I am divorcing my husband and have left the home and i found out from my son that he is telling everyone i had an affair when i didn't. Anyone who knows me knows i didn't but anyone who knows of me do not know and i hate that he is slandering my reputation all around town. I live in a small town and word gets around and he knows that. I don't worry about it as i know i am innocent but it still is a nasty thing to do. What should i do and why is he doing this...it is so diabolical. It just shows that i am very correct in divorcing him though..huh? no doubts...
2007-07-16 10:23:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is pissed off and trying to hurt you.
The divorce must have been your idea.
2007-07-16 10:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by JF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male who faced the same problem but at a much worse degree....My advice to you is, whoever is engaging in the gossiping arena you need to ignore and not with attitude just a natural ignore the best way to hurt a person I've found out is to become successful , which in turn allows you to rise above all that chaos started by your ex
2007-07-16 17:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Gary C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be several reasons. 1. He is hurting and is trying to hurt you back. 2. He feels guilty and is telling everyone a lie to make it look like you were the one responsible for the break-up and not him. 3. He may really believe that the only way that you would leave him is if there was someone else.
2007-07-16 17:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by psyc78z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is what you think and know to be true*... There are always people who choose to believe the worst in people by wanting to put them down and find fault with them*.. By doing so they try to elevate themselves above everyone else*. Those who unjustly slander you or bear false witness against you will live to regret it one day*.. Do not let them push your buttons*. LOL.
2007-07-16 18:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone mentions it to you just say, "Yeah, he said he was going to start that rumor awhile back. Guess he did." and drop it.
Like you said, folks that know you, already know you...and folks that don't, well, who cares?
He 's playing the sympathy card. He's absolving himself of any responsibility for the break up. And he's hoping it will get back to some woman. Let it go. She'll figure it out....eventually.
2007-07-17 16:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a ad in the local paper why your divorcing him & that anything they hear otherwise is slander & you are considering suing him & anyone involved. ha
2007-07-16 17:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise your divorce lawyer that you want to add "Slander" in the divorce proceedings.
2007-07-16 20:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a court order for him for slander and defamation of character. He as adult and he should not be telling people about you. He is just a moron I suppose.
2007-07-16 17:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by leyte02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is the one that had an affair and now he is tryimg to make himself look and feel better just tell your lawyer they'lln know what to do about it
2007-07-16 17:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by jacksonsdetailing2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want a divorce.obtain written statements from the people with times that he accused having the affair.give them to your lawyer.
2007-07-16 17:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by john h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋