I am recently married to my husband whom i adore and am very attracted to, I believe he feels the same way. We dated for about 5 years before we married and have always had a good to normal sex life, i trust him and have never suspected him of cheating. i recently found out i was pregnant and my husband is thrilled. Our lovemaking has slowed down a bit understandibly. My question is lately he has been waking me up in the middle of the night to have sex, but he is alseep at the time! He doesnt even remember in the morning. He is never violent, mostly playful but very aggresive,it hurts my feelings that he isnt as into it in the waking hours. This has never happned before and seems to have started around when i got pregnant. Should i be nervous, he has been very stressed lately and works a million hours to save money for the baby, and has been fixing our house on the weekends, he has been drinking a lot more lately which i have been letting go because he's with friends. What do i Do?
2007-07-16 05:28:07 · 4 answers · asked by Julie C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is our first child. I try and give him *favors* when he gets home, as well as cook dinner and make his lunch everyday. Buthe;s just distant and not interested.
2007-07-16 05:29:01 · update #1
I would definitely be concerned about this. There are studies done about sleepwalkers... It sounds as if this is what is going on. It is not uncommon for them to become violent and not even realize what they have done when they wake. I think it goes beyond the not being interested in sex in the waking hours... Obviously it is stressful to be newly pregnant (for both partners!) however, I don't think this is a normal reaction.
I would definitely ask him to go with you to your doctor and see what he/she thinks would be the best move from there.
Very Best Wishes!
2007-07-16 05:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by gracie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he is asleep like sleep walking sex??? Creepy I would have done it the first time but after that I would try waking him all the way up before he did it again. Then he doesn't remember having sex that's not cool. I would try waking him up all the way before letting him have sex with me. Plus maybe too many *favors* in between time I would cut him off for a week or until he notices and go from their. He has alot on his mind and he needs to start to focus on whats important and rolling over in a half sleep pumpin on your leg is not what it do.
2007-07-16 05:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by MYAB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he needs to see his doctor or a psychologist. There's a reason why he's interested in sex in his sleep but not in his waking state. I'd advise that you find out why.
2007-07-16 05:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy the sex..maybe he is stress..try to make him feel better
2007-07-16 05:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋