My wife and I are going to have a second wedding for friends and family members; however I have a brother that is a homosexual. Personally I believe he is misguided as he is very young and our father (whom did not raise me) has not given him the guidance in learning how to become a man. Anyway, my wife and I have children and like all children it can be easy to give them an impression. My wife and I raise our children in the Church. I have asked that if my brother does accept our invitation that he comes in with respect and as the man he is to be. It's not a matter of hurting his feelings and their are a lot of things that people feel is right - even though they know it's wrong, i.e. rape, murder, incest and so forth. So hurting his feeling is only not accepting the truth. My question is for those who share the same beliefs how have you dealed with homosexual family members?
2007-07-16 05:08:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
So, this is, what? A 4 hour event?
If I an extending the invitation, I feel I have the right to set the terms of the event, not a person's life.
The family member can either accept the terms of my invitation or not.
For example, I have asked relatives to refrain from certain conduct that I know would disturb other guests only for the duration of the event. Afterward, they are free to live however they chose.
Your children will learn that you can love someone without violating your principles. That is, you can't tell him how to live his life, but you can dictate what kind of behavior is and is not acceptable at your brief affair.
2007-07-16 05:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Seems so. . . 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You are lucky he is only homosexual and NOT a rapist or murderer or committing incest, activities which are criminal and nowhere in the same category of being homosexual, but by the way you are making demands on your brother, they might as well be the same thing.
No one is perfect but if you think your brother is committing a sin, since you are a Church goer, if Jesus could eat with the "outcasts" of society, then you should be able to do this with your brother as well.
2007-07-16 05:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by X-Ray 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He is not misguided he is born that way, this is fact it is somethings that happens in utero. Your children will not "turn gay in your terms" by being around your brother. Also, what religion is it you beleive in that turns their back on their family? You want your brother to act the way you want so he conforms to you and your wifes idea of what correct it. You won't have another brother like him and if you are that ashamed of him that is a total disgrace and I think you need to go to your pastor and discuss that. I bet you treat animals better. This is your family your brother you're supposed to love him. Never look to change another it isn't right. Either you want him there as he is or you don't I would never be ashamed of my family , my religion didn't teach me that, neither did my parents.
PS: gay men are not pedophiles so you and your "misguided" wife can remain calm.
2007-07-16 05:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Be honest. You are ashamed that your brother is gay, you want him to come and act straight so none of your self-righteous church friends associate that with you. Your faith has taught you to turn your back on your own brother because he is different, deny who he really is, and expect him to do the same. Let's just hope your brother is a stronger, more forgiving man than you because there is a hot pink feathered boa out there screaming his name.
2007-07-16 05:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound very judgmental for a so-called Christian.
Ever read about the Good Samaritan story, the so-called "good" folks didn't give a rat's *** about the poor slob who got the **** knocked out of him, it took a stranger who wasn't "in the church" to save him.
Hint hint - being "in the church" is meaningless because you could just be following the words of the other sheep.
2007-07-16 05:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is not the example of Christ....Christ would have shown love to your brother...How is your treating him like an outcast in any way mirroring the love of Christ?...Tell your children that you do not approve of his lifestyle, but as christians, you are called to above else treat yuor brother with love and respect....I sense hypocracy in you...Maybe you should read Romans 1 and 2 and see how well you measure up.
2007-07-16 05:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
With a brother like you, it makes me glad all I have is a sister.
You say he should come with respect and as the man he is.
Why can't you treat him as the man he is and with respect?
Your brother is gay no matter what the Church says. There is nothing, I repeat, nothing that is going to change that.
And what does homosexuality have to to do with rape, murder, incest and so forth?
You, Sir, show your ignorance and passing that to your children is, in my opinion, child abuse.
2007-07-16 05:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
You are disgusting human being. He is your brother, and you are going to ask him to deny who he his, because of your pathetic beliefs. I hope he doesn't come to your wedding, as you very obviously don't want to accept or deal with you brother. Goodluck with your sad bigoted view of the world.
2007-07-16 05:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
deal with them in love...Christians have no right to alienate ANYone, not even a family member...those are the worst types of Christians (probably the most common) its not your fault, most churches deem homosexuality as unacceptable under any circumstance.Homosexuality is not something that I condone, and I believe that it is a sin...but there are MANY sins that even us Christians commit...we ALL fall short of the glory of God. Jesus' love and sacrifice was/is for ALL of us...because of his lifestyle, he probably gets bashed enough, he doesnt need that from family to...Im sure he wont do anything embarrassing, and homosexuality is NOT a disease or something that he can really hide...walk in love!
2007-07-16 05:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by karyzmatik87 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
You invite this person and treat him with great respect. This is his election by being homosexual. As a Christan set an example, and except him as he is. Do not say evil things to him. Love him as God loves him.
2007-07-16 05:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋