this happen to me and lots of other guys i know, they get married to a hot girl. they start a family have a baby and the hot wife starts dress like a granny, stops taking care of herself, and begins to let herself go.
they dont dress sexy like they use to, now im not talking about in front of the kids. when they go out for dinner when they get a baby sitter stuff like that
ladies whats the deal
2007-07-16 05:07:21 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all do, I'm 35 with 4 children and I don't dress Motherly. I act it but like to wear the latest fashions.
2007-07-16 05:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by stinkypinkyteddybear 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most of the answers that go along with we're too tired and have to take care of the children is true. My husband is in the army and is deployed so you should count your blessings that you are able to be home to see your child grow up. My youngest daughter is 10 months old and her father has spent all of 17 days with her since she was born. I gained a little weight and am still trying to get rid of it, i admit i look like crap sometimes but i just don't have the energy to dress up, yet my husband still thinks im sexy and attractive. After all i dont look like crap all the time, as im sure your wife doesn't either. Instead of telling her shes not attractive be supportive and say I'll watch the kids so you can work out, or find a babysitter and go with her. Be supportive and maybe she'll want to dress up for you more.
2007-07-16 09:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by April D. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons that women start to do this. Part of it could be because they no longer feel like that sexy girl they one were. Having children changes your perspective on the way you look at things. Add in lack of sleep, being spit up on all the time, and just the normal things that go along with being a Mom, well the looking sexy part seems to take 2nd place. Plus add in that having children changes MOST women's bodies, that is a big part of not dressing like we used to! And I know in my house with three kids, there are a lot of things they need more than I need a sexy little dress or outfit! So, Priorities change too.
Hope this helped you understand.
2007-07-16 05:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angie D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a mother of 2 and have a full time job. I cook, clean, laundry, etc and still manage to try to look my best. I dont dress like a granny but more fashionable. Once a woman becomes a mother, the 1st thing they think of is their child. Are they hungry, sleepy, crying, uncomfortable, etc? We woman tend to pay more attention to our children then man.
So it is obvious that we woman get more stressed out, tired, sleepy, moody and exhausted at the end of the day.
Yet, I always try to look the best for my husband. Not only does he know he has a great wife, but also a wonderful mother for our children = )
2007-07-16 05:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just easier. I have two boys and let me tell you when they are babies a woman doesn't want baby food/milk, throwup, diaper situtations, etc. to mess up our nice clothes.
I am a working mother and I have to dress up for work but at home I want to relax, put on some comfy clothes because I usually have to cook or clean something. Not too mention I am tired after working all day and doing motherly things.
As a father, be there for her because she is majorly struggling with her womanly image after having a kid because some women aren't sure how to find that balance. Also, offering to watch the kids so she can pamper herself(salon, spa, working out) because moms tend to put their self last.
I do try to look nice and sexy if we are going out alone; the boys are embarassed if I am showing too much skin around them(kids don't want mom to be sexy).
2007-07-16 05:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by JenKat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most women slow down on the material things but if she has just really let her self go and stopped taking care of herself then there is a problem. She may be depressed or just needs some more time for herself or to get out of the house more. Does she stay at home with the kids? this is great but tends to really give you the "blahs!!" maybe she needs to get a part time job, take a night class, have a night or day every week to do something that gets her out of the house and away from the kids (even though we love them-we need time away)
talk to her!! I understand your being upset. I love my hubby for whats inside but sometimes he comes home from work, hasn't shaved in 3 days, puts on an old grubby T-shirt and shorts and drinks beer in front of the TV and looks like a big slob!! sure I love him for whats on the inside but c'mon-- Take a little pride in yourself, right?
Talk to her but choose your words carefully, ok? Good Luck! =0)
2007-07-16 05:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its called priority, certain things are not as important anymore as they used to. Back then when I was single, my priority was looking good in front of the Ladies, going to the Gym 3-4 times a week, getting buffed and working on my Abs. Now after being Married with two kids, try to duplicate your schedule when you were still a bachelor. It is nearly impossible
2007-07-16 05:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you have a newborn and it's your first one. And I'm also pretty sure that your working and are never home. Why dont you try to look at it from the other side??? Concept, I know... just try to grasp your tiny head around that one for a minute. I'm sure she's doing a whole heck of a lot more at home with your baby, then your doing at work with. Maybe you should be a nice husband, instead of complaining, and whinning like a little b**ch and give her the day off.
2007-07-16 05:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kasandra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instinct. It's hard to be hot & sexy while you're taking care of a childish husband & children. A real man would find the mother of his children sexy especially while she's caring for his children. And real men would lend a helping hand so that she will have time to care for herself. I wouldn't be married or have children with a shallow ingrate like you. What's the deal? 2D
2007-07-16 05:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by 2D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For lots of reasons. Having a baby destroys your figure, we don't feel sexy anymore and the clothing don't fit well anymore. Plus they are tired because they have no break and don't feel like wasting time on being pretty. Maybe if they get a break once in a while they can go to the gym and take more time to pamper themselves.
2007-07-16 05:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Artemis 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you had to work for 24 hours a day 365 days a year, don't you think you might be tired? After waking up all night long to feed the baby and get them back to sleep, we are just to tired to lift our arms to put any make up on. doesn't really matter how old the kiddos get, we are still always the one the call on. They had a nightmare, they have problems in school, they are upset because they didn't get the right clothes. The list goes on and on. It's hard to run the kids lives as well as your own. My advice. If you want her to spruce up, consider watching the kids yourself and sending her to the spa for a relaxing day.
2007-07-16 05:12:02 · answer #11 · answered by jade2311 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋