What should I have done in this uncomfortable situation? Please read full story.?

Question

I have a guy friend, who I met a few years back. We get along pretty well and such. He never seemed like a pervert like some guys I see. However one incident made me question that:

One day he came over, it was just me and him, parents had gone out. We were chilling in my room, listening to music from his Ipod, however the night before I was up VERY late, so I slowly fell asleep.

Before I had fallen asleep, he had left to go talk to someone on his phone. Initially, I was sleeping with my face towards the chair he was sitting in. A little while later I turned my body around, with my back to his chair.

As I was napping, I felt a slight tug on my jeans. Figuring it was the wind or something, I kept napping. Then I felt a snap on my back, as if my underwear just got snapped. Still, nothing I thought.

Then, I could have sworn, I felt something cold, like a finger, go down my underwear and then the top of my underwear was being pulled, exposing my crack.

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At that point, I felt very uncomfortable and gasped when I felt another, more painful snap on my back. When I turned around, my guy friend was a few feet away from me. I was like "Oh My God!" in fright! He looked at me puzzled "What?" he said.

I stared at him, then felt my back. Sure enough my white painties were above my jeans, which gave me suspicsion that he was peeking in there.

I asked him "What were you doing?!". He stared at me for a second, then replied "Pranking you...Look I'm..."

"GET OUT!" I yelled. He kept trying to apologize, saying "it's not what you think"! I told him I never want to see him again, and he left.

I never felt so uncomfortable in my life! A guy was peeking at my butt while I was asleep! I pulled my pants up, made sure my underwear wasn't showing, and went back napping, almost crying at the betrayal...

Answer 1

I think you`ve just made the whole thing up. It just doesn`t ring true.

Answer 2

Wow honey I would have done the same thing. If there were other people in the room when he tried that it could have been a prank but all alone he was just being a pervert. I don't can how good of friends I was with someone, thats crossing the line.

Answer 3

Could it be that he was snapping your underwear to wake you up ya know just being a guy they seem to think those types of things are funny...maybee the blank look when confronted was true shock...like he didn't get why you didn't think it was funny too. I could be totally wrong but befoere ending a friendship you may want to talk to him first. Could also be he has a crush on you but is really afraid to tell you...yes that would definately be the wrong way to handle it but guys are sometimes idiots that way. You obviously care or would not have posted...so maybee just think about it.

Answer 4

If your friend made you feel violated, then you are right to ask him to leave, but is there a possibility that you over reacted to what actually happened. It seems like you did not give him a chance to explain what he was doing. Perhaps he was trying to wake you up and he saw the waistband of your underware exposed and he was just trying to snap your band to wake you up. Maybe he was a perv, bottom line is that you do not know for sure because you did not give him a chance to explain.

Answer 5

I artwork in a STD medical institution and am a HIV Educator/coach. We tell human beings in case you do not have a condom and the guy could be useful do oral intercourse it somewhat is a significant threat help for HIV. the rationalization being in case you get a sexual fluid on your mouth you spit (so it is not there to contaminate you) or you swallow (then the acid on your abdomen will kill the virus) SO the actual incontrovertible fact which you had unprotected oral is somewhat not a huge threat- in certainty if it became i'd be HIV+, after 12 years with a companion this is HIV+ and that i'm nonetheless detrimental. that's elementary for me to declare don't fret, yet your threat became minimum. For peace of innovations, get a HIV attempt now and yet another in 3 months and that they the two could be detrimental. stable success!

Answer 6

I think you did the right thing. You have instincts for a reason, and your initial gut reaction was "something is wrong!" You have to follow those instincts. They can sometimes save your life. I think it is really weird and definitely crosses the line for him to do something like that. For him to even THINK that was ok is weird to me. I mean, it's possible he was sexually attracted to you but there are other ways to show that intead of being a weido!! He could've come and spooned you from behind - just snuggled up next to you. You might have liked that but instead, he waited til you were sleeping to check you out. Weirdo!

Answer 7

yeah that would definantly make me uncomfortable... but you never know how a person really is at times.... I wouldn't talk to him and if he tries... tell him whats up why you aint talkin to him and suggest that he just turn around and walk away if he doesn't want any problems... yeah guys are curious but they should know between right and wrong

Answer 8

There is no "should have done" - you responded out of your feeling or being betrayed by his actions - which if they were what you presumed were inappropriate.
You now have to decide - if you are comfortable ever being alone with this person again and moving forward with your life.

Answer 9

Good for you for telling him to get out.You did the right thing.
I wouldn't want him for a friend either as he can't be trusted.
Friends like that you certainly don't need.

Answer 10

What the guy has done was a form of sexual abuse, your reaction is only natural but I recommend that you seek counseling to uncover all of your issues.