hi...i'm a 24 yr old woman.....married for half a yr. my hubby is 27 and our marriage has all the ingredients it takes to make one. but we had an argument over something yesterday and it snowballed into a bad fight. my hubby is not the one to lose his cool easily but this time he's had it. i sulked all day and my ego didn't allow me to say a simple sorry. to be honest...i was the one to start the argument...i just meant it as a joke but it's gone too far. he ended up saying,"stop being childish.". i know i've been immature about it but he's been a little cold towards me since then...maybe too angry inside too. what do i do to cool it off? i need an unconventional idea...something which would really blow his mind off. plz temme a way to go about it? i can't handle this anymore and would hate to cry and make it dramatic. plz suggest some ways which won't keep him angry any longer.....plzzzzz.......
2007-07-16 04:57:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
being sincere in apologizing will do. you need to grow up and admit that you're wrong for this is just a start of a thousand arguments in the future. take responsibility of your action and tell him how sorry you are.
2007-07-16 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you were in the wrong, approach him in a calm manner and sincerely apologize for your words/actions. Make sure to tell him why you are sorry, and if it has happened in the past, tell him that you will work on not letting it happen again. Also point out why you reacted the way you did, and that you apologize for hurting him
The next step to prevent this in the future would be to learn how to fight constructively. In any given fight, there is always a point of escalation between two people where they disagree on a matter and believe themselves to be right----the fight will escalate to a high point because both people will try to continue to prove that they are right, no matter what the cost. The key to a "successful" fight or argument is to understand where you two differ on your opinions, then try to resolve the issue at hand. Some things not to do are to not bring up anything from past arguements; you should also never attack the other person, but rather what they are saying or their opinion. Trying to remain calm is important by remembering that you both care about one another, you want to come to a resolution or a compromise, and that you do not want the fight to escalate beyond control. Once you two realize where the disagreement lies, you can talk it out in a civil manner and come to an agreement or a compromise. The outcome should always be a win-win situation in the sense that no one should walk away from the fight with a sense of defeat. You should both walk away feeling satisfied that both people's needs have been met.
2007-07-16 05:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Heart of Fire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him cool down. Write him a letter if you don't think he will listen to you.You didn't say what the argument was about..but next time remember that you don't joke around in ways that could hurt or irritate the other.you are a team and he's the most important person to you as you should be the most important to him. I'm so glad that you are mature enough to accept the blame. Most women would continue to pout and be stubborn until the anger was just covered over and not solved. You don't need an unconventional idea hon..just be mature and honest and humble and he should appreciate that.
2007-07-16 05:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon baby get the lighter
We're gonna start the fire
The army of words is in me
Silent the soldier weeps
Lying here back to back
Waiting for you to be react
Sometimes all I need is a good push
Roll over and whisper some goodness
Go on baby you be the hero
Now can we go back to zero
Go on and get the lighter
We're gonna need some fire
Let's get a little higher
The battlefield is tired
And why all that?
Go on baby and get the lighter
We're gonna start the fire
Just come here and cuddle up
I feel a little rough
I missed you in my sleep
Are you still mad at me?
The moon must have mended my bad mood
Come kiss me the way you're meant to
Last night I was just playing
Let's put it all away and
Go on baby and get the lighter
We're gonna start the fire
Go on baby and get the lighter
We're gonna start the fire
Climb in, love with me
Climb in and love me
Go on now baby you get it
Had quite a heavy night
So girl look it all up and bright
The most stubborn girl around
You really know how to bring me down
One more famous night to remember
Let's laugh at my silly temper
Now let's spend the morning sweetly
Get over here and complete me
2007-07-16 05:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him a long hug when he least expects it...even if he just stands there like a pole, hug him anyway. dont say anything, just let him feel that you love him and you're done fighting. If your husband dont melt with this gesture, then he's probably nonhuman. lol
if he pushes you back, hug him tighter..let him know that you wont let a petty fight ruin your marriage..and when he's already soft with you, talk about the whole thing..but dont be defensive or argumentative. let him say what he feels..and when it's your turn, explain your side.
dont worry about the fight; it just shows that you're a pretty normal couple. . i know it's sometimes hard for us to apologize, especially when we think we're right. But, somebody has to make a move, break the ice....then kiss and make up.
Dont waste your time crying, girl. The only thing that you'll get with crying are puffy eyes which, by the way, doesnt look really hot.
Goodluck!!
2007-07-16 05:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by t-rex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and have not been married that long. My advice to you is... you both took it too far, that happens, don't sweat it. Let him be mad and stew for a little bit. Don't ever beg for his forgiveness (unless you had an affair or something like that) Don't play on his anger. If you do play on it now, he will expect it all the time no matter who's fault it is. Tell him you are sorry for your part in this, but he also needs to be sorry for his part also.
2007-07-16 05:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he comes home from work have a steak dinner ready for him with a cold beer. Let him eat and then when you both are finished take him to the bedroom and show him how sorry you are since it appears to be too dificult to express it in words. Guaranteed he wont mention a single thing about the arguement.
2007-07-16 05:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by big daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. Have I been here and did this. Well, honestly, even if it is 'your fault' let him sulk. Just apologize (even if it appears he's not listening or doesnt want to, if he's not deaf, he will hear you whether he wants to or not), and let it go. If he truly loves you all will be forgiven. I know it sucks but remember that it does take 2 people to fight..doesnt matter who started it and why.
2007-07-16 05:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rev. Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unconventional? :
pass him an envelope over dinner containing a voucher you've made which simply states "this voucher entitles you to anything you please"
tell him you know you've been naughty once and you're willing to be naughty again to make up for it.
you never know if you're a really good girl you may get that voucher back.
good luck - don't push too hard next time, you have to pay lots more to get out of a second voucher!
2007-07-16 05:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Do something else that takes your mind off of the argument. All will be well. Arguments are natural. Don't stress out about it.
2007-07-16 05:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋