Lived in this valley for 7 years. Just a normal person. Although i'm not rich i take pride in how i look. I have a nice house and nice clothes. The rest are overweight wearing track suit bottoms and trainers to hide what they have. A town of subconscious overweight women. Most of them in bad relationships. Why is it that when i make a mistake they're all up in arms calling me names? Like they never did anything wrong in their lives? Why do they pick on me and make me feel like ****? What is wrong with taking pride in yourself? What is wrong with being a good person? What is wrong with caring about others? I did something bad last week and its spread around the whole town. One mistake is all it takes.
Is it jealousy or what? This has made me so damn unhappy its unreal. What is the ultimate vengeance for a town full of tracksuit bottoms and trainers?
And don't any of you even THINK of being cruel to me. I've had enough.
2007-07-16 04:53:11 · 30 answers · asked by ? 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
to tmazz. Did i get that right? I'm not a whore. If you think i am then you should be living here. My sentiments exactly. People like you are what makes things ****!!!
2007-07-16 05:05:27 · update #1
to tmazz. Did i get that right? I'm not a whore. If you think i am then you should be living here. My sentiments exactly. People like you are what makes things ****!!!
2007-07-16 05:08:57 · update #2
Because you take pride in how you look and have nice things, the people in your town (who clearly don't look nice or have anything nice) are jealous and have been waiting for you to slip up so they know you're not perfect - just like them.
2007-07-16 04:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Envy.
People of like stick together, more prevalent in small communities such as yours. Knowing they can get away with calling you names - only words remember - because they have people of like mind to back them up.
When they were calling you names was there one or more person there ?, the reason I ask is because it is quite unusual for a person to do this without some form of audience nearby.
People of this kind are very insecure, both with themselves and their lives (stuck in a rut) and feel power and superiority when belittling someone such as yourself.
Do not let them see that they have hurt or depressed you, always smile as you pass and keep your head held high and look your absolute best, as you have done nothing to warrant this abuse.
Ask youself, would you really want to associate with this type of person, I'm sure the answer would be a resounding NO.
So why do you care what they think, you are better than them.
Vengeance would only bring you down to their level and achieve nothing.
Keep taking pride in your appearance, house and life. That is what YOU are about.
A little story: I also live in a small town, two weeks ago I had friends visiting and they wanted to go to the pub for a drink at 5 o'clock (after I finished work) I don't drink alcohol as I have an intollerance, but I like non-alcoholic lager, we left at 6.30 and went across the road to the local chipper, I was carrying some beer home for them we came out and I tripped on the pavement landing smack on the side of my head, not only that but one of the cans cracked and sprayed beer on my jacket, I was stunned and disorientated and stank of beer, my friends were laughing until they realized I was concussed, they then brought me home, the next day it was all around the town how I was a raving alcoholic falling about the place in the middle of the day !!.
My point - people will believe what they want to, never mind what the truth is. Next week it will be someone elses turn.
2007-07-16 13:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lucia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read your 'statement' the first time and was 'confused by what I read, where you slipped from describing your 'taking pride in yourself, your house etc...' and then 'The rest are overweight track suited....'
'The rest' are who....? Those who live in your house?
Ok, I read on and it became clearer - the 2nd time of reading.
But, it 'feels' all so muddled where as if 'there are no boundaries between you and the rest of your world,' but then there are, because you are one side of the border while they on the other side, they are all taking potshots at you.
You make swingeing sweeping statements like > A town of subconscious overweight women. Most of them in bad relationships < which you know from how?
I'm curious as to what 'a subconscious ' woman is? and what if anything, does this have anything to do with their being 'over weight'?
You are clearly put upon, picked on and possibly the scapegoat for their troubles ...or is that how 'you see your self in the space you occupie?
It might be a good idea if you were to find someone you could confide in and who could help you maybe un-scramble some of the mess you seem to be in!
Sash.
2007-07-16 12:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, revenge is not sweet, and planning it consumes you with nasty feelings. You are going the right way to an early heart attack [or stroke] - bet your blood pressure is higher than it should be. Live and let live love, let the trackies do their own thing, and you do yours. Don't fall into the trap of catogorising people as plebs, ne'er-do-wells...... There's no shame in being fat - al lot of fat ppl would give their eye teeth to be slim.
How are the mighty fallen! Sounds like they see you as a stuck up person who needs taking down a peg or two so, yes, when you make a mistake they can't help smirking. Push the peace pipe around honey, let bygones be bygones, and be a member of your community. I bet there are some very nice people around you, if only you would take a step or two to meet them. Peace and good luck and may your God go with you.
2007-07-16 12:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility of moving to a new town? If that isn't possible then maybe looking for a different set of people to spend time with.
It probably isn't as bad as you think. Is it a small town? Do you have a group of friends who support you? If they don't then it's time to turn over a new leaf.
Life is what YOU make it. No one has control over how you live your life.
By the way, what was the mistake?
2007-07-16 12:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brilliant question....but what you need to do now is step back and calm down.
There's nothing at all wrong in trying to maintain your standards, but an unfortunate fact of life is that some people are only remembered for their mistakes. THAT is someone else's problem, not yours.
You're just going to have to live with it I'm afraid, but something else will crop up and become the next topic of gossip and tittle-tattle.
Try hard to develop a thicker skin and DNLTBGTY [do not let the ba****ds get to you.
2007-07-16 12:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pit Bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seem's to be when you are enjoying some success in life there are a people always looking to knock you down and even when things are going against you there are still people looking to kick you, these people you have mentioned are more than likely brainless idiots, i don't know what mistake you have supposedly made, but everyone is entitled to make at least one mistake, the truth is that you cannot win with small-minded people, i wouldn't even try. If you that unhappy can you not start over somewhere else?
2007-07-16 13:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by catalyist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.
Valley living must be like living in a village in the UK.
From what you write it certainly sounds like it.
Nothing wrong with you.
You don't have the problem, they do.
It's called jealousy and envy.
Next step is hard but do it and they''ll love you.
Act as if nothing has happened.
Even say Hi to the meanest person who you know has been saying nasty things about you.
Grit your teeth girl and do it.
When they realise you are taking no notice and so their gossip is insignificant, they will stop.
Trust me, I've been there and got the T-shirt.
2007-07-16 14:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw well people are so stuck up their own backsides to be quite frank if they do something wrong its ok but if u do something wrong they make a big deal out of it they just like the gossip and putting other people down makes them feel better.
I just been to see a member of my family who is 20 with a baby and a fiancee but cos she's not marrid shes going through the same kinda thing i think people are just such bastards sometimes and need to learn to forgive and help people rather than just shove it all in their faces- in the end of the day its all just bulling don't give a darn about what they say you know ur a nicer person anyway
2007-07-16 12:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can live your life and be happy with how your living it then nothing negative said by anyone should break you. Feel comfortable with yourself everyone make mistakes no matter how hard they try to cover them up, no one is perfect.
Never let words bring you down but let them uplift you dont give people the bad that they would want of you but rather prove them wong some people are just selfish and all for themselves.
2007-07-16 12:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by VANILLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn girl ,where do you live in unhappyville?first and foremost ,do you participate in any of the gossip when the shoe is on the other foot ?What do these ladies do sit ?around the whole day and discuss other people?there could be two solutions to your problem .1---if it is the community get the **** out ,nobody needs to live under such circumstances. 2---if you meet 3 or more assholes in one day---go home ,look in the mirror and ask yourself if there is one staring back at you.
2007-07-16 13:59:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋