Feeling of guilt, need advise?

Question

Everytime after doing masturbation, I get a guilt feeling. I feel I did something wrong. This remains till I don't get turned on next time.
My friends tell me its quite normal activity. I don't know why then I get these feelings ? Is this comman with everyone ? Should I stop it ?

Answer 1

i think at some point in our lives we all feel guilty for masturbating, but the reality of it is we shouldn't feel that way, it is after all, our body and to make ourselves feel good shouldn't be thought of as a bad thing....we are taught from a young age that touching ourselves in that mannor or doing so to others is wrong and we carry that with us as we grow...dont feel guilty about guys, this is the only time in your life when you can actually just enjoy the feeling , there are no worries of pleasing someone else because you are by yourself...it is pleasure that is solely for your enjoyment...

Answer 2

I used to feel the same way... The moment that the orgasm is over there was this incredible weight on my shoulders and I felt awful.
Truth is I figured out that I created that guilt (and in some cases, other factors will too, such as parents, church, whatever). So then it was a matter of convincing myself that it was perfectly normal, and I was carrying a bag of guilt bricks in vague.
My advice to you would be to accept that it's normal and you shouldn't feel guilty at all.

Answer 3

Depending on the belief system you grew up with, guilty feelings about masturbation and possibly other sexual activity could be triggered from the "morals" of the religion or societal expectation. I truly hope you can overcome this so that you can experience a healthy sex life. And yes, masturbation IS part of a healthy sex life.

Answer 4

i get that too

maby it's your conditioned reaction to that behaviour

like your body and emotions are telling you yes do it

but at the same time there's this voice in your head telling you thats bad or immoral.. or whatever message has been programmed into your subcontious mind. when you hear something enough your subcontious will absorbe the message without your concious awareness of where it is comeing from..


i have a similar problem and i'm gonna ask the same question too


from what i've said where can i go with this??

what actions should i take?

Answer 5

In a Christians world it is wrong to do. According them. It is natural and everyone (I mean everyone) does it. Don't feel guilty for doing something natural. Think of it this way... there are worse things you could be doing.

Answer 6

Personally, I don't feel guilt ... I feel lonely.

I can share with you my religious teachings that I found in a book called, "The Good News about Sex & Marriage" by Christopher West. Well, this quote makes sense to me, and helps me over the wide array of emotions I get.

" Q; 11. Most psychologist speak of masturbation as normal, healthy thing. They even indicate that it’s unhealthy not to masturbate. Why doesn’t the Church get with it?

A: We must realize that without the perspective of God’s plan in the beginning, and without understanding that Christ came into the world to restore that plan, we’ll inevitably be looking at our experience of sexual desire through the lens of our fallen humanity. From this perspective, masturbation does seem like a “normal” and even “healthy” thing.

It’s normal to be sexually aroused, right? It’s “normal” to want to “relieve” sexual tension, right? If you have an itch, you don’t just let it drive you crazy - you scratch it right? In fact, only the oddball would choose to endure the itch without scratching it, right? So it could actually be “unhealthy” to let sexual tension build up without “relieving” it, right?

There’s a certain logic here. In fact, it’s virtually impossible to understand why masturbation is wrong within this paradigm. What’s needed - not just to understand the masturbation issue but in order to understand the truth of sexuality and, in turn, the true meaning of love and life - is a complete paradigm shift.

We’ve inherited a worldview (modern rationalism) that’s closed in on itself. We’re all a bunch of omphaloskeptics (a fancy word for “navel-gazers”). We can’t see beyond the temporal and immanent to the eternal and transcendent.

We look at the stars, and rather than pondering the expansive grandeur of the Creator, we reduce the universe to mathematical equations. We encounter another body, and rather than seeing the revelation of a person made in the image and likeness of God, we see a thing to use and consume for our own gratification. We encounter the deep waters of sexual desire, and rather than seeing our call to share in the divine mystery by swimming in the pure waters of life-giving love with an “other,” we dive headfirst into our own shallow, stagnant swamp and get stuck in the sludge of self-indulgent isolation.

As we’ve noted, sex is symbolic. It’s meant to be an efficacious sign of God’s free, total, faithful, fruitful love. It’s meant to be a human participation in the divine Communion of Persons. Yes, sex is meant to point us beyond the stars to ultimate Reality - God.

Masturbation, however easy a habit it is to fall into only throws us back on ourselves. It exemplifies a worldview devoid of the transcendent otherness of God. It symbolizes self-pity, fear of abandoning oneself to another, and the utter sterility of isolation.

Such behavior speaks very pointedly about a person’s concept of his or her own sexuality and, in turn, about his or her whole person. It speaks of an anxiety toward self and others, an inner frustration with the truth of one’s own being, and an unwillingness or inability to make a sincere gift of self to another. The fantasy life that often accompanies masturbation speaks of a dissatisfaction with and withdrawal from reality."
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Sigmund Freud, the founder of modern psychoanalysis and an atheist, observed: "The abandonment of the reproductive function is the common feature of all perversions. We actually describe a sexual activity as perverse if it has given up the aim of reproduction and pursues the attainment of pleasure as an aim independent of it."

Answer 7

if you go at it obsessively then maybe you have a problem

if you're a teeanger knocking one out daily is fine - really.

that answerer with the christian lecture - OMG, **** me!!!!