Men pls, Why Did you have an emotional affair?

Question

Did you let it turn into a full blown affair? Does your wife know? How did it resolve?

Answer 1

I didn't, I wouldn't, I couldn't.

Don't you love your wife??? If you do you had better start showing her and stop with the flirtations.

Answer 2

when i was younger, i had a physical affair, it was the worst feeling of guilt i have ever had, it broke us up. i had a son when i was in college with a gf, so now she is in my life forever. down the road, i later met someone else, and got married. she thought i was having an emotional affair with my ex. i honestly wasnt. i have to keep contact about our son, and when we would talk that is what it would be all about. but i could see the drain it put on her believing it. no matter how hard i tried she didnt believe me. there was nothing i could do, i tried. but she was insecure, and i could no longer keep up with the hassle. so it was over.

Answer 3

My wife was angry at me and distant due to a couple of sexual mistakes on my part long in the past. One was a single ******** I received from a neighbor woman. Another was a indecent exposure that resulted in my arrest and court ordered professional counselling for 6 months. My sexual behavior has never been totally restricted to my marriage as my wife has never wanted to participate in many of the sexual things that I wanted to do.

She would go along with a little public nudity, very little. She would go along with some porn, but very little.

She would do oral but not very well. She would maybe once a year be naked around the house or in the yard.

She would never be naked in the car or go to a nude beach.

I never wanted to bring any one else into the marriage, but did want to dabble in these other avenues.

Any that gives some background to her being distent, I suppose. She got quite rude to me on a daily basis. So I started to seriously doubt that I had made the best decision in chosing her as my wife.

I did have one other serious consideration from high school and had the oportunity to contact her after 30 years since I last talked to her, so did and then went to see her as part of a business trip. I kept my wife informed to some extent ahead of time, (but just) in broad strokes. She got very angry and almost moved out with our furniture and two sons while I was away on this 5 day business trip. (At least that is what she said.) She routinely lies to me. Always has and continues to daily by keeping secrets about our sons and her mother etc from me.

I cut off the emotional affair with my ex gf (never did more with my ex gf even when we were dating than kissing) after about 1 year and it never was physical or serious as my ex gf was happily married with three daughters and loved her life as it was.

We just enjoyed keeping in touch and talking about the good old days and our current lives with a bit of flirting even though that part was on mutual decision quickly reduced to a very low level.

I might still give her a call or send an email. She did stop by and see me while she was in town and introduced her husband, but my wife never knew about that visit. She and I still are in love, but just no future in it at this time.

I decided she was not the one for me after all mainly becuase of philosophical differences now that were not present when we dated, but sometimes I still wonder.

I think all of that should be forgiven (now 6 years later) if my wife wants to go forward and have a happy life together, but she refuses to let it go. So I still dabble in sexual fun outside of marriage without any personal involvement with anyone else, very light porn, daily masturbation and Y/A sexual discussion as much as Y/A allows.

My wife participates in sex with me only once a month and only during some months. But she is constantly subversive to our relationship in many ways on a day to day basis. She just is not cooperative with me as we carry out our normal business.

She has manipulated my two sons so that they stay much closer to her than to me, which is hurts me every day of my life. And there are many dishonest ways that she is very rude to me. She has taken as much as one full year of my salary away from our household budget over the past 9 years and refuses to explain where it went.

To answer your questions succinctly. It did not turn into any more than very platonic occasional contact, like less than once a year. At the hottest it was only mild discussions of current sexual practices when some tension in the air.

My wife knows. She has talked to my ex gf and her husband and warned them to cease all contact.

My ex gf and I decided to cool it for a variety of reasons including my wife. But my ex gf and I may talk once or twice some years just to catch up in a platonic way with our lives. We still are friends.

Answer 4

I didn't. It was purely for the sex. Why? because it was fun and good and I enjoyed myself.

Answer 5

"toosense" sounds like one fuked up individual.