Friends and Relationships?

Question

I am not an a very outgoing person. I am always reluctant to go out with friends somewhere, mainly because of stomach problems. Although I do get out a lot despite my stomach, I feel that I am, by heart, not a traveling person. When I hear my other friends saying they go from 11 to 11 just driving around I get nervous and think that maybe I’m not normal because I don’t like to be spontaneous. I feel that I always need more and more friends and that not having lots of friends is bad thing, but I usually don’t even bother with them. Once I make the friends I usually don’t like to hang out and I don’t know what wrong. Please help me.

Answer 1

Frist things first is understanding what friends are good for. No use looking for something you don't know how to use. And don't feel weird about this people have two very different techniques for social learning. Some go ballz to the wall, some take there time and sip it, and every shade inbetween, so how you do doesn't matter, but finding out what it is your doing is the big thing. Also get strong with your mind, read, read, read! Its great doesn't matter what, also excersise, great for selfconfidence. And try to mature your understanding of your environment, get.... beyond your friends so to speck and you'll have a safty net, its about being comfrontable with you, if you can find a way to like to be you gaurentee you'll find friends. Also in my whole life I've only every had 3 friends (of course I wiegh what a friends differently then most, I use the term assoicates to discribe most people in my life) and most of the time just one good old best friend that was close enough to be my brother or sister. In the realm of friendship if you get it right, if you feel it right, one can always be more then enough! Besides if you do it right you never loss them.

Answer 2

Sounds like being a hermit. Just go out and have some fun!