cheated and sex?

Question

i caught my husband checking out videos on youtube about boobs. he always told me he hated people who did that......and he was doing it himself....i felt very cheated and cried for a lot of days...its about trust...if he likes doing things like this, why does he lie???? i dont feel like i want to have sex with him anymore....he argues constantly and opposes every little thing i do...this is my second marriage...i dont know what to do....

I may have missed out on the details...but we used to have a loooot of sex....like 5 times a night sometimes...i have been through an abortion due to him becuase he didnt have a job to support the baby.....when i met him he knew the first time i went through my divorce was because my husband went to strip clubs and didnt look for a job, and we had many arguments.....i am sad because i feel like a failure the 2nd time round...i am a 36c/d and have a great body and most guys may say i am pretty.....i dress very nice and cook dinner for him almost every night. work, and also do laundry, dishes, etc. he comes home and glues down to the computer....i dont feel like having sex anymore is because of this history...

he gets angry when i try to communicated...he has been to jail once becasue he hit me a lot...i didnt call the cops, the neighbors did

to all those who replied, that its ok to watch boobs on the internet. does it really stop there??? its everywhere, in the malls, at the pool, would'nt you feel insecure when there is any other woman with bigger boobs and u thinking i am sure my husband is lookin at hers..i have actually caught him loknig at other women from the corner of the eye.....his parents hate me and ask him to divorce me because i am not of his religion....

Answer 1

I know what you mean I don't have big boobs but their are not small but I hate it when your around others with bigger boob and you know or think your husband is checking them out because of it. and to make it worse his ex-wife had DD :( so i totally know what you mean. But you need to talk to him from what you are saying it doesn't sound like he treats you very good at all. I'm sorry but it doesn't, talk to him try to work things out. Good Luck and don't listen to those who think its a big deal its your life don't put up with it if you don't like it

Answer 2

you husband seems like one of those he does it, but like to point fingers at other. What can I say, you made the same mistake twice, maybe third time might be a charm. :O).

Or Instead of crying for day, you can ask him why did he feel the need to lie about it and make him fell comfortable so that he can feel like he can talk to you about anything. And he needs to do the same with you. This helps bulid a foundation for TRUST. 3 words, Communicate, Communicate and Communicate, leave the crying for the babies. Good luck

Answer 3

Maybe he lied because he was embarrassed about it. You need to sit down and talk to him about it. Not for nothing, he was just looking. Now if he's arguing with you and doesn't like anything that you do, you need to sit down and think about this relationship. What is it that you guys are arguing about? How often do you argue?How does the argument end? Think about these questions and see if there is anything you can do to stop the arguments.

Answer 4

I would not call your husbands boobing around youtube "cheating". Your quickness to not "want to have sex with him anymore" is indicative of a deeper issue between you.

"He" does not argue. The "two of you" argue. I think his opposition to "every little thing" you do is largely a state of mind created by the deeper issue.

Running away will not help YOU to grow. Solve your issues first and than, if your not happy, walk softly into the world of single people again.

Answer 5

You should get into counseling...individually for both of you & also together as a couple. You have several issues that need to be worked on (his watching the videos, how you feel about it, his opposition & arguing, plus whatever else might be there).

Answer 6

Instead of wasting "a lot of days" crying, why didn't you ask him why he was doing something he claimed he hated others for doing? No point in being upset that you caught him if you haven't attempted to discuss it.

Talk to him about this. Perhaps he's embarrassed...a lie is a lie, but it may not have malice behind it.

COMMUNICATE and save your tears for a more valid reason/time.

Answer 7

I've noticed my fiance buying alot of big booty girl porno videos..and this kind of bothered me to..i mean i didnt cry or anything but it bothered me because..i myself have a big booty so i wondered why he would want to look at another females booty..but u know what? Thats a mans thing..wether its booty or boobs.. there gonna look..why dont u start wearing some push up bras..and start showing ur cleavage more and maybe he will pay more attention to ur boobs.. wink wink.. dont stress over it... its only videos..

Answer 8

He lied because he knew you'd get upset. The vast majority of men look at porn. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He just wanted to protect you from being upset about something that really has no importance. The fact that you are having problems is not directly related to him viewing porn, is it? Sit down with him and try to work it out.

Answer 9

Guys do that...like 90% of them + do I would bet. I'm sorry you feel bad and I bet he is too but boobs are cool. My honest advice is you should go with it instead of worrying about it.

As far as arguing everything that seems a seperate issue.

Answer 10

It's going to be okay. He is a man and men do things like that
I understand he did lie, so forgive him and yall talk about it.
He is your husband Keep him happy so he won't to look at
any video. Drive him crazy do things you never done be 4.
stop cryn and be a good wife