would you be open to a serious relationship with a man who has been divorced and has children? I am in this situation, and a lot of people disagree with this. Just seeing how you all feel about it? I think to disregard a man because of his past, we could be missing out on lots of potential. What do you all believe?
2007-07-16 10:03:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you. I've been married and am divorced; never had children. I would definitely not rule out a man who has children. What's more important is who he is as a person, and I understand children would be a package deal.
2007-07-16 10:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would disregard a man with children. Since I have never wanted children it would be unfair to him, his children, and myself if we got into a serious relationship. In the end, the relationship would fail because I would be unwilling to be a step-mom. I'm gotten into casual relationships with fathers...but they knew from the get go it wasn't serious.
I would not disregard a man who is divorced. I would scrutinize his past marriage for reasons of failure. I would look to see if those reasons have changed or improved. Very few divorces are ALL the other person's fault. It takes two to make a marriage, and it takes two to break one.
2007-07-16 10:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sir, the thing about men with children is, you have a life long bond with another woman and that could cause a lot of problems in itself, it can also be more damaging because some women are crazy. And other women (not me) do not like children, they are a lot of work and neverending jobs to take care of. It does seem unfair, but maybe you should think about meeting women who are divorced with children themselves, so that they are empathetic towards you. If you need to find a single woman with no children and no kids, then you are being biased too.
2007-07-16 10:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why it matters to some people. My X had never been married or had children. I do believe if he had experienced either in his life he wouldn't of had such high expectations that ruin our marriage.
But, hehehehehe-don't mean for this to be a dig, but by the looks of his new girlfriend he has lowered at least his expectations of looks. I know that was bad, but hey, he was pretty brutal to me sometimes about my looks.
2007-07-16 10:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be open to a serious relationship with a man who is devorced with children, just because someone is devorced with children does not mean they cant fall in love again with someone they get along with .
2007-07-16 13:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 23:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know because of the children part. Maybe. But I'm only 26 though.
2007-07-16 10:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think women are worse about this than men are. Just the way it looks to me.
My wife is much more jealous of my daughter than I am for her son.
2007-07-16 10:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is good to me, has healthy boundries with the ex and children and is smart about relating with all of us then I would see no problem with it.
2007-07-16 10:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Holiday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd prefer a guy without the baggage. But for the right guy, I'd reconsider.
2007-07-16 10:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋