Im nice to them...I dont think I've done anything wrong. But they keep saying to my boyfriend that im not right for him and that they dont like me.
2007-07-16 03:50:29 · 38 answers · asked by Helena a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't try to ingratiate yourself. be polite but distant but don't take an interest in them. be good to your boyfriend and hold your head up high. give it time.
2007-07-16 03:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Express this to your boyfriend (if you haven't already). Maybe he knows the exact reason (besides the "your not right for him") and ask him to be HONEST. Then, If he is worth staying with...make a plan, together, on how you can approach the family (together) on the "why they don't like you". If you two and his family can come to an agreement to get along, then your good to go. If not, decide, together, that you will be together without any outside interference and let the family know that too (nicely and firmly). Explain to the family that not everyone is expected to have to like you, but please be kind to each other. Besides your with him to make him and yourself happy, NOT to make his family happy. Often a family feels they have "lost control" of a member if that member steps outside, on their own, to catch a mate. Jealousy is another.
2007-07-16 04:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by kys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing is up with me my fiance and i have been together since high school we have a 4 year old son together his parents dipise me why ?? i have no idea but you knwo what it doesnt matter i am who i am and i will not change i am not with them i am with thier son i am here to please them nothim .. i think they dont liek me cause im white * he is hispanic* or because i had a child out of wedlock . but if they are really christian liek they say then hey wouldnt dislike me the way they do they will not meet our son either cause he is white his mother wants a dna test LOL which is hilarious cause he looks exactley liek him but he is my skin tone .. anyways dont fret it they are the ones making teh mistakes dont prentend around them it will only get worse just stay away and repect they cant nab you on anything .
Good luck sweets
2007-07-16 04:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to worry about them, worry about your relationship with ur bf. Make them realize with time that you are right for each other., Im sure later they will begin to like you and they will get to know the real you. Hey, as long as ure happy with the guy ur with and everything is going well between you two, THEY R THE ONES MISSING OUT ON AN AWESOME NEW FAMILY MEMBER!!!
good luck with everything!
djc
2007-07-16 03:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by djc07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see. You are different to them, and that makes
them feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you should
continue, to be respectable in the relationship, no
matter what. It may take some time, for them to
get used to you, but thet will. Communication
would help, too. With the family members that is.
And try to find as much common ground with your
boyfriend as possible.
2007-07-16 04:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a big difference regardin your social status? Family matters a lot for some people, and sometimes they can kill your relashionship. If you really love each other, try to go over this problem. I know some similar situations that ended up with a happy end, and some that didn't.
Good luck!
2007-07-16 03:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by nistor_codrut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. You just have to trust that your boyfriend will not listen. He should put a stop to it. If things work out for you two and you stay together for a long time, they will eventually get over it. But get used to it. Most people have problems with their in-laws.
2007-07-16 03:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make them some panecakes
Plain Griddle Cakes (pancakes from scratch)
sift:
one cup flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
one-quarter teaspoon salt (not needed)
beat and add:
one egg (optional)
add:
1 cup milk (scant)
stir gradually to make smooth
add:
1 teaspoon melted butter or oil
cook in a hot frying pan, flip pancakes when they bubble, to brown the other side.
Serve with Vermont maple syrup.
These pancakes are sure to be tasty -- if you're watching your sodium intake, you can make them without salt and baking powder, which also contains sodium (as does milk), and they'll probably still be pretty good. We never add salt to anything, but when we omitted the baking powder the pancakes came out a little bit on the glue-ey side
2007-07-16 03:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dodger 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I come from a family where my parents have never liked my boyfriends and unfortunately they never changed their opinion. It will start to affect your relationship unfortunately. It really depends on how you feel about him and how he is reacting to what they are saying. Try and enjoy your relationship but ultimately they will have an impact on your relationship as my parents did on all of my past relationships. Good Luck x
2007-07-16 04:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by samba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid them - and just be alone with your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend keeps telling you then don't like you, get a new boyfriend. Life's too short for that kind of treatment.
2007-07-16 03:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. If they don't like you and you haven't done anything to them, then anything you do is not going to make them like you more. You should continue to be yourself and ask your boyfriend to not tell you the rude comments his family makes about you or your relationship.
2007-07-16 03:53:12 · answer #11 · answered by BeachBABE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋