hurt...and also if he doesn't really want to commit that's because he doesn't LOVE you enough for you to keep him....but i think you shouldn't get involved with someone if you still have past issues to take care and let go....take sometime alone, or just go out with the other guy simply as a friend...don't get involved to forget the other, because it will not work and you might loose a good guy....i think you should try to do things with girlfriends that will take your mind off that ex...he doesn't value enough to keep you...he will use you and than dump you believe me!Good luck!
2007-07-16 18:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rute A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I hate to tell you this, but you do look 37. When people say what you say, they are kidding themselves. Look at your skin and look at a 20 something, and you'll get a real glimpse of what everyone else sees. Be your age, there isn't anything to be ashamed of.
Except for the man you are having sex with who is using you like a doormat. Why you don't have enough self esteem to see this is nothing I can help you with, but I'm betting its your fear of aging. Get some professional help and tell him to take a hike. You have passion for a guy that doesn't know you are alive. You can do better.
2007-07-16 18:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky there is another guy that sincerely cares for you. Forget your old bf. Keep telling yourself why you broke up and where it will go again in time. Then you will have lost the nice and gentle guy. Wish I had choices like that. Stay away from the old as it will bring you down. Stay with the new and see where it can lead.
2007-07-16 23:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a one way relationship. Your boyfriend wants to see you because of what he gets, sex, and each time you give this to him you get more emotionally involved. This seems like a dead end street, and you are going to get hurt sooner or later. The longer you let it go on the bigger the hurt is going to be. Now would seem to be the time to break it off face your sadness, and move on. It sounds like you have another man who is interested in you. Perhaps you should spend you time developing this relationship. I am sure in the long run it will make you feel better.
2007-07-16 18:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be getting closer to him, but he is in it just for the sex. That's not how you build a lasting relationship. He still had a problem with the age difference, but right NOW he needs you for sex. If thats all you want then take him back, but if you want more I would go with the other guy.
2007-07-16 18:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relation is never going to go farther than the physical as he has so stated. Your choice if you want to be used in that manner and not find a person who will actually love you for who you are and develop an actual relationship then as stated that is your choice and you will live with the consequences.
2007-07-16 18:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using u, wants to sleep with u but doesn't want to spend the nights with u, i would say he is seeing someone else, and keeping u on the line in case it doesn't work out with her, have a little self respect and dignity, love the man who shows u the most love and cares the most, dump the other one, his actions show that he has no intention of making it more than it is so go with the man who treats u with the most respect. u can love him all u want but he is not loving u back the way u need to be loved. he is with someone else or he would give u his undivided attention.
2007-07-16 20:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he's being honest with you. He's let you know that he is void of "feelings" for you and who you are.
He obviously doesn't give you any credit for intelligence either.
He may have a point seeing how you've accepted him back for those reasons he's given you.
I tend to believe that if you WERE intelligent, you wouldn't be in this situation in the first place.
2007-07-16 20:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question? You know the right answer. Do you just want to be a piece of a$$? Is that all you think you are worth? Hell, no its not. Kick his sorry butt away and see what happens with the other guy.
2007-07-16 18:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋