I have a hard time trusting....i need help???

Question

I have a hard time trusting people! Men in general because of my past! Its not even from other relationships its people i were close to hurt me really bad! I just need to learn to trust him because its playing a part in our relationship! What should i do!! I love him with all my heart!

Answer 1

Frist off loving someone with all your heart is just a nice chiche' saying we tell ourselves so we can feel sercure with the level of love we have, little do we know its about appling that love, not just having love.... ether way your dealing with that right now because your not truly loving your man. Love is a matter of acceptance, not just some nice warm feeling we get, its job is to allow us to accept, understand, and embrace (trust right there buddy) the object of our desire. See your dealing with an inability to open up enough to yourself about your past to move past it so to speck which really just means you havn't learned anything from it. I can tell by the way you generalize your mistrust with men still that you see us human beings as being of two distinct varities which is a sign of maturity. You need to understand frist off were all individuals and that unfornuntly all the bad past you have is from you not praticing a little hindsight and seeing were you failed yourself. Just realize these two things, one that friends make the best lovers, but lovers can never make good friends, and inorder for a relationship to grow you must have both. And that there is plenty of horriable people out there, we can't blame them of our mistakes, its up to us to keep them away from what matters and not let them in, its one of the best social survival techniques out there to be able to read people. Let me, let you, on the biggest secert for it, Purpose. You look at what a persons purpose is and you'll know who they are without you there. So realize if you find someone whose purpose it is, is to get laid by big breasted woman, chances are your never going to turn him into a husban. Same if you find someone whose purpose it is, is to understand and embrace life, protect what he loves, and to allow everything he cares about to grow, well that might just be a husban for you. Another hint to, stay away from Gees or anyone who like thug culture, its about playin games, getting laid, and making money, not love.