How can i avoid divorce ?

Question

I am on the brink of divorce with my wife. Problem is I still love her and she too does, but her pain is heavier on her love, which she has ceased to express. We had some problems in the past, but not that big to separate, however one day in anger i said her to leave my home and i dont want to see her ever again. Since then the things have gone on a bottomwards and show no signs of improvement. I need to get her back and avoid the separation, however she has stopped talking or repplying my mails. Please help.

Answer 1

Sam, true love never fails and u talk to her from ur heart and everything will be ok. I am sure u two with live together a happy life.

All the best.

Answer 2

Ahhhhhh yes,, again, matters of the heart,,, perhaps the most complicated of all that we humans have to deal with. Never regret how you feel for her or for that matter anyone, especially when they have touched your heart and it is clear that she has done that to you and you to him. I am not sure what you mean she is keeping her distance from you. Perhaps she is thinking the same you are thinking only she has acted on it by believing that you two have a slim to none chance of being together. In this case, I suggest follow your heart. Stay in touch with her, talk to her and tell her how you feel. Once in a while surprise her with a small gift, does not have to be expensive token to let her know that she is on your mind and that the distance between you will not change how you feel about her. In the morning, once in a while txt her "good morning" and wish her a nice day. At night once in a while txt her good night and wish her well. Again, it is clear that she is in your heart and while you may tell yourself that she is gone and you should try to forget her, your heart won't listen. If that is the case then you love her more than you know. If she loves you she will answer you. an honest sincere good person does not just look for physical, smiles, money in a person. A good trusting, is forgiving as in your case, is a caring person wants and desires more than materialistic things and looks. Such a person seeks to maintain something deeper than the heart of another person. You really search for the other person's soul. The part that you say "I need to get back and avoid the separation" tells me a lot about you and that you value your marriage. I am like you, a man and recently divorced and for over 18 years I tried to make it work and believe me, I understand how you feel. I suggest don't stop letting know her how I feel and once in a while a surprise her with something unique, Time will pass and you can say that each day is closer to being together again instead of feeling sad. So don't quit on her and yourself, let her know that you love her and just by telling her but most of all by doing things, little things that show her that you care about her and that she is on your mind. Never regret love and purposely try to wipe it away. Yes it hurts so much sometimes but you also know it is the greatest feeling you can possibly have. God bless you and her regardless of your destiny. Express your love for her until she clearly lets you know she has another. Until that time, don't stop. True love will test your patience and time.

Answer 3

hi ...

I think you have done a big mistake in the first instance.

I think you should be meeting her in person. This is a crucial stage for a relationship.

I can understand your situation. Its very hard to part with the partner whom you love more than anything.

I suggest you meet her in person and dont tell her that you will be meeting her. Just surprise her.

I hope you Know her Zodiac.

Read about the characteristics of the women under her zodiac. Then probably you can get a solution to the ways of getting her back (learning about her weaknesses or strengths).

If possible involve your and her parents for the discussion (Last alternative... sometimes might work well). Or even her close friend or close associate (A relative or cousin).

But it will happen only if you can make her feel that you have realised your mistake and are regretting for the same.

You will definitely be lucky with Good will and Strong Positive attitude.

All the Best for those happy memorable moments in your life.

Answer 4

There's some great books on this subject. You may want to read books by John Gottman (especially Seven Principles of a Happy Marriage) or Divorce Busting by Michelle Weiner Davis (I believe that's her name). You may also want to go to marriage counseling. In general, try to take breaks when discussion gets too heated. Also try your best to disagree without blaming or criticizing the other person. Think about what you can and can't compromise about and make the areas that you can compromise about as large as possible. I wish you all the best!

Answer 5

U were childish while treating her as your wife. Both of u must apologize to each other & follow good religious principles to live in peace & harmony. Both take oath that such things will never be repeated. Past is dead like history . Be positive, cool, sweet , soft sincere & tolerant in words & actions both while interacting with her otherwise u do not deserve to be a good husband. She is not like your ordinary friend rather your WIFE, much more than just a friend. Wife is the most beautiful living gift provided by God to u. If u don't care her the way u should, God sends series of troubles to careless men. Most of ladies are emotional & delicate too. Take special care while dealing with her. Improve your people dealing. Love her as much as u can as if u have married her today itself. Have sex daily as much as u can to please her as much as possible & see the difference in your lifestyle. Never overburden her in works. Share in her works too otherwise she will think that u don't love her the way she deserve. Go for sightseeings frequently at least once a week to places of solitude where she can tell what is there in her soft heart. Try to listen the interior of her heart too otherwise what kind of real principled husband u r . Good luck.

Answer 6

speaking from experience love doesn't conquer everything. words do hurt and even though we all say things in the heat of the moment sometimes we don't get a chance to take it back. sometimes we say what we really mean even when we aren't sure we mean it, ya know. is it possible that the only reason you are worried about getting her back is that you are scared of being alone? maybe that's what's she's worried you're apology is about. if you really want her back then all you can do is try, but you have to be careful not to crowd her or force her to see things your way. she has a right to be hurt and angry and maybe she saw something in you that she's asking herself the question of whether you are the person she thought you were. evrything happens for a reason and you have to live with the actions and words you put out in the world. hurting the people you claim to love doesn' t really sound like love to me, but I do understand saying things in anger. just give her time to figure out her head and heart, you seem to have taken the time to do that

Answer 7

When you say something that hurtful, you need to realize there are going to be serious consequences. You said she was already in pain about things, consider how she feels after hearing you tell her to leave "your" house and you never want to see her again. I don't think anyone out there would blame her for not speaking with you now. If your words were said in the heat of anger, you should try to tell her that. It sounds like you want her to be around when you feel like it, and be gone when the mood strikes you. Just put yourself in her shoes.

Answer 8

hey im not that mature but i know forsure as i have attended alot of courses on how to forge relationship with parrents XD i hope you dont find my answer lame but listen up
Do's: when your wife ask you a question just try to get deeper into the topic and when u find that shes confortable with it, you can talk about other stuff and to end it all of,i think you shud ask her out^^

DONTS!: DO NOT I repeat DO NOT! answer 1 syllable answers it feels like your not interested in the topic that she started and + if you do that to much, She may get even more pissed

ooh yea before all of the crap which i said, PLEASE! bring down your ego if u have any just strip it all of and say that you know that you have been a jerk in the past and what now and hope that she can forgive you ^^ best of luck!

Answer 9

Hey, you told her to leave - and she did! You should have tried to work things out before they escalated into you kicking her out. If she won't talk to you, or reply to your e-mails, then you can assume that she's finished with the relationship and you both need to move on.

You're only other hope would be for you to go where she is and speak with her face to face so that you can apologize and express your love and desire to be with her in the future.

I wish you well!

Answer 10

Take her for a picnic and spend three full days with her, without ta liking about the past and assure her that you will be new husband and she will be a new wife and come to a contract like agreement and pour out your complete feelings and allow her to speak like that . Problem will be over. She will be yours for ever and you will be hers for ever. All the best Yours VRVRAO