Should it be used only as a last resort? Should anyone be allowed to divorce for any reason? What if there are children involved? How about the vow "...til death do us part?"
2007-07-16 05:21:29 · 15 answers · asked by Heart of Fire 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Divorce is and should be an option at all times for someone in a marriage. Sometimes, sticking it out in a bad marriage, whether bad due to abuse, mental anguish, oppression etc is worse than leaving the person.
Nothing in life should be binding for an entire lifetime as that is just ridiculous when you think about just how long that is, and how many things could go wrong.
Divorce sometimes is also a kinder situation for children. I think it is better to have divorced parents than have married parents that fight all the time or one abuses the other. That is mentally unhealthy for the child and will not teach them proper respect and dignity.
Divorce may not be a pretty thing for a lot of people but it is a necessary institution. One the flipside I also think that people should be more careful in whom they marry these days. They just do not take marriage seriously, which results in a lot more divorce than there need be.
2007-07-16 05:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the circumstances. Sometimes the best thing for the couple is to be divorced, when children are involved, it is even worse, because the parents are not thinking of the children at this time, they are thinking of themselves (unless of course the husband is abusing everyone). That is what most people forget when they get married and start families, they forget that their egos are last on the list. The spouse and foremost the children and their well being come before anything. Marriage is giving up your independence and sharing with your new family unit. Everything that is done needs to be in best interest of everyone involved, not just one of the selves. I would hope that some intervention could be made to attempt to keep the family from breaking up, and be successful with that. However, in cases of abuse, no question, divorce ASAP.
2007-07-16 05:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
society has gotten better since divorce was easier to obtain. The more freedom a person has, the happier they will be, and the better able to improve their lives. From a society perspective, I think it is important that those who seek divorces are able to get them.
at the same time, nobody gets married expecting to divorce. And if you are willing to promise your life to a person, you should also be willing to try everything to fix your problems, before giving up and quitting. Certainly if children are involved, it means that you should try extra hard before deciding that divorce is the only option left.
However, I think that staying together for the children is a big mistake. Children need a happy, loving home, more than anything. If the parents hate each other, children will be happier with divorced parents, than living with the constant tension and bad feelings that come from two people who hate each other staying together. Divorce is sometimes best for the kid.
2007-07-16 08:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the bible it says the only allowable reason for a man to divorce his wife is adultry. This was way back when women couldn't initiate the divorce, so factors such as abuse were not a consideration. To me, adultry is one acceptable reason for divorce, and the other is if you are not able to be safe and have basic needs met (I'm talking about food and shelter here, not emotional needs) in the marriage, like in an abusive situation. However, marriage is binding, and after a divorce to be with another person is still adultry, even if that piece of paper says your not married anymore. So, then, I think the question is; Is it better to be alone forever than married to the person?
2007-07-16 05:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jennie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. It's sad, but I think people should do what they need to, to be happy. Life is very short. My parents were divorced after 21 years, both are happier, and they have always acted like really close friends. That is the ideal, mature way to handle divorce--even if there are no kids. People change, but if you once loved someone, I think the love doesn't go away, it just evolves into a different kind of love. Anger, bitterness, blah, blah, blah. Why fight what is? Accept, and move on is my motto. As long as we are breathing, there is always another great experience ahead.
2016-05-19 01:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage was made in Heaven and divorces were made in Hell. Endure your ups and downs because it's worth it. I almost went through with a divorce once because we were in a state of confusion but my wife got us into marriage counseling and it worked for us. And now I would advise people to stick it out. I used to think life was too short for bad situations but not any more. I'm glad we stayed together. 'til death do us part is a good vow.
2007-07-16 05:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by thomas m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is what I am struggling with right now... I found out last month that my husband has been having a 2 1/2 year affair on me. I told him I wanted a divorce and my 14 son doesn't understand why I cant forgive him and start "new" like my husband wants to do. no matter how stupid this is I'm trying to work it out in my own head that maybe we can start "new" again mostly for our sons sake. We have been married for 21 years and have ALOT invested in this marriage. Hmmm sorry not much help to you, I'm confused myself. Good luck!
2007-07-16 05:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes divorce is one of the best ways to mess up with your children's future, get them into depression and to make them lose their lives.
I know some people at my age whose parents were divorced or were about to get divorced, and I pulled them away from killing themselves and cutting ALOT.
Most of the people who get divorced do not deserve to have kids. It's very rare when I find divorced people who still give a damn about their kids.
Feeling "bored" or like you want to change some things in your life including being married is NOTHING when it comes to your child's life, future and safety. If parents can't raise kids, then why do they fight to have them?
2007-07-16 05:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think life is too short to spend it feeling unloved or unwanted, children or no children. Children suffer emotionally when their parents don't genuinely love each other and it would be better if each parent had a chance to find someone who loved them. You can't fool your children anyway but why try to give them a false picture of what marriage is? It's not honest to stay married without mutual love and respect.
2007-07-16 06:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents wanted to get divorce ever since, but they kept in mind that it isn't a good option, because you obvious need two parents to support the family with money, food, do the chores etc. No matter if you dont love them, you will still need them, and like arranged marriages, no one chose who they wanted to get married, they got married and things works out differently.
2007-07-16 05:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Red Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋