Ok i have a friend and she wants to go skater. I totally support her but when i want to do somethin new she totally brings me down a bout it, I dont know what to say to her? What do i do???
2007-07-16 07:53:38 · 15 answers · asked by britt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say: "as friends we are supposed to support each other. I fell that i support you and your choices all the time, and i want you to do the same about my choices."
2007-07-16 07:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Amber Midnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 If she is truely your friend, she wouldn't put you down. She will be honest, it might hurt but she must be supportive at the same time.
#2 If you support her, let her know it. Tell her that you support her in any thing that she does that is positive and then ask why she doesn't support you?
#3 Friends talk and friends let each other know that you can talk about anything and that if we are going to be friends that we must be able to help and support each other.
#4 worst case scenario- you need to realize that she is not a friend if she brings you down. No one matter of fact should bring you down at anytime because if someone loves you, they won't hurt you. Sometimes we have to let go when we have no other choice because in the long run the only ones that get hurt is ourselves.
2007-07-16 08:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Matrixgyal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that. My friend will do only certain things and will go only to a few restaurants. I have talked to her about being more open and possibly enjoying things she declines to go to. She will turn down things weeks in advance because she may have to mow her grass as her grass is too thick to let it go just one extra day. She has so many excuses. Unfortunately, it may be too late for my friend, she is almost 40. If you talk to your friend about it, she may try to be more open. My friend wants to see certain movies. I don't, but I will go just in case I will like it. I have seen movies I do not like for her, but she will not see movies another friend and I suggest. Her excuse, I don't think i will enjoy it.......
Be honest and open with her. Try to compromise. In the end, it is not worth losing friendships over. I have come to terms that my bestfriend will not change and If I want to do things with her, it has to be on her terms. It is either that, or drop her as a friend. We have been friends too long for that.
We don't do so many things together as we use too. That is unfortunate. I try to see the good qualities in her. She never puts people down and always sees the good in people that others do not. Not many people are that way. It is up to you to decide what is more important for you.
Invite her to do some other things, if she doesn't want to, invite someone else. I have friends I do things with besides just going to dinner with some of them.
2007-07-16 08:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her and tell her how you feel. Talking to a friend always helps the situation. And if that doesn't work, tell her you always support her and its just not fair she doesn't support you and don't show her support so she knows how it feels.
2007-07-16 08:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Caity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask why? I know it's hard to confront people about what you don't like, but honestly, thats about the only you can do it: Openly tell them and talk about it. Does something about you bother here? Is it the kind of things that you do? Is she maybe just negative? I'm just guessing and throwing out possibillities here : )
2007-07-16 07:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mary M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question suggests you are thinking more about yourself than your friend. Do you truly support her?
By all means, do not discourage her simply because you feel she discouraged you in one of your endeavors. Perhaps she was right, perhaps not. Encourage her now, and talk to her about your slight later.
2007-07-16 07:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get new friends who can appreciate you re friendship, and wont discourage you, or make you feel small, no hard feelings on her part OK!. sometime we need good friend that well support and in courage us to do better, and make us feel like were somebody to. if need a friend i will love to be yours. you re boy Keith l
2007-07-16 08:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by keith l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do what she wants, and when you make your own choices dont consult her about them, just do it. Its sad to say, but its probly jealousy, I feel for you girl, I have a few friends just like that. I just keep them around for social purposes but They arent my BFF's u know.
2007-07-16 07:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by noodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do to her what she does to you then when she gets upset tell her that thats how you feel when she brings you down all the time.
2007-07-16 07:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jaylynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it then don't do it. If she ALWAYS brings you down then she is not your friend. She is just using you
2007-07-16 07:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋