Hi,
He proposed me many times until i agreed to marry him. I invested all my emotions into it and then one day suddenly he comes back and tells me that its over as his parents are not ready to accept his love. He said he is sorry for his mistake and asked me to move on. I'm angry,hurt,mad and sad. Now he is engaged to another girl chosen by his parents. I feel like revealing the truth to his would be. What you people say?
2007-07-16 05:43:58 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Revealing what? He broke up with you and moved on...your story didn't indicate any "cheating" occured.
As far as I can tell, you've got nothing to reveal.
2007-07-16 05:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You loved the man who had wet feet and be happy that he proved his worth before marriage . You are saved of future troubles. otherwise he would have always made you follow the dictats of her mom..
Mom in law are ther to stay that can not be denied in India
the emotional investment you made is not gone waste . you learned a lesson .
You will have better skill to deal with future relationships if u try any time.
do not loose heart. Forgive and forget what happened.. Release your negative feelings and never start new issue of revealing the past to his new wife..
this will do good to you..
this will waste your time money energy and fight will cause you agony, mental as well as physicall.
and last is that you are Still keeping the relations alive with him, if not as wife then by enemy.. why play a looser game
Life vast.. find a new frnd. and now you have better chance to spend time creatively .. Do not hurry for marriage.. Learn some skill . Earn find job secure your finance and be your master such that you will have better bargaining power..
this is 21st century.. you shold prove that you are liberated woman and not som dumb goat
2007-07-17 05:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by krishprud@yahoo.co.in_KISHORLAL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that. You want to do that because you've been hurt, and you don't want things to work out with him and his new girlfriend. Those are not good reasons. And don't say it's because you want her to know the truth about him. For whatever reason, he didn't want to continue his relationship with you. If he used his parents' disapproval as an excuse, then so be it. The bottom line is that he wanted to move on. Everyone has a right to do that. The one left behind may not like it, but we don't own another human being. The best thing you can do is to stay out of his life and what's he's doing now. Concentrate on your own life instead of dwelling on a bit of revenge. It will hurt you alot more than it will hurt them, and you'll just end up looking foolish.
2007-07-16 05:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Dont even think about it! It's normal for you to feel like getting back at him coz of all the pain, but no.
Move on with your life, girl! You're lucky you didnt marry that guy! His parents chose the girl that he's gonna marry? He's spineless, loud and clear! You think you could have had a good life with him when his parents are always telling him what to do and he obeys them?
Leave them alone...That poor girl that he's marrying probably doesnt know what she's getting into.
Besides, do you actually think she'll believe you? Remember, you're the ex who got dumped by him! She'll just think that you're really pathetic that you'll resort to badmouthing other people.
Save your pride, woman!
There's a lot of fish in the sea...so go fishing! Now.
2007-07-16 05:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What truth would you be revealing? That he loved you and proposed but his parents didn't approve?
I understand that you are hurt and that you invested a lot into a relationship that ended up not working out - but what good would it do to tell his current fiance about his past relationship with you? He didn't cheat on her, he was honest with you about why he couldn't be with you - even if his honesty wasn't what you wanted to hear - I would be thankful that he told you the truth.
Many people have been in relationship where they were in love, talking about marriage, engaged, etc..etc...but when those relationships end - thats the end...we meet new people and continue our future. If you truly care about this man you won't try to ruin his future with someone that his parents approve of (and obviously his parents approval means a lot to him)
Move on, there are other fish in the sea, and it is possible that you will get hurt again...But you have to put yourself out there and be open to new things, and as long as you are dwelling on your ex and his new fiance, you may miss something wonderful that is right in front of your eyes!
Good luck
2007-07-16 05:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ilikepinepple 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey
I empathise with what you have gone through and it's not easy to come over from this BUT I would suggest this is not the right time to take revenge.
If at all you want to make him pay -- hold on your anger at least till he's engaged and then burst... to make full impact.
Prsently concentrate on collecting yourself and coming up more strong. Planning on pros and cons of the scenario when you throw this on him.. As it would have a backfire on you too...
I would say... keep your calm but don't forget or forgive... then plan and execute for maximum impact...
In case you require more on how to-- do let me know
2007-07-16 17:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by vicky4us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In What way will it help you??? He loved you.. Okey... It was just Infatuation.... the only thing you going to gain is hate from a person and guilty feel in long run of spoiling the feelings of a girl and a boy.... You find some other good guy and marry him and be happy... Why want to disturb his as well as your life, emotions....... If you do that... As you have mentioned you are mad...... You are a dirt on the name of madness.......
2007-07-17 12:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by sumanth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your purpose would be? To get him back? To hurt a stranger and hope to hurt him as much as he hurt you?
He apologized and asked you to move on. He behaved badly yes, but people caught between an old culture and a new one often misjudge how much change is possible in themselves and in others. (See Fiddler on the Roof.)
She knows she was picked by his parents. She knows that he's willing to let love grow between them if it will. The reason to tell a new "would-be" is to warn them of similar circumstances producing a similar bad response, such as if he'd beaten you or cheated on a previous spouse. She is already approved by his parents. The circumstances are very different so the response may well be different too.
2007-07-16 05:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...He didn't exactly Cheat on you even though what he did was kinda wrong....His problem is that he cares more about what his parents think and making them Happy then about you, so I'd say count yourself lucky cause if he did go ahead and Mary you then you two probably would have had some problems seeing as he sticks so close by his parents.
but anyways Unless this girl is a friend of yours then I'd say stay completely out of it.
~Good luck I hope you find a better guy!~
2007-07-16 06:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She will find out the hard way about him, just like you did.
your hurt naturally, but this is obviously out of your hands, especially if the guy has no backbone and cant think for himself to let his parents pick his wife to be. What year is this? Is he royalty? count your lucky stars, you avoided a fatal car crash. Really, move on. Let the new girl learn for herself about him, you would probably make yourself look like the bitter ex trying to cause trouble is all.
2007-07-16 06:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by rainydaze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like both he and his family are not worth your effort and the abuse of your emotions...trust me- getting back into the situation- even just to expose hurts- is not going to do any good and you don't want to engage and unearth even more issues that you will have to deal with on your own...
I agree- move on and look for a man who is proud of you, has a family that is healthy and keeps in touch (but not too much, if you get my drift) and respects you for who you are!
His "would be" (I assume you mean his betrothed) is probably aware of the situation and she has made her choice...
2007-07-16 05:52:09 · answer #11 · answered by shutterbug1410 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋