too young to get married?

Question

Although these answers will not change my opinion, I just wanted to see what others thought.
I am 18, my boyfriend is 20. He hasn't proposed yet but we have been together for 3 years and have started planning our wedding. We are both very excited...
We even have the date picked out (for 2009)

I know to most people, 20 years old sounds too young for someone to get married but I would like to know other peoples opinions. Please remember that we have been together for 3 years already...and we've been through it ALL (trust me..)

Thanks! :)

Some people think that it's hilarious that I think we have been through it all together. Obviously "hun" you don't know me or the situations we have been delt. If you are going to patronize me, don't bother leaving me an answer. That's not what I'm looking for. I was simply looking for opinions, not to be laughed at. Once you have lived a day in MY life, you have the right to laugh. Until then, please keep your mouth shut and don't bother to answer my questions. Please don't think that you are better than me because you are older, because that is simply NOT true.
Thank you.

Answer 1

I don't think there is any thing wrong with this at all, expecially if the two of you have been together that long, My little bro will be that age when he gets married, about 20/21 or so, he has proposed to his girlfriend, they are 17/18 and have been together for about a year or two or so now.....and me and my fiance well he is older, but im only 21 wev been togeather for two years and are gunna be married soon.

Answer 2

I think you need to think long and hard when you say you have been "through it all." If you are 18, you have probably just finished high school. You haven't ventured into college yet, or tried to start on your career. I have seen college change a lot of people, including myself. Do you live together? That can also show people's true colors. Have you discussed how you would like to raise children if you one day have them?
The problem I see with people getting married young is that they have not experienced anything for themselves yet. I think the marriages that are stronger are between people who have been given a chance to find themselves before diving into something with another person. How many relationships have you had? I am 24, and a completely different person than I was when I was 18, and even 20. This isn't a bad thing. But you have to make sure you choose a partner who wants the same things out of life as you, and who is also going to be able to accept the changes you make for yourself in your own life. No matter what you say or think, as you get older and mature more through experiences, you will become a different person than you are now.
Plus, if you think you are going to be with him forever, why rush into marriage anyway? Wait until you are established, have a career and are able to purchase a home before you dive into a life long commitment. You are only 18...you have the rest of your life to get married.

Answer 3

Trust me you haven't been through it all. If you won't take advice what was the point of asking this question? People change so much in a few years and so will both of you. Have you discussed your Life Goals? Children? Lifestyle? Career?
What would be the harm in waiting a bit more and getting established with a career first? 20 is too young, you have a whole life to lead and right now you don't even know how many doors will open and close in your life.

Answer 4

You may think you have been through it all, but you haven't....not yet. With it being such a young age when you two first got together, neither of you have been through your single partying stages yet. And things may change when he does turn 21. Take it slow and see how or if he changes. It is kinda hard to say when neither of you have had the experiences yet. But if you are lucky nothing will change and you will remain happy. I was with my ex for 6 years before we got married, and everything changed when we did. Just be sure.

Answer 5

If you have no intention of listening to anyone's answers, why are you asking a question?

Not that you care, but statistics have shown time and time again that couples who get married that young have a much higher divorce rate than those who wait. It has to do with maturity and experience - perhaps the same type of maturity that leads people to consider what others have to say rather than deciding up front that nothing anyone says will ever sway their opinion...

Answer 6

18 and 20 and you have been through it ALL, oh baby do not make me laugh Trust me you ain't seen nothing yet. Just by saying that you prove you are too young for marriage but then again go ahead and get married and find out what it really means to have been through it ALL. Best laugh I had all day. Dream on honey, dream on for all of us.

Answer 7

My advice to you would be to wait. And that's just because I've been there. It's not easy. My bf and I dated for 4 years before we got married (at 20!) and the first three years were very hard. Now our relationship is stronger than ever and we love each other more than we thought possible but it was very VERY hard at first. Good luck!!

Answer 8

If you live in America, and do not have jobs with steady incomes. You are 90% likely to get a divorce.

In America as a whole, however, as everyone knows, the divorce rate is 51%.

If you are in love and feel that exploration will not be a significant temptation, then money is your next issue.

Answer 9

I dont' see why not. If you're both mature enough to handle a marriage and everything that comes with it than go for it. It's not as much an age thing so much as a maturity thing. People wait unitl they're in their 30's to get married and end up divorced cause they couldn't handle it. Then people like my parents get marrie (they were 18&19) and they just celebrated their 28th wedding anniversary. So, it's really up to the people. Good Luck and congratulations!

Answer 10

I would have married at 20 but i just didnt work out. So, i say go for it ONLY if you have a strong financial plan and wait a while to have kids. It could be costly if you dont. Good luck!