I love my husband but I am so unhappy with the sex in our marriage. I don't want to cheat but I feel like I am getting close. I am finding it harder to turn down guys that hit on me and find myself fantasizing about other men when I am with my hubby.I know he is happy with our sex life. Should I have an affair?
2007-07-16 05:25:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you should not have an affair if he says he loves you and he acts like it too. you can always work it out. Be onest and tell him that he is not good in bed.. It might be hard for him first to hear it because he might have thought that he was doing a good job. but if he loves you he will do anything ad work at it. You can even go to Spensers and get you guys something fun and exciting to play or even to wear just to spice up your sex life. It doesn't hurt trying new things. Good luck to you
2007-07-16 05:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you're unhappy now, imagine, how unhappy you would be if he found out about the affair. Its not his fault that you dont like your marriage sex, becuase he doesnt know!
let him know first and try working on it before you even think about other guys. and by the way, if you had an affair with one, it will be like an open door to have more.
Dont forget your the vows you made and remember its marriage NOT dating. I respect that you asked before having an affair.
Be happy and accept your husband and let him know what you want. It will work.
Good luck
2007-07-16 07:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by fine touch of class 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erase the idea from your mind. If you feed the desire to have sex with other men, you will eventually fall into temptation or you will grow to resent your husband. Instead try adding some spice to your sex life. Watch porn together. Go to a sex shop and pick up some toys. Do some role playing. Travel around and have sex at different locations. Maybe even just park somewhere and do it in the car like a couple of teenagers.
2007-07-16 05:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy doesnt want sex, then there is something wrong in his head or his head. If its his technique, then its up to you to teach him to make it work for you. No good could come from having an affair, if you do, you might as well call it quits with your marriage now and save everyone some grief.
2007-07-16 05:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? I've been married for 28 years and honey to tell you the truth, sex is not the major factor in our marriage. In fact, if our marriage was based on the sex alone, I would've left 28 years ago....:)
Anyways, let's be honest with each other...was the sex good before you were married? When did you begin to notice that the sex wasn't good? Honey, as a woman, we always have to add the spice in the marriage (sex life) to keep it running smoothly...What you have to do is take charge to get sexual satisfaction from your man or else you will continue finding yourself wanting to cheat on him...
2007-07-16 05:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an affair will accomplish much except engender a quick Big O followed by shame, remorse and divorce. Talk to your husband. Take charge and be creative. He will like it if you are the one initiating sex. Think of what you can introduce into your love making sessions to spice them up.
2007-07-16 05:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you said something to him? That would be my first action step - to actually talk to him and get this out into the open. Before cheating, I'd try to work this out with him. What kills me is that there are sooo many guys who would love to have this problem, me included. My wife is like your husband. It's frustrating to the 'nth' degree. Hope this helps and good luck.
2007-07-16 05:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 22:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by rouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sex book and start reading it so that he sees it, suggest to him new techniques and see a sex therapist if that doesn't help, but no affairs.
2007-07-16 05:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by fran j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd rather discuss this with strangers on the internet instead of with your spouse where it could actually make a difference in your life? You'd rather cheat on your spouse than talk to him about how you feel? Are you 12 years old? Act like an adult and solve your own problems.
2007-07-16 05:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋