Having affair with best friends wife?

Question

I know this topic has been here billion times. But I just wanted to know your comments about my situation.
Me having an affair with my best friends wife since 10 months
as they moved near to my house. She has on 4 yr old girl.
To be honest I use to fantasy her everyday before we came close.And it was she who made the very first step.I believe the only first attraction is between an affair is sex and then which turns out to be so called love provided you like the person also.

Now she wants to concieve very badly & very much frustated at this situation. And she doesnt wants to have sex with me unless she gets pregnant and may be during the entire pregnancy. She says the child in her stomach wont be pure while having sex with 2 men( me & her husband)

And Iam very frustated at this moment as I cannot have sex with her. And I feel the love level has also gone down.She doesnt gets those urges to meet me or see me what she used to have a month ago.So I feel maybe she doesnt luv me anymore

And the most important part which i forgot to mention is that her husband is cheating on her as well. He has taken an separate appartment for his fillipino gf. Now it is very difficult for me to tell her in this situation where she is trying to conceive.
Cause she has asked me many times ..is my husband having an affair outside..Pls tell me... And I also know if I tell her and will result in a divorce for sure.. and which I feel she would force me to marry her later...
I really get pissed off many times when i see them together or showing fake relationship love toward each other in front of public or in parties.. and in that very same situation I cannot bed with her now..I am very very distrubed in this bitchy situation...

I want to tell her ?.....I dont want to tell her ?... Shes lost interest in me ? Or what.. Will really go mad. Need an excellent advise from the experienced....

I am married , blessed with 2 kids..

Answer 1

So you choreograph all kinds of deceit and lies and now that this woman you claim you love doesn't want to have sex you have a problem with that?

You're a lousy excuse for a best friend, and you're a worse excuse for a man.

She's as bad as you are. People like you ruin love and commitment and loyalty and ethics just by breathing. Why don't you just go away and live in a hole. You're a sneaking, conniving dirtbag.

I feel so sorry for that kid and the best friend....totally unaware that the two people he *should* be able to trust is screwing him over royally and making an huge fool out of him. Must make you so proud.

Answer 2

She's probably thinking that if she married you, then clearly you have *something* she was attracted to, she's likely happy with you, and would've told her best friend *tons* of details about your relationship. If anyone could understand wanting you, wouldn't it be your wife? She did cut the friend off a while, now she probably feels the line's been drawn and the problem solved. Clearly she trusts that you wouldn't let anything happen, so why lose the friend? Especially if they've been friends for a long time and this was the only screw-up in their friendship. I can see where you'd possibly feel resentment about this, but I can also see why your wife wouldn't feel it's something that can't be worked through between herself & her friend. If it's going to cause resentment between YOU & your wife, I'd say bring it up sooner than later because it's very possible she has no idea this is an issue for you. Best luck! =o)

Answer 3

Wow, you need some mental health assistance, figure out why you would put yourself into a situation with your best friends girl. And considering making a child with her. What are you thinking? You need to move on and get a clue, find someone who is available for a relationship. Why would you want life time ties to a female who is cheating on her significant other with his best friend and trying to produce a child. How selfish, of her and you should think more of yourself and your friendship with your best friend. Wow, if this is how your treat your best friend, I can only imagine what you would do to someone you dont like. What a friend. God bless****

Answer 4

Your not a friend of anyone for doing this, who cares who made the first move you're still responsible for your actions. She never loved you in the first place it was lust nothing more and now she is wanting to be with her husband and have another child. She probably feels ashmed for sleeping with you in the first place and doesn't know how to end it.
My advice is to find another woman and leave them alone.

Answer 5

This is a HORRIBLE situation and absolutely NOTHING good can come out of it.

Your marriage will be ruined.
Her marriage will be ruined.
Your friendship is over.
And she wants to bring a child into all of this???

Stop and think for a while about the consequences. Watch a few Lifetime movies some Saturday afternoon.

I repeat: NOTHING good can come out of this situation.

Answer 6

You are as low as they come! My first wife cheated on me with my former so called best friend. We divorced, they married. My, then 5 year old daughter, can't understand it all. This is so wrong on so many different levels. --- What it is is selfishness. You care nothing about anyone but yourself and she is the same way. Truthfully, you two deserve each other. The husband and the child deserve better! Watch out for Karma............... It's a b*tch!

Answer 7

You really need to step back from this entire situation and see how things shake out. It seems the only person that knows what they want is you and you're the one getting hurt in this.

Answer 8

You should not be frustrated with her, as both of you guys are doing wrong, not only are you deceiving your best friend, but you are also hurting him, and potentially going to ruin a young child's life, and possibly two children's lives, you should not even be having sex with this woman, get your own woman to please you, and stop stealing other men's girlfriends. Leave her alone, she doesn't love you, she is just horny.

Answer 9

Let her and her husband concieve together. Leave her alone and find another woman better for you. She just likes the attention you give her. Isn't she sleeping with you and her husband right now anyway???That's im-pure if you ask me.
Please move on for ur own sake.

Answer 10

you are both scum bags and you are the worst "best friend" I've heard of in a long time. You never sleep with a friends girl or ex. That is one of the first man laws in existence ( unless your friend wants you to of course)