When I was younger i dated an older guy. Our parents didn't like our age difference, so we had to hide. It got so hard, we broke up. I met my new bf, who I have been with for 4 yrs. and we have a son. I tried to tell him how confused I am because my ex contacted me again(it's been 2 yrs.) Anyway, my ex told me he loves me and misses me, and called me beautiful. This happened about 3 wks. ago. I told my current bf that I was confused about it and needed time to think. He siad it would pass. I still have feelings though. i've tried to tell my ex that we can only be friends, but I want more. I wish I could have both. LOL. Anyway, is this normal?? And how long has it lasted?
2007-07-16 09:26:29 · 18 answers · asked by Jenel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
very normal.. there is always somethng u like about ur ex that your current lover doesn't have
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2007-07-16 09:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that your heart does not care about your and your ex's age.
Matters of the heart, there is no such thing as age difference ,,, perhaps the most complicated of all that we humans have to deal with. Never regret how you feel for him or for that matter anyone, especially when they have touched your heart and it is clear that he has done that to you and you to him. Perhaps he is thinking the same you are thinking only he has acted on it by believing that you two have a slim to none chance of being together after what you ALLOWED YOUR PARENTS TO INTERFERE. In this case, I suggest follow your heart. Stay in touch with him, talk to him and tell him how you feel. Once in a while surprise him with a small gift, does not have to be expensive token to let him know that he is on your mind and that the distance between you will not change how you feel about him. In the morning, once in a while txt him "good morning" and wish him a nice day. At night once in a while txt him good night and wish him well. Again, it is clear that he is in your heart and while you may tell yourself that he is gone and you should try to forget him, your heart won't listen. If that is the case then you love him more than you know. If he loves you he will answer you. You seem to be an honest sincere good person does not just look for physical, smiles, money in a person. A good trusting, caring person wants and desires more than materialistic things and looks. Such a person like you seeks something deeper than the heart of another person. Talk to your current SO, So don't quit on the other and yourself, let him know that you love him and just by telling him but most of all by doing things, little things that show him that you care about him and that he is on your mind. Never regret love and purposely try to wipe it away. Yes it hurts s much sometimes but you also know it is the greatest feeling you can possibly have. God bless you and him regardless of your destiny. Express your love for him until he clearly lets you know he has another. Until that time, don't stop. True love will test your patience.
2007-07-16 16:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by jorge e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight...you have been with your current boyfriend for 4 years and you have a child together and your still just b/f & g/f? Why are you not married? Obviously there is something between the 2 of you that you are both a little unsure about.
If you are not 100% about your current relationship, then it would be normal for you to still have feelings for your ex. Because you are not being completely fulfilled. If you were happy then it would be abnormal.
It is always ok to care about an ex as a human being, but if you have emotional feelings about them then it is usually a sign that you are currently unhappy.
2007-07-16 17:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal to feel that way? Yes. It is normal. What would be ABnormal would be to take your ex back. He is your ex for a reason. Your problem is that you are obviously maintaining contact with him. Stop talking to the ex! Stop trying to be friends! Make him stay out of your life! Then, and only then, will you get over him. Let him go, or he'll sabotage every relationship you get into. Good luck!
2007-07-16 16:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have feelings for someone, they don't just disappear. They may fade to be less intense over time, but they will always be there. After all, you were attracted to him to begin with and it doesn't sound like you broke up under terrible circumstances. If you are happy with your current boyfriend and it would be hard on your son to make such a change in his life, I would try to keep everything in the past a nice memory.
2007-07-16 16:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by mmrn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over a year it's very unnormal to still having feelings.
You've shacked up and made a kid with another guy. so now your gonna drag your kid through your love life.......if thats the case leave him with his dad.
The only reason this probably has come up is because he contacted you, and said all these wonderful grass is greener on the other side things to you so now you think you have all these feelings for him.
It's lust and a wish to be back to what the relationship was before. Get over it and move on. Go get married to the guy you made a kid with and stop playing this game.
2007-07-16 16:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by lovelyinkedlady0613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Highly Normal
2007-07-16 16:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think about girls from the past all the time. And i feel that i have some pretty deep feelings for a lot of them lol. Some of them even strengthened and matured became more evolved or something. That doesn't mean i d call em right now and say all those words....although hm, if d have a number..who knows......who knows.....
2007-07-16 16:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by IggySpirit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is very normal. I mean I still have feelings for some of my ex's. Its completely up to you right now. Do you want to go back with your ex and forget about your current boyfriend or stay with him and forget your ex? It depends who you love more. And if you want to forget your ex, stop talking to him.
2007-07-16 16:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by A$HL3Y! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your question, but was about to not answer, then I thought......I might as well......
I have no feelings for my ex. He left me for his secretary. If you think anything different will be between me and my ex, you are in fairy tale land......If someone is "kinda playin around" then it is the same thing, why would he ever be faithful to anyone but himself.
Now my daughter seems to think that he is god, I should try to get back together with him....?? Do you think she knows that being split up means something to kids? Kids want their parents together......
2007-07-16 16:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is perfectly normal. i've had the same problem. my ex and i have a beautiful ten year old together. i now have a fiancee (ten years later) and still love the ex. however, i learned sometimes it is good to just be friends.
2007-07-16 16:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by clbecry1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋