My son is much better off with me, his mother doesn't work, has 3 other kids all by different men, lives off of food stamps. She does have a live in boyfriend, which my finacee and I also live together. In her care my 5 year old son has missed 11 days of school his first year in kindergarden, which he did pass. I am always the one to take him to the DR. as she will not ever take him. She has let her boyfriend spank my son to the point that welts were left on his legs from a belt for a few days. I did call Social Services, and they just don't give a crap, they check out there home and later dropped the case. Also she lets my son watch really bad movies, like pg-13, and he is only 5. I guess my question is, should I just get over it, and have to learn to deal with the way it is, I mean I see my son 50% of the time, but at this point I feel he needs more stability, instead of back and fourth, we live 25 miles apart. Or should I fight for full custody??
2007-07-16 05:47:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Listen up ... GET A FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY! If you ex-wife's boy friend put "welts" on the child, you hopefully took the child to the hospital and had them examined, PHOTOGRAPHED, and treated.
As far as her not working, that's not going to be held against her. She should be getting child support from the three other daddies and if she gets custody of your child, you'll add to the kitty as well.
DOCUMENT every negative aspect of her care for your child and make sure your attorney is able to provide that evidence to court.
The court is legally directed to act in the best interest of the child. Since I am only hearing one side of the story, and it would obviously be a little biased, I couldn't tell you if you can show that the interest of the child is best served in your custody or not.
2007-07-16 06:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly feel your son is not getting the care that he should be then you have an obligation to do something about that. I would think that you can certainly try for full custody or maybe you can work something out with the mother so that no one has to be dragged through court. If social services has dropped the case then most likely there is no real neglect or danger to your son but maybe you can offer more. Be careful not to put your son in the position of having to choose a parent and try to do everything as civil as possible so your son won't suffer. Good luck to you all.
2007-07-16 06:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you NEED to get custody of your son. He is getting harmed in an enviorment trying to kill him. Obviously his mother does not give a crap about him, and he needs a better father figure in his life. By the way im reading his life id better off with you and your fiancee. You have a plenty good enough reason. Just whenever you see him, take pictures of marks left ans show it to the judge. Also point out the points on how he lives. He should be more healthier if he had real foos and not food stamps. You sound like a very good father, and you should know whats right for your son. Fight for full custody of that boy, and he is your full priority. Good luck, i know you will get him in your custody.
2007-07-16 06:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by *♥F3LiCiA♥* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have issues. You have asked this question over and over... you even asked it as if you were the mother. STOP, get help, deal with your own issues and maybe one day you'll be well enough to have full custody of your son. You cannot tell the mother what she can and cannot do while the child is with her, just as she can't tell you what to do. If the situation is serious enough, the court with intervene. Otherwise, you'll just look like an @** bringing her back to court for petty stuff. Speak to the mom about the BF not punishing the child, she may just agree with you.
2007-07-17 08:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by aphrodite_ak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get custody of your son, not because she has children for different men or that she lives on food stamps. But because she allows someone to spank her son to the point that he has welts. Speak to an attorney, and document every thing. Keep a journal and take pictures or videos of everything. Good luck. 2D
2007-07-16 06:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you sense that he would be extra suitable off on your place, then heck particular combat for him! regrettably, maximum states have a heavy leaning in the direction of the mother in custody cases. There must be something considerable happening as in abuse or overlook so the courts will provide a newborn to the father finished time. i'd say get a criminal expert and combat for what you think of is terrific. perchance use the boyfriend spanking your son as grounds to document custody papers. additionally, has your son expressed that he'd rather stay with you. that would desire to be a good indicator of what may well be happening which you won't be able to make certain. ask him what he feels approximately it.
2016-10-21 11:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would petition the court for full custody arguing that she is an unfit mother who is allowing your son to remain in an abusive environment (i hope you took pictures of those welts) with her live in boyfriend and argue neglect because the truancy from school.
2007-07-16 05:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on the facts presented, I'd suggest going for full custody.
See a lawyer.
2007-07-16 05:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by open4one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately and I am sorry to say, it is next to impossible for fathers to get full custody of their children without proving that the mother is totally negligent. My husband and I have full custody of his daughter, but this battle took YEARS. And her mother is a crack-whore (literally) that has been in and out of rehab, jail and lost all of her other children. I wish you the best and I would consult a lawyer, but it is going to be hard.
2007-07-16 05:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kari D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋