I have been w/ my husband for 11 years and we've been married 9 years. Togethor we have 2 kids and I have a 12 yr old girl from my 1st marriage. I married way to young on that one and it only lasted 1 year. He has cheated on me in the past and now is picking fights w/ me over everything. He is trying to control me now more than ever and becoming verbally abusive. We as a team decided when our two year old was born for me to stay home and take care of the kids and help him run his business but now he is saying things like "He'll never have anything as long as I am here" and that I spending to much money even though he wont even put my name on the checking account and if i need money for anything i have to get it from him. The only thing i am allowed to spend money on is groceries and on rare occasions clothes for the kids. It's like he cant stand to be around me and the kids at all. He takes off all the time and leaves me w/ the kids. I cant even remember a day w/ out at least on kid.
2007-07-16 08:31:20 · 9 answers · asked by lilpixie133 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As painful as it may be, SOMETHING needs to be done right away. You should be honest with him, and suggest counseling. Tell him if he needs to at least TRY to save things. If he can not agree to even that minor thing, you should file for divorce. I know that is the last thing you want to do, but one person alone cannot carry a marriage no matter how hard they try. Good luck.
2007-07-16 08:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rav 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you truly believe that you deserve better than this? If the answer is yes, then it's time to say good bye. Unfortunately, the difficult part is actually DOING it - saying good bye that is.
My situation is very similar, been unhappy for quite some time but still haven't gotten the courage to say good bye. So I know first hand that it'll be tough, but just hang in there and keep your courage. You'll do fine and maybe even better without him.
2007-07-16 08:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you expect to stay home all day to stay with the kids, but you dont want to watch the kids? You either need to work or stay home and watch the kids. You dont get to sit around all day. You sound like your just whining because life isnt cake for you. Maybe you thought he'd give you a paradise for you and your daughter. Sorry, thats not the way it works. If you dont bring in money, you get the stresses of the kids.
As for the money, you need to sit down with him and explain that there are expenses for the house. My dad was the same way, he always used to yell about necessary expenses.
Just talk to him about it...
2007-07-16 08:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never wise to advise people for a divorce. As it's not easy for two persons out of billions to be able to be couple. But we all live once. No one should tell you whether it's time to say good bye, just ask yourself, is this the life you want? Remember, we all live once.
2007-07-16 15:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's time to say good bye to anyone that treats you with such disrespect and disregard. I would never let anyone talk to me that way.
2007-07-16 08:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know the answer. Yes, it is time to leave. Be brave and you and your children will be ok.
2007-07-16 08:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take back your life.
2007-07-16 08:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe you need to reconsider your relationship with this person*...
2007-07-16 11:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell YES!
2007-07-16 08:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋